Age difference of fiance to fiancee?

[Ron and Rhea 42]

The best defense is a good offense....if the woman is over 18 and the guy is over, or WAY over 18, who the hell's business is it....? NOBODY'S....I still believe it's hate, jealously or some other deep rooted internal issue, lol.

[southcalhog 43]

The best defense is a good offense....if the woman is over 18 and the guy is over, or WAY over 18, who the hell's business is it....? NOBODY'S....I still believe it's hate, jealously or some other deep rooted internal issue, lol.

:thumbs:

[feli114 65]

My first marriage was to a man 1 year older, the second marriage had the same age difference. Needless to say neither of them lasted. My fiance is 34 and I am 47. I was the one with the problem about the age difference. But as I got to know him, I found that we had more to talk about than the men that were closer to my age. To each his own. Im happy!

[southcalhog 43]

My first marriage was to a man 1 year older, the second marriage had the same age difference. Needless to say neither of them lasted. My fiance is 34 and I am 47. I was the one with the problem about the age difference. But as I got to know him, I found that we had more to talk about than the men that were closer to my age. To each his own. Im happy!

You Right "Feli", Age aint nothing but a number! Good Luck to You Both! :thumbs:

[dantespal 7]

I enjoyed the thread, as i do with these threads every once in a while.

For disclosure, my wife is 23 years younger (46-23). We got married when she was 19. I married a younger woman because i wasted my own youth (lol) and didn't start a family when i was young. I knew that i wanted kids, so a young wife was the only way (for me) to go. We have 2 kids, been married 4 years, i lived in the PI for 4 years.

All of that said...I love when people talk about age differences being common, respected, sought after or whatever in the Philippines. In the four years living there, i had the opportunity to meet a lot of families and know a lot of people, young and old.

Never once in all of the time that i was there, did i see a poster of a middle-aged man in any girl's room. I'm in the same boat as many of you, so this isn't about judgement. But i can accept it for what it is. Whatever all of your reasons are, great. For me, we both went in with eyes open and we will be in it for the long haul because of our beautiful and wonderful kids. It isn't merely by chance that there are many more may-december (or september, haha) romances that involve women from developing countries. I knew that was the case and went there for that reason. It worked out well for both of us. I have a great family and i'm happy with it all.

Bottom line, i was able to get what i sought after in the philippines and the chances of it happening here were not too great. But, i do think it is funny when people try to claim that age is 'respected' more there. My daughter will grow up with three passports and a lot more opportunity than her mother had. The chances of my daughter, educated, U.S., European, and Filipino passports in hand, will choose someone 23 years older than her is almost nil. Besides that, any middle-aged or elderly guy comes to the door looking for her, they have a big surprise waiting from dad.

[Ron and Rhea 42]

By the time your daughter is old enough to date someone middle aged to her, you will be like 80, so I am thinking you may, at best, meet him at the door with your walker and a cane, haha, j/k friend.....

The poster in bedroom reference sorta escaped me, but I am sure it had a point....lol I have three daughters, 30, 26 and 22...We raised them well, college educated, only my 30 year old has a baby so far and that was not even two years ago, she is a teacher and hubby is a engineer....I will say that you will find out later that you can say you will do this or that, but when they get old enough they will do what they want and you better HOPE you raised them well enough to have made sound decisions.

You married a younger gal for you personal reasons, you seem to have sought out a younger lady...which is cool, more power to you brother.... I am marrying one not for any particular reason other than chance....we just met and our relationship grew, we decided to not let our ages stop what we both felt...so we didn't. I didn't waste my youth, I was married at 19, she, a Filipina, 17...and stayed married till this past Aug....31 years later.

It's funny how you say you will meet a older guy at the door with a big surprise if he tried to date your daughter...I know other guys who have said the same thing if a black dude comes to the door to date his daughter...hahah. For me, maybe the guys seeing me intimidated them, but I never had probs with any of the guys while the girls were in high school, they seemed to have more steady b/f's than anything, but a few boys came to the front door, and yes one was a black kid....never had any probs with any of them.

Ok, off the soapbox, lol

[dantespal 7]

By the time your daughter is old enough to date someone middle aged to her, you will be like 80, so I am thinking you may, at best, meet him at the door with your walker and a cane, haha, j/k friend.....

The poster in bedroom reference sorta escaped me, but I am sure it had a point....lol I have three daughters, 30, 26 and 22...We raised them well, college educated, only my 30 year old has a baby so far and that was not even two years ago, she is a teacher and hubby is a engineer....I will say that you will find out later that you can say you will do this or that, but when they get old enough they will do what they want and you better HOPE you raised them well enough to have made sound decisions.

You married a younger gal for you personal reasons, you seem to have sought out a younger lady...which is cool, more power to you brother.... I am marrying one not for any particular reason other than chance....we just met and our relationship grew, we decided to not let our ages stop what we both felt...so we didn't. I didn't waste my youth, I was married at 19, she, a Filipina, 17...and stayed married till this past Aug....31 years later.

It's funny how you say you will meet a older guy at the door with a big surprise if he tried to date your daughter...I know other guys who have said the same thing if a black dude comes to the door to date his daughter...hahah. For me, maybe the guys seeing me intimidated them, but I never had probs with any of the guys while the girls were in high school, they seemed to have more steady b/f's than anything, but a few boys came to the front door, and yes one was a black kid....never had any probs with any of them.

Ok, off the soapbox, lol

luckily, i'll only be in my 60s, and maybe still able to scare someone on the right day

The poster thing means that there aren't any teenage filipinas pining away for middle-aged or old men. They like princes and young movie stars just like girls everywhere.

I don't have an issue with race, but i would have a serious problem with a 60 year old coming to pick up my 18 year old daughter. I wouldn't even like it if he was my age. The difference is, one is here, the other is there. In the end, i'd actually trust that i'd done a good enough job that she was making good decisions. But a girl with a world full of options and living in the west rarely picks someone with an age difference like her mother and I.

I'm not saying anything about your relationship in particular. It just isn't for nothing that it happens a LOT more with women from developing countries than it does where the women have many more opportunities.

Edited December 6, 2011 by dantespal

[Bad_Daddy 2,209]

You could make a fortune smuggling in blue jeans.

Maple syrup. If a guy had a maple syrup import business set up over there he would make a killing. Their version of pancakes is crepe's which taste better than ours imo, but they don't have maple syrup. Somehow maple syrup came up in a convo on google talk with the wife before the first time I went over there to visit. I took two bottles with me that time and they went ape over that stuff. The next time I went over I had eight bottles with me and it was like Christmas for those people. No idea why they don't have that stuff there, but it seems to be a hit.

[Bad_Daddy 2,209]

luckily, i'll only be in my 60s, and maybe still able to scare someone on the right day

The poster thing means that there aren't any teenage filipinas pining away for middle-aged or old men. They like princes and young movie stars just like girls everywhere.

I don't have an issue with race, but i would have a serious problem with a 60 year old coming to pick up my 18 year old daughter. I wouldn't even like it if he was my age. The difference is, one is here, the other is there. In the end, i'd actually trust that i'd done a good enough job that she was making good decisions. But a girl with a world full of options and living in the west rarely picks someone with an age difference like her mother and I.

I'm not saying anything about your relationship in particular. It just isn't for nothing that it happens a LOT more with women from developing countries than it does where the women have many more opportunities.

Orphanages for ftw. No dealing with parents.

[Ron and Rhea 42]

luckily, i'll only be in my 60s, and maybe still able to scare someone on the right day

The poster thing means that there aren't any teenage filipinas pining away for middle-aged or old men. They like princes and young movie stars just like girls everywhere.

I don't have an issue with race, but i would have a serious problem with a 60 year old coming to pick up my 18 year old daughter. I wouldn't even like it if he was my age. The difference is, one is here, the other is there. In the end, i'd actually trust that i'd done a good enough job that she was making good decisions. But a girl with a world full of options and living in the west rarely picks someone with an age difference like her mother and I.

I'm not saying anything about your relationship in particular. It just isn't for nothing that it happens a LOT more with women from developing countries than it does where the women have many more opportunities.

Luckily, I hope, there are not a lot of middle aged men pining way for teenagers, Filipina or any nationality, thats just wrong on either end...now a woman in her 20's or 30's, thats different, and I think most of those woman have outgrown posters on the wall thing, haha.

Yea I think I'd have a prob with a 60 year old and 18.....but I will say my step father, when he split from my mom a long long time ago, was prob in his mid to late40's and he dated and married a 20 year old, and in hollywood its common....I mean I realize is not the norm, however marrying out of your race is looked down upon by a lot in the country, and you know that...even white and asian....there are some people that will have probs with anything they don't like or accept. Trust me, I got ####### from a lot about marrying an Asian, not from my family, but I heard it non the less.

Why_me....man you are too funny.

[Bad_Daddy 2,209]

Luckily, I hope, there are not a lot of middle aged men pining way for teenagers, Filipina or any nationality, thats just wrong on either end...now a woman in her 20's or 30's, thats different, and I think most of those woman have outgrown posters on the wall thing, haha.

Yea I think I'd have a prob with a 60 year old and 18.....but I will say my step father, when he split from my mom a long long time ago, was prob in his mid to late40's and he dated and married a 20 year old, and in hollywood its common....I mean I realize is not the norm, however marrying out of your race is looked down upon by a lot in the country, and you know that...even white and asian....there are some people that will have probs with anything they don't like or accept. Trust me, I got ####### from a lot about marrying an Asian, not from my family, but I heard it non the less.

Why_me....man you are too funny.

My step dad is 1/2 Filipino and my mom married him when I was 4. My grandpa about had a heart attack and it took a few years for him to finally come around and realize he was being a douche about it. My step dad was born here in the states, and his dad came here from the Philippines back in the late '30's. My grandma (step grandma) was full blooded German and at least a good 4" taller than him and they were married for 50+ years until he passed away back in 2004 at the age of 94. They used to get some strange looks from people who didn't know them and it was funny watching the expressions on peoples faces when they first met them. My step dad took after his mom in size and he's 6' 4" and is a total country music horse raising redneck. But I can remember well enough going to "Filipino Lodge meetings" when I was a kid and there were lots of guys wearing suits back then and packing guns. Lots of food, music and dancing. This was in Seattle back in the 70's. Eating dog was no big deal for us (Illikano) and Iv'e eaten rice just about every day of my life since age 5.

[Krikit 1,164]

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[Hank_ 9,174]

Sort of an interesting read.

http://www.filipinawives.com/AgeDifferences.htm

[analou scott 8]

this thread thread reminds me of my grandmother. she always said "if you want a fresh apple,you have to pick it from the tree".

[Ron and Rhea 42]

Hank, excellent...thx. I will read it in more detail when I get home.....

'analou scott'...your grandmother's a wise woman...!!!