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[jordanianprincess 0]

Mohammed is the first person to teach me that a fight doesn't mean "the end". We can disagree extremely passionately, practically foaming at the mouth at each other sometimes, but soon he says to me "settle down now" and we both calm down and put it behind us. Never in my life has it been "ok" to fight. Talk about repressed. Blah.

We're comfortable with who we are as a couple. It works for us. Any person who has gotten to know us has always remarked how we just seem born for each other and so easy together despite any age difference. My friend Hazel cried more then I did when I had to leave Egypt. She was hugging us both and wailing "But you guys LOVE each other... you love each other..." That lovely Irish lady could give the most wonderful hugs!

And yes I remember once in the middle of a fight using "SOB" (I was EXTREMELY angry) and had no idea how he was going to take it. His eyes went black as night and I knew I had really stepped in it. After a lot of frantic explaining, he then understood it wasn't intended the way he took it but I never made the mistake again. Oh... and never shut the door to an Egyptian man in anger.

The language barrier can be pretty delicate sometimes. There has been a word he has been using a lot lately that has been rubbing me raw and when I was about to blow over it one night I asked "what do you think that word means?" (through clenched teeth) He told me and discovered he didn't really know its accurate meaning. That's the trouble with English, so much slang, double meanings, and so many words for generally the same thing with slightly different meanings. We even have words of our own. LOL

Enquiring minds wanna know. I couldn't even finish reading your post because I just kept thinking what word?

[Together4ever 1]

Morocco4ever...

Ah, so you "tested" him too, eh? I put Moh through a few of my own sneaky maneuvers. Ok, so how many ladies here have put their SO to the "test" regarding the just-for-a-visa issue? (Be honest now.)

[jordanianprincess 0]

Morocco4ever...

Ah, so you "tested" him too, eh? I put Moh through a few of my own sneaky maneuvers. Ok, so how many ladies here have put their SO to the "test" regarding the just-for-a-visa issue? (Be honest now.)

I'm not quite sure what you mean by test

[Together4ever 1]

WHINE

hahahaha... no cruel comments please

If I lost control of my emotions and wept, he called it whining without realizing its connotation. When I told him ohhhhhhh boy did he start back-peddling. Now I just tell him I don't want to talk about the dreaded "v" thingy until he gets it so I can keep from losing my mind altogether and there will be no more "whining".

Edited September 27, 2006 by just_waiting

[StupidJourney 0]

Mohammed is the first person to teach me that a fight doesn't mean "the end". We can disagree extremely passionately, practically foaming at the mouth at each other sometimes, but soon he says to me "settle down now" and we both calm down and put it behind us. Never in my life has it been "ok" to fight. Talk about repressed. Blah.

We're comfortable with who we are as a couple. It works for us. Any person who has gotten to know us has always remarked how we just seem born for each other and so easy together despite any age difference. My friend Hazel cried more then I did when I had to leave Egypt. She was hugging us both and wailing "But you guys LOVE each other... you love each other..." That lovely Irish lady could give the most wonderful hugs!

And yes I remember once in the middle of a fight using "SOB" (I was EXTREMELY angry) and had no idea how he was going to take it. His eyes went black as night and I knew I had really stepped in it. After a lot of frantic explaining, he then understood it wasn't intended the way he took it but I never made the mistake again. Oh... and never shut the door to an Egyptian man in anger.

The language barrier can be pretty delicate sometimes. There has been a word he has been using a lot lately that has been rubbing me raw and when I was about to blow over it one night I asked "what do you think that word means?" (through clenched teeth) He told me and discovered he didn't really know its accurate meaning. That's the trouble with English, so much slang, double meanings, and so many words for generally the same thing with slightly different meanings. We even have words of our own. LOL

well then, what was the word?

[Together4ever 1]

Morocco4ever...

Ah, so you "tested" him too, eh? I put Moh through a few of my own sneaky maneuvers. Ok, so how many ladies here have put their SO to the "test" regarding the just-for-a-visa issue? (Be honest now.)

I'm not quite sure what you mean by test

Subtle application of feminine wiles to initiate a reaction to see if he's on the up and up.

[jordanianprincess 0]

WHINE

hahahaha... no cruel comments please

If I lost control of my emotions and wept, he called it whining without realizing its connotation. When I told him ohhhhhhh boy did he start back-peddling. Now I just tell him I don't want to talk about the dreaded "v" thingy until he gets it so I can keep from losing my mind altogether and there will be no more "whining".

I think I know what he thought it meant in arabic. Sometimes they think of what they want to say in arabic and when they try to translate it, it just doesnt sound the same. The most annoying thing my fiance says to me is "Is Aunt Flo visiting or something?" Ohhhhh that just irritates me! buy he is usually right.

[doodlebug 3]

Oh I know what you mean about the word thing in the whole language issue.......

There's a word he uses, which I cannot say even to myself let alone on this board, for the female body part. He only used it once...let's put it that way. I don't think he had a CLUE what we think of that word over here.

[jordanianprincess 0]

Morocco4ever...

Ah, so you "tested" him too, eh? I put Moh through a few of my own sneaky maneuvers. Ok, so how many ladies here have put their SO to the "test" regarding the just-for-a-visa issue? (Be honest now.)

I'm not quite sure what you mean by test

Subtle application of feminine wiles to initiate a reaction to see if he's on the up and up.

Then no I never tested him. I guess I figured I didn't need to. He came and asked my dad for my hand in marriage with all of his relatives so I never questioned his motives.

[ya falaha! 0]

Hahaha until last week Mohamed thought silly meant stupid too. I told him, I'm just being silly..he said, no don't say that about yourself. I said, I didn't say anything bad. Then I asked him what he thought silly meant. He said, stupid. I had to explain that silly meant being funny or acting like a kid. I've called him silly before but he never said anything. Now I feel bad that he at one time thought I was calling him "stupid".

I have quite the potty mouth myself. Esp when I'm angry. I go OFF. I use the "F" word a LOT. Sometimes I'll be angry about something not having to do with Mohamed and I'll just rant to him. Afterwards he'll say..your mouth is like a toilet, sorry habibity but I gotta be truth with you.

My fiance gets really offended by words like that too! It kind of surprised me the first time, I can't remember what I said either. Oh, now I remembered. I called him silly and he thought that silly meant stupid! We had a huge conversation about it! I've had a few slip ups since then (let's just say I have kind of a potty mouth and I'm trying to break myself out of the habit!). After one of the last incidents, he said "do you ever hear those words out of my mouth?" and I realized the answer was no. Maybe he thought it, but he had enough respect for me to keep his mouth shut. I think they're more sensitive to the type of language used. You can get your opinions out, but that kind of language isn't necessary. It's often an easier way to get your point across, but I guess it's not always the best. (Let's not even talk about the time when I swore in Arabic!! that was definitely in the top 5 of fights!)

My fiance gets extremely offended by the following words: Jerk, Liar, Shut-up. I mean these are mild compared to other words I have used Its a totally different ball game.

And if you're married to one from ME/NA culture for a long period of time you learn the "rules". I've learned I can express my opinions and disagree but in a different manner than many American women would. I've seen women scream at their husbands or bfs in public calling them all kinds of names. ME/NA women would NEVER nor would the men tolerate that. You take your disagreements up at home in private.

Actually its not that. In the ME/NA the women are alot less likely to backtalk. They do what their husbands want. So you don't have women playing games or doing the stuff we do here in the USA , the man is the head of the family there and makes all the rule, what he says goes.

women in mena don't backtalk? oh right

Women that are born and raised there...no. Women like me that were not raised in their home countries, HELL YES

In my last trip to Jordan, I kinda liberated a few of my cousins. Lets just say their husbands were not pleased

[morocco4ever 63]

Mohammed is the first person to teach me that a fight doesn't mean "the end". We can disagree extremely passionately, practically foaming at the mouth at each other sometimes, but soon he says to me "settle down now" and we both calm down and put it behind us. Never in my life has it been "ok" to fight. Talk about repressed. Blah.

We're comfortable with who we are as a couple. It works for us. Any person who has gotten to know us has always remarked how we just seem born for each other and so easy together despite any age difference. My friend Hazel cried more then I did when I had to leave Egypt. She was hugging us both and wailing "But you guys LOVE each other... you love each other..." That lovely Irish lady could give the most wonderful hugs!

And yes I remember once in the middle of a fight using "SOB" (I was EXTREMELY angry) and had no idea how he was going to take it. His eyes went black as night and I knew I had really stepped in it. After a lot of frantic explaining, he then understood it wasn't intended the way he took it but I never made the mistake again. Oh... and never shut the door to an Egyptian man in anger.

The language barrier can be pretty delicate sometimes. There has been a word he has been using a lot lately that has been rubbing me raw and when I was about to blow over it one night I asked "what do you think that word means?" (through clenched teeth) He told me and discovered he didn't really know its accurate meaning. That's the trouble with English, so much slang, double meanings, and so many words for generally the same thing with slightly different meanings. We even have words of our own. LOL

OMG, I hate it when we are fighting and he says "as you wish"! That just makes my blood boil. After we had calmed down and he asked me why I hated it when he said it I told him "that tells me that you don't really care". He has never said it since...lool

Morocco4ever...

Ah, so you "tested" him too, eh? I put Moh through a few of my own sneaky maneuvers. Ok, so how many ladies here have put their SO to the "test" regarding the just-for-a-visa issue? (Be honest now.)

Oh yes, I was horrible. I teased him and told him I would come to him and meet him. I had never intended to go. I told him that I didn't have the money to go, and I was sure this would sway him. Actually it did for awhile, but only because he felt I wasn't serious (and I wasn't), but after a couple of months he sent me a IM and asked me if I had found love yet. This is when I knew I had developed feelings. We talked, and he told me that he had been talking to other women, but I was still on his mind. I decided at that time to get a little more serious, but I wanted to test him in different ways.

So then I would create screen names and hit on him, to see what he would do. lol...he pretty much told every screen name I created that he wasn't interested.

Other tests are to give them plenty of rope...to hang themselves. I give him so much freedom to go out with his friends and do what he wants, he won't take me up on it. He said he just wants to be with me.

He has a friend that has a wife in Canada. They talk in the evenings, and he tells her he is tired, so he pretents to be asleep and pauses the cam, then he takes off and goes out with his friends and does God knows what!

Of course the other tests. Does he want to take you out? Does he hold your hand in front of people? Does he introduce you to people he runs into? You have to be smart, and look for the little things...that is the dead give away!

All in all, if my husband didn't love me I know he would be gone by now. With the denial, and the fact that I am a major pain in the A$$. It has to be love! lol

[ya falaha! 0]

Ohhhhh.."as you wish" is deadly to me! or my other favorite.."do what you need". I could strangle the man!!

I've never tested Mohamed. I never thought to do that. Actually I wouldn't know what I'd do to test him.

Edited September 27, 2006 by moody

[doodlebug 3]

I don't think I could hit on him online since where would a girl even find him to hit on him since he's never in any chatrooms anymore.

[ya falaha! 0]

You could make up an alternative user name and talk to him. Tell him that you met in a chatroom a while ago but haven't seen him online in awhile.

Holy ####### that was just evil...don't do that! Thank God I don't chat online anymore.

[jordanianprincess 0]

He has a friend that has a wife in Canada. They talk in the evenings, and he tells her he is tired, so he pretents to be asleep and pauses the cam, then he takes off and goes out with his friends and does God knows what!

There are so many things seriously wrong with this statement that I don't even know where to begin. If she is at the point that she has to watch him sleep in the webcam and he needs to pause it in order to go out with his friends, then there are serious problems.

My fiance goes out with his friends all the time. I trust 100%, if I didn't trust him I would have never agreed to marry him. If you have no trust in a relationship, then you have nothing. Trust is a foundation and everything gets built from there.

You could make up an alternative user name and talk to him. Tell him that you met in a chatroom a while ago but haven't seen him online in awhile.

Holy ####### that was just evil...don't do that! Thank God I don't chat online anymore.

Oh my! If anyone gets to the point where they need to do this, then you need to take a serious look at your relationship. Sounds like something a teenager would do!