Wife left me after receiving 10-year green card

[JiltedHusband 2]

My wife got her 10-year green card a few months ago after a successful joint I-751 petition to remove conditions. Now, she has informed me that despite marrying me for love, she had decided a year ago that she no longer wanted to be with me, and she had just been staying with me during the last year so she could get her 10-year card. Oh, and she confessed to having an affair during that time, too. I'm feeling a lot of emotions right now, but I will deal with that, somehow.

My question is, should I report this to the USCIS? Is it my responsibility? If I take her at her word, did she commit visa fraud? Is anything likely to happen if I do report it?

What I'm 100% sure of is that this marriage is now over.

[milimelo 4,541]

You can report it to USCIS and also provide any proof you have of this.

Get divorced, but also bear in mind that I-864 will still be in effect even after you divorce until: she naturalizes (2 more yrs), has 40 credits of work, leaves the country for good, or one of you dies.

[MalaysianGirl 26]

I am so sorry. I cannot imagine how you must feel at the betrayal...

[Eric.t 5]

My wife got her 10-year green card a few months ago after a successful joint I-751 petition to remove conditions. Now, she has informed me that despite marrying me for love, she had decided a year ago that she no longer wanted to be with me, and she had just been staying with me during the last year so she could get her 10-year card. Oh, and she confessed to having an affair during that time, too. I'm feeling a lot of emotions right now, but I will deal with that, somehow.

My question is, should I report this to the USCIS? Is it my responsibility? If I take her at her word, did she commit visa fraud? Is anything likely to happen if I do report it?

What I'm 100% sure of is that this marriage is now over.

i'm no expert on this so please don't quote me in a court of law

but if she had decided over a year ago that to her your realationship was over but she was just was hanging about(sorry if i sound blunt) long enough to make it to 10 year greencard and as soon as she had that you would be out of the picture it does sound like fraud however i,m not a lawyer so just to cover yourself i would report it

P.S

sorry about my lack of grammer and spelling

My wife got her 10-year green card a few months ago after a successful joint I-751 petition to remove conditions. Now, she has informed me that despite marrying me for love, she had decided a year ago that she no longer wanted to be with me, and she had just been staying with me during the last year so she could get her 10-year card. Oh, and she confessed to having an affair during that time, too. I'm feeling a lot of emotions right now, but I will deal with that, somehow.

My question is, should I report this to the USCIS? Is it my responsibility? If I take her at her word, did she commit visa fraud? Is anything likely to happen if I do report it?

What I'm 100% sure of is that this marriage is now over.

i'm no expert on this so please don't quote me in a court of law

but if she had decided over a year ago that to her your realationship was over but she was just was hanging about(sorry if i sound blunt) long enough to make it to 10 year greencard and as soon as she had that you would be out of the picture it does sound like fraud however i,m not a lawyer so just to cover yourself i would report it

P.S

sorry about my lack of grammer and spelling

[JiltedHusband 2]

Get divorced, but also bear in mind that I-864 will still be in effect even after you divorce until: she naturalizes (2 more yrs), has 40 credits of work, leaves the country for good, or one of you dies.

I think the chances are slim that she will ever become a public charge, so I'm not too worried. I also suspect she will want to naturalize as soon as she is able.

I am so sorry. I cannot imagine how you must feel at the betrayal...

Thanks. It feels pretty aweful, but I think I'll be better in time.

[Confused 2 94]

I do feel bad for your situation man, however, she has a 10 yr GC and does not need to stay married to you anymore. if you have documented evidence that she has committed GC fraud then you can call USCIS and see if there is anything they will do but without it its just your word against her and at this point it will only seem like a angry husband trying to get back at his wife. Right now the best way to deal with it is to move on.

[Boiler 45,932]

Its a done deal, get divorced and move on.

[Anh map 2,098]

The best course of action is to divorce and move on. It hurts, but it is survivable.

Your spouse will be eligible to apply for citizenship after 5 years of being a GC holder (assuming you two divorce before the 3 year GC anniversary).

[Kathryn41 3,205]

I'm sorry for your pain. I agree that it would be best just to get divorced and move on. Your wife states that she married you for love and that is where any claim of visa fraud action would have to begin. If she married you for love then she didn't commit visa fraud. She did misrepresent the nature of the relationship from her perspective to USCIS when she filed jointly with you for the ten year card, but she could also have left you before she filed and still have been eligible to file on her own with a waiver. She wasn't honest to either you or USCIS but that is misrepresentation and not visa fraud, and it would probably not have made a material difference in the outcome if the true situation were known. As well, even if she felt that way then, she could have had a change of mind later and continued with the marriage and you would never have known that she had these thoughts. I don't think going to USCIS under these circumstances would provide you with any sort of 'satisfaction' and would only help make you feel more unhappy. Relationships do break down, even ones that do not involve partners from different countries. I am sorry that you are going through this, though, and hope you are able to move on.

Edited November 15, 2011 by Kathryn41

[Girl from Celebes 588]

My wife got her 10-year green card a few months ago after a successful joint I-751 petition to remove conditions. Now, she has informed me that despite marrying me for love, she had decided a year ago that she no longer wanted to be with me, and she had just been staying with me during the last year so she could get her 10-year card. Oh, and she confessed to having an affair during that time, too. I'm feeling a lot of emotions right now, but I will deal with that, somehow.

My question is, should I report this to the USCIS? Is it my responsibility? If I take her at her word, did she commit visa fraud? Is anything likely to happen if I do report it?

What I'm 100% sure of is that this marriage is now over.

I am sorry to hear that. That's an awful pain you have to bear in your heart. I think that's why USCIS very strict to approved petition because these stories here are for real. Hard time but you should moved on!

[payxibka 10,047]

i'm no expert on this so please don't quote me in a court of law

but if she had decided over a year ago that to her your realationship was over but she was just was hanging about(sorry if i sound blunt) long enough to make it to 10 year greencard and as soon as she had that you would be out of the picture it does sound like fraud however i,m not a lawyer so just to cover yourself i would report it

P.S

sorry about my lack of grammer and spelling

at least you are correct about one thing but this is not fraud.

Edited November 15, 2011 by payxibka

[JiltedHusband 2]

If it's true that this is not fraud, then that makes the decision easy, because there's nothing to report. I do wish she had just told me she no longer wanted to be married back when she first decided that. I'm sure I still would be upset, but maybe not quite as much. As it is, I don't think I will ever be able to forgive her. If she had just been honest, announced her intention to divorce before she had started her affair, and filed her I-751 on her own, I wouldn't have so much to be angry about.

What I'm going to do is just focus on completing this divorce. Once it's final, maybe I'll write a letter to the USCIS, even if nothing is likely to come of it. Or, maybe I'll have sufficiently cooled off at that point to let it go.

[mapletree 33]

Its a done deal, get divorced and move on.

Yep. Wrap up the divorce. Do not seek vengeance. You are hurt, but move on.

[Mzsitch 2]

This truely breaks my heart, I am so sorry to hear this. Just pray for her, Karma is a bit#$, she will get what is coming to her without you seeking vengence. Get a divorce and move on, it's her loss!!

[Channah&Aaron 51]

; case is done, her first intention was a good one, that she changed her mind... that is how things go.

Best thing is to file for divorce as of she told you she isnt in love with you anymore, and move on.

I wish you all the luck