ever feel like giving up?

[doodlebug 3]

Ok that was freaky....I got up to get some water (can't fast till Wed ) and now I have a message from him on my cellphone. Unfortunately it was from a payphone so I can't call back but at least I heard his voice. I swear sometimes we're just mindreaders. lol

[ya falaha! 0]

Oh doodle I'm so sorry to hear about your man's father That must be so difficult for him esp. during Ramadan. How sad May Allah be with him at this time. I know it must be so difficult for you too not being with him. I'm also sorry to hear about the hard time your families are giving you both. This process is hard enough without the negativity of our families. I feel you.

[babybunny 2]

For those of you who are not yet married, have you ever felt like just calling it quits, not for lack of love at all but for the very fact that this is so very painful on soooo many levels?

Maybe it is because he does not yet have a cellphone and we still depend soley on the internet to communicate by but lately I just feel so "apart" ya know?

Maybe I"m just being moody here too. I mean he is going through some BIG stuff in his family and hasn't been able to be online for more than a few minutes the past few nights and couple that with the fact that I am going through some BIG stuff in my own family and there ya have a very hard time.

I know it's probably nothing compared to what folks already married are going through but geesh sometimes I just wanna stop the bleeding, ya know? And then.......I see his face and hear his voice and I feel calm again.

*sigh*

nope..

[doodlebug 3]

Oh doodle I'm so sorry to hear about your man's father That must be so difficult for him esp. during Ramadan. How sad May Allah be with him at this time. I know it must be so difficult for you too not being with him. I'm also sorry to hear about the hard time your families are giving you both. This process is hard enough without the negativity of our families. I feel you.

Yeah it puts a LOT of stress on an only son. I mean it's not stressful enough to lose your dad, right, but then top that off with the responsibility of now being the only caretaker/provider and couple it with having a hormonal online girlfriend who cries at the drop of a hat and whoo hoo...you've got one heck of a party. lol

[ya falaha! 0]

Yikes! I forgot that you told me he was the only son. Wow he's got a LOT on his plate now. That's rough

[noura 0]

For those of you who are not yet married, have you ever felt like just calling it quits, not for lack of love at all but for the very fact that this is so very painful on soooo many levels?

nope..

me either Shon.... never have I felt like giving UP, nor will I ever give up! This is my soulmate for goodness sakes, I can't live w/o this man in my life and no matter what it takes... we *will* be together. DON'T GIVE UP, HAVE FAITH, LIVE LIFE, TRUST YOUR LOVE!!!

Edited September 25, 2006 by noura

[Together4ever 1]

Thanks. I guess I will have my ups and downs as will he.

His father is dying and I actually think he has passed today but I am not too sure. To hear him sob and to see his face and not be able to hold him is killing me deep inside. Top that off with members of the family not supporting our being together and members of my family disowning me just for going on the trip and it's just a nightmare................until we hear each other and see each other each night.

I'm already trying to figure out how I can get more time off to go again after 6 months, so in either May or July. I"m crazy I think. I know the money could be best spent elsewhere but if I have a solid goal to hope for I'm thinking things might not be that bad.

I know what you mean about talking of marriage but not being 100% sure. I mean in my heart and my gut I am sure and so is he, but we'll know for sure if it will indeed come to fruition when I step out of the airport and see each other for real finally. Of course there will be about 50 other people there with him so it won't be such an intimate moment but at least it will be a "moment" to remember.

Ok I'm off on a tangent again. lol. Thanks for everyone's advice and thanks so much Rhama for that link. Why is it that the last thing I think of in times of despair is prayer when it's the very one thing that will help?????

Darling, Mohammed and I were together a bit less then a year in Egypt. Four days after I left (not by choice but bitter necessity), the other love of his life, his mother, passed away from Cancer. He was overwhelmed with loss and I was too. I loved her so much. I wanted to turn right around and go back to him. He would sob and beg me to come back to him but at that point it was impossible and he knew it. It was hard. We got through it. Prayer and my faith has sustained me too, as you said. My love for this man has sustained me. Hope in our future (come on damn visa) sustains me. You'll find little things to carry you through the rough spots. I will hold you and your fiance and his family in my prayers. Feel free to message if you need a shoulder. Sometimes just hearing "I understand" can go a lot farther then a lot of other words.

[doodlebug 3]

Darling, Mohammed and I were together a bit less then a year in Egypt. Four days after I left (not by choice but bitter necessity), the other love of his life, his mother, passed away from Cancer. He was overwhelmed with loss and I was too. I loved her so much. I wanted to turn right around and go back to him. He would sob and beg me to come back to him but at that point it was impossible and he knew it. It was hard. We got through it. Prayer and my faith has sustained me too, as you said. My love for this man has sustained me. Hope in our future (come on damn visa) sustains me. You'll find little things to carry you through the rough spots. I will hold you and your fiance and his family in my prayers. Feel free to message if you need a shoulder. Sometimes just hearing "I understand" can go a lot farther then a lot of other words.

((((hugs))))))

I know this is selfish of me but I truly hope he is here for me when one of my parents goes... I will be a complete wreck, even though they've disowned me.

[dollface41601 0]

Doodle, things do get better, promised! But never give up, there is an end to this journey and a beginning for you and yuor beloved

[doodlebug 3]

Ok so y'all know that I'm wicked hormonal right? If not ya do now.

Anyhoo...so all day I'm sad because I think the dad died, haven't been able to talk to him for long periods of time each day, blah blah blah.

Well thank God (I don't know how to say that one yet in Arabic) his dad is on his way to recovery.

He tells me this and then makes me laugh about something and then BOOM...gets serious.

He says, "you know my dear that sound you made, you cannot do that anymore".

I'm like, "huh????"

He says, "that sound when you laugh, I hear this from your mouth a lot and I have to tell you not to do this thing because Allah will think it offensive" (or something to that effect)

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

So apparently I make a lil snorting sound when I laugh and I never noticed it before and if I do it in Egypt everyone will stop and stare and will be shocked at it so I have to remember not to do it.

This is what I get from my few days of worrying about the poor guy that he's so stressed and sad.

where's the smiley with banging a head against the wall when I need one????????

[chri'stina 190]

Ok so y'all know that I'm wicked hormonal right? If not ya do now.

Anyhoo...so all day I'm sad because I think the dad died, haven't been able to talk to him for long periods of time each day, blah blah blah.

Well thank God (I don't know how to say that one yet in Arabic) his dad is on his way to recovery.

He tells me this and then makes me laugh about something and then BOOM...gets serious.

He says, "you know my dear that sound you made, you cannot do that anymore".

I'm like, "huh????"

He says, "that sound when you laugh, I hear this from your mouth a lot and I have to tell you not to do this thing because Allah will think it offensive" (or something to that effect)

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

So apparently I make a lil snorting sound when I laugh and I never noticed it before and if I do it in Egypt everyone will stop and stare and will be shocked at it so I have to remember not to do it.

This is what I get from my few days of worrying about the poor guy that he's so stressed and sad.

where's the smiley with banging a head against the wall when I need one????????

How will Allah be offended by the natural way you laugh?

[morocco4ever 63]

My husband is ignoring me right now as we speak. Too busy on ebay! I want to give up now! lol

It is normal to have such high and low emotions during this time. Just hang in there! I know you say you think about it, but once you hear his voice you change your mind. This is love for you, it makes us women an emotional wreck! The stress of being thousands of miles apart is just plain hard, but there are plenty of people that have been waiting longer than you have, so don't give up!

[ya falaha! 0]

Alhamdulillah..that's how you would say "thank God".

Hahahaha.....don't laugh out loud in Egypt any way you do it. If you laugh loud in the street you'll get stares. According to my husband...only sharmeet (whores) laugh loudly in the street.

Ok so y'all know that I'm wicked hormonal right? If not ya do now.

Anyhoo...so all day I'm sad because I think the dad died, haven't been able to talk to him for long periods of time each day, blah blah blah.

Well thank God (I don't know how to say that one yet in Arabic) his dad is on his way to recovery.

He tells me this and then makes me laugh about something and then BOOM...gets serious.

He says, "you know my dear that sound you made, you cannot do that anymore".

I'm like, "huh????"

He says, "that sound when you laugh, I hear this from your mouth a lot and I have to tell you not to do this thing because Allah will think it offensive" (or something to that effect)

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

So apparently I make a lil snorting sound when I laugh and I never noticed it before and if I do it in Egypt everyone will stop and stare and will be shocked at it so I have to remember not to do it.

This is what I get from my few days of worrying about the poor guy that he's so stressed and sad.

where's the smiley with banging a head against the wall when I need one????????

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Alhamdulillah..that's how you would say "thank God".

Hahahaha.....don't laugh out loud in Egypt any way you do it. If you laugh loud in the street you'll get stares. According to my husband...only sharmeet (whores) laugh loudly in the street.

And don't run. Even when you're trying to dodge oncoming traffic as you attempt to cross the road. Or cross your legs while sitting on the bus or subway.

Of course, in the US, I feel free to laugh in public, run across the road and cross my legs while sitting on the bus. Different cultural norms.

[ya falaha! 0]

Yeah..my husband would tell me..don't run, don't run they see you. Yeah right they see me..I almost got creamed crossing the street in Alex. If it wasn't for my husband's cat like reflexes..hahaha.