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[The Nature Boy 4,224]

I really don't care what people think and I will do what I want to regardless. However I would like to hear from some of you. When you first brought your fiancee over and announced plans to marry right away did people think you had lost your mind.

[Ryan H 3,812]

When my wife and I got engaged, everyone I knew was happy for us and offered their congratulations.

[Theresa0828 65]

I really don't care what people think and I will do what I want to regardless. However I would like to hear from some of you. When you first brought your fiancee over and announced plans to marry right away did people think you had lost your mind.

I think my husband's eldest son, daughter in law and granddaughter still thinks that my husband lost his mind... :bonk:

At least his younger son and grandson tolerates me...

I don't give a damn. All I care is that my husband knows my real feeling and we are happy together...

[NoneYa 73]

I went to a family funeral today and found out that word spread quick between family and they now all know about my relationship. They were all asking about it. They teased me, some were very interested and asked questions, and most all seem to be fine with it. I had been quiet about it so far. I know there will be those of my friends and my neighbors that will think I have lost my mind. I will not get in a conversation with them because they are uninformed about our relationship or even who she is. It would be like discussing Christianity with a Muslim. It's just a loose/loose conversation. It's best not to discuss it with them, even if they attempt to drag you into it.

You are confident in your choice. Don't let them test you. Just smile and change the subject because as long as you are the subject, you are going to be on the defensive. It's best to be so happy with your fiancee and future wife that they evenutally get it and move onto annoy someone else.

If these people effect your relationship then they have won. Politely ignore them and forgive them for their ignorance.

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

I went to a family funeral today and found out that word spread quick between family and they now all know about my relationship. They were all asking about it. They teased me, some were very interested and asked questions, and most all seem to be fine with it. I had been quiet about it so far. I know there will be those of my friends and my neighbors that will think I have lost my mind. I will not get in a conversation with them because they are uninformed about our relationship or even who she is. It would be like discussing Christianity with a Muslim. It's just a loose/loose conversation. It's best not to discuss it with them, even if they attempt to drag you into it.

You are confident in your choice. Don't let them test you. Just smile and change the subject because as long as you are the subject, you are going to be on the defensive. It's best to be so happy with your fiancee and future wife that they evenutally get it and move onto annoy someone else.

If these people effect your relationship then they have won. Politely ignore them and forgive them for their ignorance.

Ohhh Dale you are out of the closet now ??? How much longer to Noa2 buddy. I just have had a few friends tha have acted less than understanding

[TeapotGirl 66]

My fiance's mom said that his son is marrying a visa hungry chink. His daughter doesn't call me names but doesn't like me either. She thinks that his dad isn't hot enough for a woman 29 yrs his junior.

Edited November 19, 2011 by teapotgurl1983

[Hank_ 9,174]

Its sad the way some people are with... THERE OWN FAMILY... jeez!! They should all be happy!

My sister had a moment when I first told her about Amy, I know the 28 years difference was on her mind, but it didn't take long before she was very happy for me and is now very excited to meet her new sis.

Of course anyone that does not totally embrace Amy it is their loss... 'cause I would cut them loose in a heartbeat as Amy always comes first, and they would be missing out getting to know a wonderful woman.

[TeapotGirl 66]

You may not care but it can get through you. If you hear it often enough, you will tend to believe it..and sometimes they can be right. Either they see things objectively or they are just clouded with prejudice. So just think it really well.

Just let it go cause you can't win this time. It will just ruin your day. They already got their opinion. It will however change once you are together and show them they are wrong. Remember that these people's opinion was defined by stories and personal experiences. It's your job to defend her and it is the fiancees job to prove them that the impression about Filipino women in general is wrong.

She has to show something that isn't available in a local market: maybe extra level of intelligence, fun and loyalty, why someone like you bothered to spend a lot of money, wait long and go through the immigration ordeal.

Just think that your last name is Bin Laden from Saudi Arabia and you will make those Americans believe you are not a terrorist.

Edited November 19, 2011 by teapotgurl1983

[Jim N Augie 16]

Yeah you would think people would just be happy for you especially your own family. I am lucky with that. My kids, brothers and sisters simply feel if she makes me happy why would they have a problem with it. For some people it's the age thing that bothers them, some its because its another nationality and some because you met online it must not be real lol. age is a number its up to you by how you behave nd keep yourself, the right person is the right person no matter where she is from and many people use online dating because we are all so busy. If a person is honest then online and distance make you really get to know each other. My happiness does not depend on what other people think or how they live their life. If theirs depends on what I do then that is their problem. They should just live their life because I will be busy living mine. Just stick to your guns and dont let anyone give you a problem.

[Girl from Celebes 588]

I went to a family funeral today and found out that word spread quick between family and they now all know about my relationship. They were all asking about it. They teased me, some were very interested and asked questions, and most all seem to be fine with it. I had been quiet about it so far. I know there will be those of my friends and my neighbors that will think I have lost my mind. I will not get in a conversation with them because they are uninformed about our relationship or even who she is. It would be like discussing Christianity with a Muslim. It's just a loose/loose conversation. It's best not to discuss it with them, even if they attempt to drag you into it.

You are confident in your choice. Don't let them test you. Just smile and change the subject because as long as you are the subject, you are going to be on the defensive. It's best to be so happy with your fiancee and future wife that they evenutally get it and move onto annoy someone else.

If these people effect your relationship then they have won. Politely ignore them and forgive them for their ignorance.

Bingo. I like this.

[Tim/Mav 305]

I really don't care what people think and I will do what I want to regardless. However I would like to hear from some of you. When you first brought your fiancee over and announced plans to marry right away did people think you had lost your mind.

I can tell countless stories of this topic. Family and friends will attack you. Of course when I went to go see Mav I had a "Interview" myself by her family and friends as well.

In the end to date all is fine. I separated who is with me and who is not. Every Comment was to me "Not saying a word back" was OK. IF THATS HOW YOU FEEL.

Never saying a word and just end my communication with them. They realize later. If they do relaize apologies or Unsaid Sorrys will come, If they can't change and insulted your Fiancee then you don't need them.

[NoneYa 73]

Rule # 1. Never argue with an idiot because they will only drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience.

Rule # 2. Exclude LONG TIME FRIENDS if they are judemental because they are not truly your friends. Dump them. Your new wife is way more important. Surround yourself with open minded, positive people. I am finding there are a lot of open minded positive people out there.

Anybody that tries to pollute my relationship and seperate us is truly an enemy and is viewed as such until they understand. I feel sorry for them and I understand their limited ability to comprehend complex subjects. In any case, they will be seperated from us and be told to keep their opinions to themselves. I am so confident in my financee. If they only take a minute to talk to her, they could not possibly come to the same judgmental opinions they had before. They need to come around... not me !

Edited November 19, 2011 by DaleFlorida

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

You may not care but it can get through you. If you hear it often enough, you will tend to believe it..and sometimes they can be right. Either they see things objectively or they are just clouded with prejudice. So just think it really well.

Just let it go cause you can't win this time. It will just ruin your day. They already got their opinion. It will however change once you are together and show them they are wrong. Remember that these people's opinion was defined by stories and personal experiences. It's your job to defend her and it is the fiancees job to prove them that the impression about Filipino women in general is wrong.

She has to show something that isn't available in a local market: maybe extra level of intelligence, fun and loyalty, why someone like you bothered to spend a lot of money, wait long and go through the immigration ordeal.

Just think that your last name is Bin Laden from Saudi Arabia and you will make those Americans believe you are not a terrorist.

Good Post. It's just that one of my best friends wife told me he is really upset. I told her then he has a decision to make. Be part of our lives or not becuse I am not going to change anything for him.

[TeapotGirl 66]

My fiance's cousin teasingly asked if I can speak English- he told him, "Well, she corrects my spelling."

Edited November 19, 2011 by teapotgurl1983

[southcalhog 43]

Yeah you would think people would just be happy for you especially your own family. I am lucky with that. My kids, brothers and sisters simply feel if she makes me happy why would they have a problem with it. For some people it's the age thing that bothers them, some its because its another nationality and some because you met online it must not be real lol. age is a number its up to you by how you behave nd keep yourself, the right person is the right person no matter where she is from and many people use online dating because we are all so busy. If a person is honest then online and distance make you really get to know each other. My happiness does not depend on what other people think or how they live their life. If theirs depends on what I do then that is their problem. They should just live their life because I will be busy living mine. Just stick to your guns and dont let anyone give you a problem.

I Agree totally with you Jim...

1.some its the Age thing.

2.its the nationality.

3.cause you met online.

You sometimes get it from all sides, and like others have said you would expect from your own Family? But NO..even some of them is Opposed to the Relationship! Only my Middle son and my youngest Daughter agree with our decision to be together. But you know my Dad told me a long time ago about people. he told me"Son if people isnt doing any of the " Three Fs", you dont need them telling you how to live your Life! Words to live by!

Edited November 19, 2011 by southcalhog