CFO and homosexuals

[rheanick 42]

In case you missed the topic description under the title, it said "random thought." No, I'm not going to petition a man.

We are all human and I am curious if the people at the CFO feel that they have the last say on anyone's relationship, especially if it is against their ideas of what is "right." And wondering if anyone has ever heard of this.

I am always thinking...and I'm not trying to be mean/nasty by saying this, but maybe you should give it a try sometime.

TO ALL WHO READ....If you have nothing valid to offer in this conversation, then please don't post.

I dont know you personally. And trying to make sure that people posting here about their random thoughs dont have OCD problem.

So you have a lot of free time and wants your thoughts out... Read the article....

Thought-action Fusion and OCD

Equating Thoughts With Actions May Cause OCD Symptoms

By Owen Kelly, Ph.D., About.com Guide

Updated August 22, 2010

OCD is a complex illness with many causes, including biological, psychological and social factors. A psychological process that may help cause and maintain OCD symptoms is thought-action fusion. Let’s explore the relationship between thought-action fusion and OCD symptoms.

What is Thought-Action Fusion?

Thought-action fusion is when you believe that simply thinking about an action is equivalent to actually carrying out that action. For example, if a thought randomly pops into your mind about something unacceptable -- such as murdering your partner -- you would believe this to just as bad as actually harming them.

Thought-action fusion can also lead people to believe that thinking about an unwanted event makes it more likely that the event will happen. For instance, you might think that by imagining a loved one dying in a car crash, it somehow increases the chances that this will actually happen.

Thought-action Fusion and OCD Symptoms

The degree to which someone with OCD is prone to thought-action fusion predicts how severe their OCD symptoms will be. This has led many to suggest that thought-action fusion could be a cause of OCD symptoms. Interestingly, thought-action fusion and OCD symptoms and could be linked by another psychological process called thought suppression. Although just about everyone experiences strange, bizarre or shocking thoughts throughout the day, if you have OCD, you may overreact to these “dangerous” thoughts by trying to suppress them, which only causes them to come back worse than before. Of course, this can lead to a vicious circle of more thought suppression followed by more distressing thoughts.

Thought-action fusion may promote thought suppression by making you feel that your thoughts are "dangerous." Indeed, if you believe that the thought of harming your partner popping into your head is equivalent to actually having harmed them, then understandably, this is a dangerous or threatening thought. In this way, thought-action fusion and thought suppression may work hand-in-hand to create distressing obsessions. And in turn, such obsessions can lead to debilitating compulsions, which are used as an attempt to neutralize or undo the feared outcome or thought.

Thought-action Fusion and OCD Treatment

Addressing thought-action fusion is a key component of many cognitive-behaviorally oriented psychological treatments for OCD. Although the imagined link between thoughts and actions is almost always illogical, if you have OCD it can sometimes be difficult to have insight into the irrationality of these thoughts. Therapy focuses, in part, on challenging the imagined link between thoughts and actions/outcomes through experiments or observation.

For example, if you are afraid that thinking about a bomb going off in your workplace makes it more likely that this will happen, you could intentionally think about this and then see if this feared outcome comes true or not. Although initially distressing, these types of experiments can help challenge beliefs about the link between thoughts and actions as well as make thought suppression less likely; indeed, if your thoughts are not actually dangerous, why push them away?

Behaviorally-oriented therapies such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) also work to build flexibility in thinking rather than trying to eliminate distressing thoughts like obsessions using a variety of mindfulness techniques, metaphors and life enhancement exercises. ACT teaches clients to be less invested in their thoughts, which helps to avoid to the tendency to label thoughts as dangerous.

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I dont know you personally. And trying to make sure that people posting here about their random thoughs dont have OCD problem.

So you have a lot of free time and wants your thoughts out... Read the article....

Thought-action Fusion and OCD

Equating Thoughts With Actions May Cause OCD Symptoms

By Owen Kelly, Ph.D., About.com Guide

Updated August 22, 2010

OCD is a complex illness with many causes, including biological, psychological and social factors. A psychological process that may help cause and maintain OCD symptoms is thought-action fusion. Let’s explore the relationship between thought-action fusion and OCD symptoms.

What is Thought-Action Fusion?

Thought-action fusion is when you believe that simply thinking about an action is equivalent to actually carrying out that action. For example, if a thought randomly pops into your mind about something unacceptable -- such as murdering your partner -- you would believe this to just as bad as actually harming them.

Thought-action fusion can also lead people to believe that thinking about an unwanted event makes it more likely that the event will happen. For instance, you might think that by imagining a loved one dying in a car crash, it somehow increases the chances that this will actually happen.

Thought-action Fusion and OCD Symptoms

The degree to which someone with OCD is prone to thought-action fusion predicts how severe their OCD symptoms will be. This has led many to suggest that thought-action fusion could be a cause of OCD symptoms. Interestingly, thought-action fusion and OCD symptoms and could be linked by another psychological process called thought suppression. Although just about everyone experiences strange, bizarre or shocking thoughts throughout the day, if you have OCD, you may overreact to these “dangerous” thoughts by trying to suppress them, which only causes them to come back worse than before. Of course, this can lead to a vicious circle of more thought suppression followed by more distressing thoughts.

Thought-action fusion may promote thought suppression by making you feel that your thoughts are "dangerous." Indeed, if you believe that the thought of harming your partner popping into your head is equivalent to actually having harmed them, then understandably, this is a dangerous or threatening thought. In this way, thought-action fusion and thought suppression may work hand-in-hand to create distressing obsessions. And in turn, such obsessions can lead to debilitating compulsions, which are used as an attempt to neutralize or undo the feared outcome or thought.

Thought-action Fusion and OCD Treatment

Addressing thought-action fusion is a key component of many cognitive-behaviorally oriented psychological treatments for OCD. Although the imagined link between thoughts and actions is almost always illogical, if you have OCD it can sometimes be difficult to have insight into the irrationality of these thoughts. Therapy focuses, in part, on challenging the imagined link between thoughts and actions/outcomes through experiments or observation.

For example, if you are afraid that thinking about a bomb going off in your workplace makes it more likely that this will happen, you could intentionally think about this and then see if this feared outcome comes true or not. Although initially distressing, these types of experiments can help challenge beliefs about the link between thoughts and actions as well as make thought suppression less likely; indeed, if your thoughts are not actually dangerous, why push them away?

Behaviorally-oriented therapies such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) also work to build flexibility in thinking rather than trying to eliminate distressing thoughts like obsessions using a variety of mindfulness techniques, metaphors and life enhancement exercises. ACT teaches clients to be less invested in their thoughts, which helps to avoid to the tendency to label thoughts as dangerous.

My question was not related to OCD and what you posted is completely irrelevant to the topic at hand.

[rheanick 42]

My question was not related to OCD and what you posted is completely irrelevant to the topic at hand.

I think you would like this article... Be careful on what you thoughts of...

The Power of Thoughts: What You Focus on Grows

Posted on November 15, 2011 by Monica Magnetti

Power of Thoughts

We often underestimate the power of thoughts! Try paying attention to your thoughts for a moment. I’ll bet if you had a dollar for every time you thought about what you DON’T want in your personal life and your business life rather than what you DO want, you’d be a millionaire.

The power of thoughts is huge, much bigger and more influential in our lives than we think. When you focus on scarcity or what you don’t want in your personal life or your business life, that’s what you get. But when you focus on what’s plentiful or what you do want, that’s what you create, that’s what grows. You create the circumstances and experiences that validate everything you believe.

If you believe you’re going to fail, you probably will fail. On the other hand, if you believe you’re going to succeed in your personal life and your business life, the odds of succeeding increase dramatically. That’s the power of thoughts. Think of it as the act of painting a self-portrait. If you call the portrait “My Success,” the colours, brushstrokes and forms will be different than if you call it “My Failure.”

Imagine a blank canvas that represents your life. Now imagine a palette with all the types and colours of paint you want. The life you create on the canvas, using the paints you want, represents the power of thoughts. Every brushstroke is a thought. You are painting your personal life and your business life. And the choice of what you create is yours. How powerful do you want it to be?

When you embrace the radical act of living your personal life and your business life with intention, you are embracing the power of thoughts. Those thoughts are the fast route to your destination. Open your eyes with intention to the connection between your thoughts and the results they bring. Surrender to the reality that you can hold only one thought at a time. Which thought will it be?

Science has proven that our brain can hold only one thought at a time. What thoughts are you going to choose? Powerful thoughts or thoughts that keep you small and weaken your self-esteem? When you ignore the power of thoughts, you become your own worst enemy. But when you grasp your big, enthusiastic thoughts, your personal life and your business life begin to flow … smoothly, effortlessly.

Believe in yourself and what you want in your personal life and your business life. Take action with integrity and hold yourself accountable to the power of thoughts. In no time at all, you will find success becoming easier and easier.

Ask yourself, “Who am I when I have powerful thoughts? Who am I when I embrace thinking with my big mind?” Then make the choice … and choose to live your personal life and your business life with intention. Make peace with yourself and surrender to the power of thoughts.

[rheanick 42]

After all the stress of getting my wife to me, here's something I was thinking about recently...

What are the chances of the CFO "forbidding" someone who is homosexual to depart to be with their loved one?

Would the CFO discriminate just because the male or female is homosexual?

last article... since you like your thoughts to be out and shared with other people... here is an article worth reading...

How a Parent’s Thoughts Shape Their Unborn Child’s Life

We often hear the first 3 years of a child’s life are the most important. So for the first 3 years with our children, we play the right games, buy the right toys and read the right books.

But recent studies prove that 6 months into a pregnancy, the fetus is already aware, reacting and emotionally active. At 6 months, the unborn child can see, hear, experience, taste, feel and even learn.

So a child’s physical and emotional health is being shaped before it’s even born. And part of that shaping is determined by how the parents – especially the mother – feel about life and each other.

Creating a child’s personality

On some level, what the pregnant mother feels emotionally is transferred directly to her unborn child. Because of this, constant negative emotions can have a damaging affect on the fetus.

The fetus absorbs negative emotions like anger, stress or frustration. Feelings most adults experience throughout their stressful days. However, the most harm is done when a mother doesn’t want the child. These and other negative emotions shape the baby’s personality.

Then there’s the father…

Throughout the pregnancy, the fetus is also affected by the father’s feelings toward the mother and their child. That’s because the fetus can absorb its parents’ emotional energy. This energy helps create how the child will see itself in its life ahead. For example, it will feel happy or sad, be aggressive or meek, secure or insecure.

And some studies show parents begin affecting their child’s personality soon after conception.

What messages do you send your baby?

Research shows soon after conception, a level of consciousness exists in the embryo. As the fetus develops, its subconscious stores information to prepare it for its mother’s environment. But, the father’s role in relation to the mother is also important.

By the sixth month, the fetus can hear and move in rhythm to its mother’s voice. Imagine the different influence this has if the mother is happily singing or yelling in anger.

It’s no surprise that sonograms taken while parents yell at each other show the baby’s entire body flinching in agitation. Imagine the damage caused by months of feeding this negative energy to a fetus. Frightening, isn’t it? In fact, studies show a bad relationship between parents increases the child’s risk of psychological and physical damage by a startling 200% or more!

How your subconscious thoughts affect your fetus

Another powerful way parents affect their fetus is through their beliefs. I’ll explain.

Your life is a reflection of your beliefs. These beliefs come from a lifetime of experiences and interactions with other people. Most of these beliefs are subconscious. And they quietly “program” your mind to react to your world. If these beliefs are negative, it programs our minds to be self-defeating. We see it everyday in people who say, “I can’t___”, “I’m not good enough to ___, “I have am so unlucky ___” and so on.

As expectant parents, the negative programming usually comes out in fear:

…“Am I going to make the same mistakes my parents made?” …“Will my baby be healthy and deliver naturally?” …“Can I adequately provide for my child?”

Single mothers often have additional negative emotions like:

…“Will I be enough not having a father around?” …“Can I really raise my child alone?”

During the pregnancy, parents who dwell on negative thoughts send these feelings to the fetus. In turn, this programs fear into the child before it even enters the world.

It is extremely important for both mother and father to understand their emotions and deal with them in an effective manner. Continued stress for the mother takes its toll on her unborn child. Whether the mother’s thoughts and emotions are positive and reinforcing or negative and rejecting they are helping to define and shape the child’s character.

Supporting your desire for a healthy child

No matter what the situation, any parent can give their child a strong, healthy start. It begins with their choices made during the pregnancy.

The physical and emotional health of a fetus is shaped by the parents’ environment and their emotional well-being. That’s why it’s vital to feed loving, positive energy to the fetus throughout the pregnancy. Doing so helps ensure a happy, healthy, confident child.

If you’d like to learn more about a child’s emotional development in utero, I recommend

“The Secret Life of the Unborn Child” by Thomas Verny, M.D.

[Hank_ 9,174]

It is better to be silent and thought a fool, then to speak and remove all doubt ~

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last article... since you like your thoughts to be out and shared with other people... here is an article worth reading...

How a Parent’s Thoughts Shape Their Unborn Child’s Life

We often hear the first 3 years of a child’s life are the most important. So for the first 3 years with our children, we play the right games, buy the right toys and read the right books.

But recent studies prove that 6 months into a pregnancy, the fetus is already aware, reacting and emotionally active. At 6 months, the unborn child can see, hear, experience, taste, feel and even learn.

So a child’s physical and emotional health is being shaped before it’s even born. And part of that shaping is determined by how the parents – especially the mother – feel about life and each other.

Creating a child’s personality

On some level, what the pregnant mother feels emotionally is transferred directly to her unborn child. Because of this, constant negative emotions can have a damaging affect on the fetus.

The fetus absorbs negative emotions like anger, stress or frustration. Feelings most adults experience throughout their stressful days. However, the most harm is done when a mother doesn’t want the child. These and other negative emotions shape the baby’s personality.

Then there’s the father…

Throughout the pregnancy, the fetus is also affected by the father’s feelings toward the mother and their child. That’s because the fetus can absorb its parents’ emotional energy. This energy helps create how the child will see itself in its life ahead. For example, it will feel happy or sad, be aggressive or meek, secure or insecure.

And some studies show parents begin affecting their child’s personality soon after conception.

What messages do you send your baby?

Research shows soon after conception, a level of consciousness exists in the embryo. As the fetus develops, its subconscious stores information to prepare it for its mother’s environment. But, the father’s role in relation to the mother is also important.

By the sixth month, the fetus can hear and move in rhythm to its mother’s voice. Imagine the different influence this has if the mother is happily singing or yelling in anger.

It’s no surprise that sonograms taken while parents yell at each other show the baby’s entire body flinching in agitation. Imagine the damage caused by months of feeding this negative energy to a fetus. Frightening, isn’t it? In fact, studies show a bad relationship between parents increases the child’s risk of psychological and physical damage by a startling 200% or more!

How your subconscious thoughts affect your fetus

Another powerful way parents affect their fetus is through their beliefs. I’ll explain.

Your life is a reflection of your beliefs. These beliefs come from a lifetime of experiences and interactions with other people. Most of these beliefs are subconscious. And they quietly “program” your mind to react to your world. If these beliefs are negative, it programs our minds to be self-defeating. We see it everyday in people who say, “I can’t___”, “I’m not good enough to ___, “I have am so unlucky ___” and so on.

As expectant parents, the negative programming usually comes out in fear:

…“Am I going to make the same mistakes my parents made?” …“Will my baby be healthy and deliver naturally?” …“Can I adequately provide for my child?”

Single mothers often have additional negative emotions like:

…“Will I be enough not having a father around?” …“Can I really raise my child alone?”

During the pregnancy, parents who dwell on negative thoughts send these feelings to the fetus. In turn, this programs fear into the child before it even enters the world.

It is extremely important for both mother and father to understand their emotions and deal with them in an effective manner. Continued stress for the mother takes its toll on her unborn child. Whether the mother’s thoughts and emotions are positive and reinforcing or negative and rejecting they are helping to define and shape the child’s character.

Supporting your desire for a healthy child

No matter what the situation, any parent can give their child a strong, healthy start. It begins with their choices made during the pregnancy.

The physical and emotional health of a fetus is shaped by the parents’ environment and their emotional well-being. That’s why it’s vital to feed loving, positive energy to the fetus throughout the pregnancy. Doing so helps ensure a happy, healthy, confident child.

If you’d like to learn more about a child’s emotional development in utero, I recommend

“The Secret Life of the Unborn Child” by Thomas Verny, M.D.

I still don't understand the relevance the articles you copied and pasted have to do with a hypothetical question about the control a certain organization in the Philippines holds or doesn't hold...I'm not sure if you read the posts others took their time to type out the answers to my questions, but they do contain the answer to what I asked.

Random articles about OCD and the power of thoughts and so on have nothing to do with what I was asking.

I apologize if it sounds as if I'm being an @$$, but it irritates me when someone post some off-the-cuff "smart-@$$" remark as if this forum is a comedy stage, implying that since someone is asking about homosexuals, then they must be one...GROW TFU, PEOPLE. All I was doing was simply asking a question that I had never seen addressed. I am one who thinks out of the box and am always asking questions...I always ask "why?" Just ask my wife.

Anyway, no hard feelings.

[Hank_ 9,174]

duh? why?

[dirtsquirter 7]

"but it irritates me when someone post some off-the-cuff "smart-@$$" remark as if this forum is a comedy stage" Yea, me to. I know a guy, his name is Billy J Bumblaster, and he is very interested in your question as he would love to come to the US and meet other guys like himself, please leave your name and contact info, he will be sure to get back to you.....

[Bayareaguy 156]

"but it irritates me when someone post some off-the-cuff "smart-@$$" remark as if this forum is a comedy stage" Yea, me to. I know a guy, his name is Billy J Bumblaster, and he is very interested in your question as he would love to come to the US and meet other guys like himself, please leave your name and contact info, he will be sure to get back to you.....

An interesting post from someone named Dirtsquirter.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Ok, Thanks.

Seems odd the US won't "allow" such a relationship.

DOMA, for one. Until that is repealed, same sex unions will not be recognized by the Federal government, or will they? Seems the US has already begun the process to solemnize such unions on military installations at home and at abroad. It the DOD begins recognizing such unions for survivor benefits under the same level as heterosexual marriages, then will the DHS and DOS be far behind?

[Wally G! 58]

Requirements for a K-1 visa

Both fiancées must be eligible to be lawfully married in the state of residence of the petitioner. For example, at the time the visa petition is filed, as well as at issuance, they must both be of legal age, and not already married to each other or to anyone else. Under the Defense of Marriage Act, same-sex partners are not eligible for K-1 visas, even those with petitioners from states that otherwise allow same sex partners to marry. However, a 2005 decision ruled that transsexuals, such as Thai kathoeys and Filipina baklas can get fiancé visas sponsored by the sex of their pre-op gender, so long as that sponsor lives in a state where the transsexual marriage will be recognized as heterosexual.[3] Some individuals are ineligible for any immigrant visa, such as those with certain untreated communicable diseases, those who have committed crimes of moral turpitude, those who are addicted to illegal drugs, persons who were previously deported from the US, and those who have engaged in acts of terrorism or are members of a designated terrorist organization.

Both fiancées must have met in person at least once within two years prior to filing the visa petition. This requirement may be waived by the Department of Homeland Security, but only for cases with strong cultural or religious traditions which preclude such a meeting.

Visa applicants are required to demonstrate to the Consular officer that they are unlikely to become public charges in the United States. Generally, this is accomplished by the petitioner filing an Affidavit of Support (Form I-134) showing he or she has an income or assets that are above that of the poverty line in the petitioner's state of residence. Both fiancées may be required to submit certain documents, such as birth certificates and ID cards, to prove their identity, as well as divorce decrees or annulment records to prove they are eligible to marry. The precise documents required are set by the Embassy in each country to reflect the documents commonly used in that country.

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However, a 2005 decision ruled that transsexuals, such as Thai kathoeys and Filipina baklas can get fiancé visas sponsored by the sex of their pre-op gender, so long as that sponsor lives in a state where the transsexual marriage will be recognized as heterosexual.[3]

Still no immigration benefit for same sex couples. Maybe this bill proposed but it never took place.

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"but it irritates me when someone post some off-the-cuff "smart-@$$" remark as if this forum is a comedy stage" Yea, me to. I know a guy, his name is Billy J Bumblaster, and he is very interested in your question as he would love to come to the US and meet other guys like himself, please leave your name and contact info, he will be sure to get back to you.....

Billy, there is so much to work with in your post but I would probably be given a warning for personal attacks towards you if I responded how I would like. So I will let people infer what they wish.

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DOMA, for one. Until that is repealed, same sex unions will not be recognized by the Federal government, or will they? Seems the US has already begun the process to solemnize such unions on military installations at home and at abroad. It the DOD begins recognizing such unions for survivor benefits under the same level as heterosexual marriages, then will the DHS and DOS be far behind?

So, if that were to happen, what would be the outcome if the application was approved by USCIS?

Btw, your sig graphic is funny...you need to add religious symbols in there too.

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Requirements for a K-1 visa

However, a 2005 decision ruled that transsexuals, such as Thai kathoeys and Filipina baklas can get fiancé visas sponsored by the sex of their pre-op gender, so long as that sponsor lives in a state where the transsexual marriage will be recognized as heterosexual.

That's interesting...never read that far into it before filing.