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[Jim N Augie 16]

IMO, it has to do with the perception that people who met online are into the mail-order-bride system. I'm not saying this is true, but it's what a lot of people think. It doesn't help that the biggest nation who send MOBs is the Philippines

And among Filipinos, there are people who see people "marrying out" as not really being in a genuine relationship but the Filipino spouse just wanting to come to the US/foreign country by getting married. Again, I am not saying that this is true for most couples but there is the stereotype. It also does not help that the Philippines is listed as a high fraud country by the State Department so the USEM tends to be "tough"

Good point, there is a stereotype about MOB and internet dating period.

[rlogan 2,036]

IMO, it has to do with the perception that people who met online are into the mail-order-bride system. I'm not saying this is true, but it's what a lot of people think. It doesn't help that the biggest nation who send MOBs is the Philippines

And among Filipinos, there are people who see people "marrying out" as not really being in a genuine relationship but the Filipino spouse just wanting to come to the US/foreign country by getting married. Again, I am not saying that this is true for most couples but there is the stereotype. It also does not help that the Philippines is listed as a high fraud country by the State Department so the USEM tends to be "tough"

People can be so petty. When they see you beaming with happiness they try to tear you down with malicious comments like "mail order bride". They'll also call your wife a prostitute and claim nobody would marry you, so you had to settle for an inferior race of people. These will be the guys looking at pictures of your wife and fantasizing about her, and the wives of said men who know that is what their husband is doing.

Some people don't have the courage and sense to look past the bar on their own street for a life mate. But living well is the best revenge. If they make comments like this, know that they are burning up inside with jealousy and envy. So just smile away.

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

When I told everyone about it there was no real uproar from my friends but by that time I'd already purged the idiots over other issues.

Some were concerned and they expressed it appropriately. Of course I understood that they were concerned because they cared about me as a friend and to be honest some of my local relationships concerned them also!

Now we're 3 years later and nobody even thinks about it.

[James and Cynthia 70]

Before my fiance arrived, my family and friends were supportive, although many of them thought I was crazy. However, after meeting her and after our marriage, not one person has objected in any way. Well, except for my ex-wife. Everyone but her loves my new wife. My kids adore her.

I still get the occational question when meeting new people: How old is she? They usually find a way to work it into the conversation politely, but I know what they are getting at. I think next time someone asks that, I'm going to reply "Oh don't worry, she's over 18." [she is actually 25 but looks 16, I'm 37]

Actually, to be honest, I'm quite surprised at how supportive everyone has been. I can handle the occational looks from strangers and especially from friends of the ex. But other than that, no one has ever said anything negative directly to us. Things could not be better.

-James

[James and Cynthia 70]

People can be so petty. When they see you beaming with happiness they try to tear you down with malicious comments like "mail order bride". They'll also call your wife a prostitute and claim nobody would marry you, so you had to settle for an inferior race of people. These will be the guys looking at pictures of your wife and fantasizing about her, and the wives of said men who know that is what their husband is doing.

Some people don't have the courage and sense to look past the bar on their own street for a life mate. But living well is the best revenge. If they make comments like this, know that they are burning up inside with jealousy and envy. So just smile away.

I couldn't agree more, as always with your posts. I can almost bet, many of the couples with wives that make comments about us to their husbands, only peak their husband's interests in knowing more because they wish they were so lucky. They are both jealous. I'll just keep smiling.

-James

[southcalhog 43]

I couldn't agree more, as always with your posts. I can almost bet, many of the couples with wives that make comments about us to their husbands, only peak their husband's interests in knowing more because they wish they were so lucky. They are both jealous. I'll just keep smiling.

-James

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