Wife left me after receiving 10-year green card

[A P 1]

Report her, it's fair. People like her are terrible. She could have walked away from the marriage with her head high and not lying to USCIS that marriage was still bona fide. She was lying to you first. She cheated on you with someone here, that one should be able to help her with visa (or NOT!). Move on, you deserve better.

[SweetieUs 4]

My wife got her 10-year green card a few months ago after a successful joint I-751 petition to remove conditions. Now, she has informed me that despite marrying me for love, she had decided a year ago that she no longer wanted to be with me, and she had just been staying with me during the last year so she could get her 10-year card. Oh, and she confessed to having an affair during that time, too. I'm feeling a lot of emotions right now, but I will deal with that, somehow.

My question is, should I report this to the USCIS? Is it my responsibility? If I take her at her word, did she commit visa fraud? Is anything likely to happen if I do report it?

What I'm 100% sure of is that this marriage is now over.

I AM VERY SORRY TO HEAR THAT!!!

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

This truely breaks my heart, I am so sorry to hear this. Just pray for her, Karma is a bit#$, she will get what is coming to her without you seeking vengence. Get a divorce and move on, it's her loss!!

The 10 year green card may be exactly what she had "coming to her".

[alohabama 3]

The "divorce and move on" clowns here are full of nonsense. Divorce is as painful as losing someone to a death, and the betrayal and confusion can add to it.

Seriously, you seem to have the option of trying to make life hard for her. But before you act irrationally in your anger/hurt/sadness, it would be best to see if you can work through this, see if there is a possibility of reconciliation. It's not always possible, and it does take two to tango, so if she's not willing, then there's nothing you can do.

If reconciliation is not possible, then you still should consider your actions carefully. It might be the right thing to report her, but I would advise you not to make a snap decision during the most painful time. Get some counseling, talk to a pastor, something like that, because your decisions won't be the sharpest at a time like this.

I am truly sorry for this circumstance.

[daryl&lada 8]

Sorry to hear. I hope things work out for you in the future.

[misswiss 6]

the b**********!!!!!!!!!!!!! thats terrible!!! SMDH women are evil!!!

[NoneYa 73]

I thought marriage was a promise... not a promise to stay until something better comes along. Sometimes divorce is necessary but cheating is never necessary. That is why they call it cheating.

The sun will shine again. This will pass. You will find someone better with your new experience but be patient.

As far as how to handle this... take the high road. Never let someone else drag you down to their level because once you are there, they will only beat you with experience.

Edited November 15, 2011 by DaleFlorida

[Karee 4,191]

Report her, it's fair. People like her are terrible. She could have walked away from the marriage with her head high and not lying to USCIS that marriage was still bona fide. She was lying to you first. She cheated on you with someone here, that one should be able to help her with visa (or NOT!). Move on, you deserve better.

Report her for what? For being a wench? I don't think that's against USCIS rules.

[tirzaray 4]

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You would be the only one to know if she actually did love you like she said she did but sorry to say, isn't marriage (commitment) for better or for worse. Just divorce and move on but one thing you can be sure of, rest assure that what goes around, comes around...

If it's true that this is not fraud, then that makes the decision easy, because there's nothing to report. I do wish she had just told me she no longer wanted to be married back when she first decided that. I'm sure I still would be upset, but maybe not quite as much. As it is, I don't think I will ever be able to forgive her. If she had just been honest, announced her intention to divorce before she had started her affair, and filed her I-751 on her own, I wouldn't have so much to be angry about.

What I'm going to do is just focus on completing this divorce. Once it's final, maybe I'll write a letter to the USCIS, even if nothing is likely to come of it. Or, maybe I'll have sufficiently cooled off at that point to let it go.

[PaulnUsa 19]

My wife got her 10-year green card a few months ago after a successful joint I-751 petition to remove conditions. Now, she has informed me that despite marrying me for love, she had decided a year ago that she no longer wanted to be with me, and she had just been staying with me during the last year so she could get her 10-year card. Oh, and she confessed to having an affair during that time, too. I'm feeling a lot of emotions right now, but I will deal with that, somehow.

My question is, should I report this to the USCIS? Is it my responsibility? If I take her at her word, did she commit visa fraud? Is anything likely to happen if I do report it?

What I'm 100% sure of is that this marriage is now over.

what country is your wife from? How long were you married?

[aprilalex 0]

Am so sorry to hear this,move on, God bless you, she won't have good luck for wat she done

[ceadsearc 516]

You can report her for misrepresenting the relationship when it came time to file ROC but as mentioned, chances are nothing will come of it. The issue is if she entered into the marriage in good faith and it seems she did or at least that you have no proof to the contrary. If she'd bothered to do any research she would have realized that not only could she have divorced and filed ROC alone but she wouldn't have had to wait for her 2 year card to expire to do so. All the same, I doubt USCIS will do much about it but who knows, they might. The ball is in your court now.

[payxibka 10,047]

You can report her for misrepresenting the relationship when it came time to file ROC but as mentioned, chances are nothing will come of it. The issue is if she entered into the marriage in good faith and it seems she did or at least that you have no proof to the contrary. If she'd bothered to do any research she would have realized that not only could she have divorced and filed ROC alone but she wouldn't have had to wait for her 2 year card to expire to do so. All the same, I doubt USCIS will do much about it but who knows, they might. The ball is in your court now.

Nothing will come of it because in all likelihood she could have successfully petitioned to removed conditions by herself even if the divorce occurred.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

The "divorce and move on" clowns here are full of nonsense. Divorce is as painful as losing someone to a death, and the betrayal and confusion can add to it.

I don't think anyone was implying that divorce is easy and painless. The advice to "divorce and move on" is in regard to whether or not he should pursue an accusation of fraud with USCIS. It's usually pointless to contact USCIS or ICE without concrete proof of fraud. It doesn't sound like he's got that proof. That makes this pretty much like any other garden variety marriage in America that falls apart because one spouse is no longer in love and has become unfaithful.

No doubt that divorce is a long and painful road, but it's a road he must travel if he's ever going to get his life back in order, and it begins with the first step - filing for the divorce.

[Laser1 63]

What I'm going to do is just focus on completing this divorce. Once it's final, maybe I'll write a letter to the USCIS, even if nothing is likely to come of it. Or, maybe I'll have sufficiently cooled off at that point to let it go.

Writing a letter might be a good idea; it may help show that you were sincere, if you later decide to petition someone else.