Is your Middle Eastern SO blunt?

[doodlebug 3]

Just curious if this is a cultural thing or not.

I'm used to the typical american "pc" guy who, when asked if a woman is fat, if this dress looks ok, if my hair looks good, replies with the usual "yes honey" just so that he doesn't land in the dog house.

Now I get very blunt, yet honest answers. For example:

I say, "I am going to get my hair trimmed tomorrow"

He replies, "Why, it's too short NOW. Why would you want to do that to yourself. Let it grow, please, it will look much nicer."

the american male would say, "that's nice honey", while probably not knowing what he said, "that's nice honey" to since he's playing a game on the other screen and half azz listening to what I'm saying.

or

After parting my hair on a different side and spending over an hour with it, I log in thinking I'm "all that" and after about a minute say, "So...notice anything different?" to which I hear, "yes, your hair", and of course I'm asking for it 'cause I continue saying, "do you like it?", to which he replies, "no, please don't do it like this again".

the american male wouldn't have noticed anything and would have given up and said, "no what's different" and then said, "yeah looks great" without even looking at it.

or

After spending two hours online looking for a nice recipe taking into consideration what he's told me about his likes/dislikes, I happily go online and explain for a few minutes what it has in it and how I'll cook it and I say, "doesn't that sound good??? Would you like this?", and he says, "not everynight, no."

the american male would have said, "yayaya" not even having listened to the description of the meal in the first place.

Now don't get me wrong, I like the change in pace and I do indeed love honesty so it's refreshing in one sense but I just can't stop being taken aback each time things like that come out of his mouth!

Edited September 26, 2006 by doodlebug

[babybunny 2]

I guess your man is blunt.

My husband is not. however, I take word "blunt " as someone that is Rude.

[doodlebug 3]

I guess your man is blunt.

My husband is not. however, I take word "blunt " as someone that is Rude.

No I don't equate it with rudeness at all. I guess blunt isn't the right term if that is how it is construed. I guess brutally honest?

[stayaway 0]

okey as arab man, yea ofcourse maybe he dont know that he have to say yes honey, but at least he have to give u god answer, ur man, is kinda too blunt! and that is personalty!!

[doodlebug 3]

okey as arab man, yea ofcourse maybe he dont know that he have to say yes honey, but at least he have to give u god answer, ur man, is kinda too blunt! and that is personalty!!

lol ok coming from an Egyptian I'll take your word for it. Just was curious if it was cultural but I'm getting a no from two so far so looks like he and I need a good heart to heart!!

[LaL 418]

my DH is tactfully blunt (lol), but not blunt in the way you have described. Its more of an assertion, but I would contribute that to being an engineer vs. being from Egypt.

[rebeccajo 14]

What typical american men are you referring to?

My ex-american male had no problem telling me when he didn't like my hair, clothes, etc. Nor did he ever give me a compliment.

Your man's assertions sound more like his personality than his culture, sorry to say.

[LaL 418]

What typical american men are you referring to?

My ex-american male had no problem telling me when he didn't like my hair, clothes, etc. Nor did he ever give me a compliment.

Your man's assertions sound more like his personality than his culture, sorry to say.

rebecca what happened to your avatar?????

[rebeccajo 14]

What typical american men are you referring to?

My ex-american male had no problem telling me when he didn't like my hair, clothes, etc. Nor did he ever give me a compliment.

Your man's assertions sound more like his personality than his culture, sorry to say.

rebecca what happened to your avatar?????

a little mouse told me how to make southpark people......................

[LaL 418]

a little mouse told me how to make southpark people......................

lol well its not there! at least *i* cant see it!!

(it looks like a broken link)

Edited September 26, 2006 by lal_brandow

[doodlebug 3]

What typical american men are you referring to?

My ex-american male had no problem telling me when he didn't like my hair, clothes, etc. Nor did he ever give me a compliment.

Your man's assertions sound more like his personality than his culture, sorry to say.

just all the american men I've dated, except one now that I think of it.....and he was an engineer too! lol

[JenT 0]

What typical american men are you referring to?

My ex-american male had no problem telling me when he didn't like my hair, clothes, etc. Nor did he ever give me a compliment.

Your man's assertions sound more like his personality than his culture, sorry to say.

rebecca what happened to your avatar?????

a little mouse told me how to make southpark people......................

I can see it... clearly, it's 'Becca and Wes...

Well done!!

[rebeccajo 14]

What typical american men are you referring to?

My ex-american male had no problem telling me when he didn't like my hair, clothes, etc. Nor did he ever give me a compliment.

Your man's assertions sound more like his personality than his culture, sorry to say.

rebecca what happened to your avatar?????

a little mouse told me how to make southpark people......................

I can see it... clearly, it's 'Becca and Wes...

Well done!!

hee hee....Wes doesn't like it that I made his hair 'so grey'. He requested the batman shirt - I gave him the tea cup.

[LaL 418]

doh! i just had to reload my browser. now i see ya again!

[chri'stina 190]

my DH is tactfully blunt (lol), but not blunt in the way you have described. Its more of an assertion, but I would contribute that to being an engineer vs. being from Egypt.

same here, with a computer programmer husband.

Sujeet is honest with me yet tactful.

But if I spent an hour doing my hair for him, and he said nothing nice about it or nothing nice at least about the effort I put to look nice for him, I'd be ticked off. I'd be sort of ticked off in every scenario you listed above actually, doodlebug. Just saying how I'd feel.