Age difference of fiance to fiancee?

[LSnBigBear 61]

Newbie here to the site but not to the Phils. Have been living/going there once a month for about 4 years now, good job for that.. I have known my fiancee for about 2 years through a friend of mines wife and we have been in a serios relationship for 1 year. I'm 40 and my fiancee is 19.. Funny story, I was in her province last week going through all the paperwork and having her write out her own intent to Marry doc. When I looked at her Birth Certificate, her father was 67 years old and her mother was 29 years old at the time she 2was born and they weren't married. I knew this but it didn't register until I seen it on paper. Point is, it's a cultural thing that only we as a part of this culture understand. I have had discussions with my friends here in the states, with their wives looking at me like I'm dating their 19 year old daughter, haha. Interesting discussions!!!

Were in love and don't care about age, her mother loves me and the idea, my parents love her and the idea, my 1 of 2 kids has met her and they both like the idea, I could give a SH^& what anyone else thinks... Live life like you want to as it can be gone tomorrow. Peace to all and thankful I found this site. Sending in my 129F packet next week. Look forward to the process and the support from the site.

Amen Brother. Congratulations! Love it!~

[southcalhog 43]

Newbie here to the site but not to the Phils. Have been living/going there once a month for about 4 years now, good job for that.. I have known my fiancee for about 2 years through a friend of mines wife and we have been in a serios relationship for 1 year. I'm 40 and my fiancee is 19.. Funny story, I was in her province last week going through all the paperwork and having her write out her own intent to Marry doc. When I looked at her Birth Certificate, her father was 67 years old and her mother was 29 years old at the time she 2was born and they weren't married. I knew this but it didn't register until I seen it on paper. Point is, it's a cultural thing that only we as a part of this culture understand. I have had discussions with my friends here in the states, with their wives looking at me like I'm dating their 19 year old daughter, haha. Interesting discussions!!!

Were in love and don't care about age, her mother loves me and the idea, my parents love her and the idea, my 1 of 2 kids has met her and they both like the idea, I could give a SH^& what anyone else thinks... Live life like you want to as it can be gone tomorrow. Peace to all and thankful I found this site. Sending in my 129F packet next week. Look forward to the process and the support from the site.

[adiiann 163]

I like this topic. I lived in Cebu City area for 5 years on business assignment. Our story quickly (i hope) I first fell in love with many filipinas or so I thought in 5 years. I even dated an Attorney that was just 10 years my younger. I met my fiancee the old fashion way,,,,, got drunk and had SML courage (San Miguel Light). She was at my local Ex Pat Bar for the first time to watch the band of which her roomate was dating the English band member. They were not allowed to be there alone so they had her roomates mother as escort. Kinda like old Philippines before internet where good woman always had a family member as escort. Well I asked her out and next day I met her at Jollibee (fastfood). When she walked up I swear she looked 13 years old. I asked her right away her age and ID. Kinda hubog (drunk) the night before forced me not to remember what she looked like.

I was caught up with age difference and kept her at arms lenght for the last 6 months I was there. We were very close but I never let her move in with me. She stayed nights with me but once again I was concerned as she was 23 and I am 45. Well I got back to USA and saw many couples now with larger age gap. My niece is dating her former 8th grade teacher (how weird is that). He is 61 and she is 20. My love for Carmela is greater then answering why her two son's are 3 and 5 years older then her and she now has a 2 year old Granddaughter. She is a now a Lola too. lol.

Love does not know age. I tried "not" to love her because I feared the age gap and her being 4'11" 88 pounds and me 6'1 and 300 "what would people think". What this has forced me to do is stop drinking as I worked out all the time but could not lose weight because of BEER>>> Now I have lost weight, feel great as being with a woman 22 years my younger I will need some energy..... I love this feeling. We will file her K1 by end of March as I am starting a new job mid February.

Those that will have problems with our age difference are probably bitter older couples that the wife wrinkles her nose up and her husband thinks "what a lucky guy. Atta boy" lol...

As for more on the topic. Men going to Philippines for love do this because they want a good person nothing like the ex wife they had before. Even in the Philippines you will see local couples now with age gaps. Filipinas often believe that an older man is now settled down and loyal to her. That is all the women there want is love and commitment. They are jealous too.... All this above is why age does not matter there or anywhere in the world now. And oh BTW. My oldest sister was married to a doctor that is 93 now and she is 65.

Age does not matter if it is true love... Sorry this was so long. I got going lol

I don't judge age gap, it's not the years that matters on my point of view on age gap but the experience. For example, if a 35 yrs old woman have relationship with 75 yrs old man, in my point of view it's okay because the maturity and experiences of the woman to handle life matters. But an 18 yrs old woman have relationship with 38 yrs old man, in my point of view is kinda questionable because basically her life would be dependent on the older partner since she is just starting to learn what's the difference between reality and fantasy. Yes, I agree that maturity is not all about how old you are, but years of life experiences give you more knowledge to distinguish the reality from fantasy, and avoid you of making mistakes that you will regret in your later life. "Ika nga nila, 'huwag mong pitasin ang prutas na hindi pa hinog kasi minsan ang hinog-sa-pilit ay madaling masira'"

Just saying...

[actob99 156]

Sort of an interesting read.

http://www.filipinawives.com/AgeDifferences.htm

Sort of since sort of the information was there and needing to pay for the rest of the information from the opinion of one person.....

[actob99 156]

Sort of since sort of the information was there and needing to pay for the rest of the information from the opinion of one person.....

HAha, that didn't come out right. Good link, interesting!!!!

[skidivawannabe 2]

To those who filed k-1, what is the average age difference of a fiance to a fiancee? Is it a matter of desperation for such young girls to marry old guys? Is it for love or money?

Is it just me being paranoid or this question mildly condescending???

The mere use of the word "desperation".

I'm not gonna say NOT everyone who seeks out an older/younger partner is desperate for something (money, physical pleasure, etc) because the truth is, I'm sure there is someone in this forum who (not necessarily Filipino) wanted to move to the U.S for a "better life" (little did they know it's actually worse in the U.S now...LOL) But to assume that people who file from the Philippines (it is posted in the Philippine forum) is desperate is downright...BOBO

If they hooked up for love, then well and good.

If they hooked up to seek greener pastures, it's not really anyone else's problem. It's just another Playboy Bunny relationship with Hugh Hefner, only cross continental. Ha ha ha.

[Hank_ 9,174]

Yes it leans towards condescending, some people I guess are of the thinking that love only happens if you are the same age...

Even if two people are the same age their reasons for marriage are no different the those with an age gap. And yes one of them could be looking to take advantage of the other for their own personal gain... similar ages doesn't make a relationship immune to this.

[LSnBigBear 61]

I have lived in the Philippines on and off for 5 years. When I returned to USA first time in 2007 I lived in south Atlanta. When I went to my local sportsbar few women paid this 45 year old much attention "UNTIL" they noticed I paid mostly with my American Express Platnum card. I suddenly transformed into a 25 year old Fabio as women ages 22-62 became interested in me.. Moral of the story, American women are no different then any other women in the world. I am no fool so I played along and had a 26 year old girlfriend for a while. Just stating the obvious. Love is love and lust is lust. I will happily take my chances with my filipina fiancee.

[skidivawannabe 2]

Yes it leans towards condescending, some people I guess are of the thinking that love only happens if you are the same age...

Even if two people are the same age their reasons for marriage are no different the those with an age gap. And yes one of them could be looking to take advantage of the other for their own personal gain... similar ages doesn't make a relationship immune to this.

First couple I thought of was Kris Humphries and Kim Kardashian LOL

[LSnBigBear 61]

First couple I thought of was Kris Humphries and Kim Kardashian LOL

Not sure if I mentioned in my prior posts but my brother is 48 and his lady friend is 61. My niece is a Junior in college age 20 and has been dating her junior high teacher who is around 60 I think. Can't say her parents were happy with her choice at the time but after 2 years they are still happily together. I see nothing weird in this day and age Live, Love and be Happy!

[southcalhog 43]

Yes it leans towards condescending, some people I guess are of the thinking that love only happens if you are the same age...

Even if two people are the same age their reasons for marriage are no different the those with an age gap. And yes one of them could be looking to take advantage of the other for their own personal gain... similar ages doesn't make a relationship immune to this.

True That!! :thumbs:

[Hank_ 9,174]

First couple I thought of was Kris Humphries and Kim Kardashian LOL

Ya how long did that one last? Long enough to get her name in the paper again...

[rlogan 2,036]

Is it just me being paranoid or this question mildly condescending???

The mere use of the word "desperation".

Not mildly condescending - but positively reeking of it, and resting upon one of the stupidest premises on earth: you are not allowed to love the person who provides for you. Instead, you can only love someone who is a financial burden upon you: a bum.

The deception involved is pretending your wife is a prostitute if she seeks security for herself and her children in a husband. It says a lot about someone that makes these kinds of accusations: we are counseled to avoid nasty, manipulative people. Do not choose them as friends. Do not choose them as work associates. Most of all, do not choose them as a spouse.

Pity the person who marries someone with such a nasty mouth. You only have to read nasty comments. But they have to live with them.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

yet statistics show that older men tend to live longer married to younger wives.... hmmm

And the ones that don't look like this when they die....

[southcalhog 43]

And the ones that don't look like this when they die....

:rofl: