Precipitous Marriage?

[joevegas 67]

Wise men said, Only fools rush in

But I can't help falling in love with you

Shall I stay?

Would it be a sin

If I can't help falling in love with you

Like a river flows

Surely to the sea

Darling, so it goes

Some things are meant to be

Take my hand

Take my whole life, too

For I can't help falling in love with you.

Seriously.

[Dan & Jenni 457]

Seriously.

what im saying is that no matter how short a period of time you have known someone... you cant stand in the way of love

[Dan & Jenni 457]

what im saying is that no matter how short a period of time you have known someone... you cant stand in the way of love

but i probably should of written that on the end of the lyrics haha

[Leatherneck 693]

I hate reading about couples who meet on filipanheart.com or whatever it is and then you see 40 or 50 yo men with little girls for fiancees. Its like buying a sex slave imo cause most filipina with these old men are trying to escape a bad place or hoping for a better life on the other side which isnt always the case. As for me i met my fiancee on a business trip to the cayman islands and i flew there 7 times over a 1 in a half yer period, I got to know her as a person not just chatting online but actually in person. I wasnt looking for a filipina or anyone for that matter it just so happened thats what she was when i met her, anyways look theres better ways to meet people than on a website thousands of miles away. If you want to find a filipina i say try the cayman islands first, its like little Philippines and youll find filipinas in about every store in Georgetown and atleast its a hell of a lot less expensive to fly visit and get to know them first.

Why would you bother to "hate reading about couples" that might otherwise be 'happy' regardless of where they met.

I personally know two men that married their then 19 year old wives when they themselves were 47 and 49. One couple has been married for 12 years and the other for more than 17 years. Because a man is 40 or 50, is he not entiltled to that which makes him happy, even if the female is much younger?

And what you see as "little girls" might be a very mature young lady despite her age and in the eyes of a 40 or 50 man, represents happiness to him. Besides, as long as the fiancee is of legal age, why sit in judgement of such couples?

What others do with regards to their relationship has ZERO bearing on you and your happiness.

Of course you're free to feel anyway you like, but a live and let live attitude would serve you better, as well as those with similiar sentiments as yours.

Good luck with your future marriage!

[Leatherneck 693]

what is the true definition of dating or courtship?i think most of us are confusing the two words...a matured man and woman who have the same interests and ideology bout marriage can know within hours wat they both want.1,5,10yrs is not a time enuff to know anybody...most our parents never knew who we really are

Ill say here dat its not illegal to meet sumone in the morning and marry them before night fall....if not for immigration who will care about when and how u met each other...

What? Ok, I'll give you 1 year might not be enough to know someone. But if you don't know your mate in 5 or 10 years, you will never know them.

[dukeandduchess 141]

"A love that defies all logic is sometimes the most logical thing in the world."

I could also quote my main man Tuvok from ST: Voyager but that may be too nerdy.

[Dan & Jenni 457]

I could also quote my main man Tuvok from ST: Voyager but that may be too nerdy.

DO IT YOU NERD!!

[cartaverde 12]

I think once you meet The One that you want to spend the rest of your time with, you'll know it. It doesn't matter if you then marry the next week or in 15 years. (Or if the future with The One does not require a marriage-based visa to spend the rest of your Happily Ever After together, it doesn't matter if you'll even never marry but just be Happily Ever After together as you please).

And some people seem to know only after a long time of dating that the one is "the one". Mayne "good enough to marry", or maybe they were just such fun people to hang out with for a long time that it didn't really matter whether you got married or not. Like in many parts of Europe nowadays, you can be together, either just dating or living together, with someone for many many years without getting married. Does it matter? For most practical purposes when neither needs the marriage for visa, and when neither has any preconceptions about sex being allowed only after a priest's blessing for the relation or for having children not outside wedlock, or when there are no great tax benefits for one or both if the couple is legally married, I don't think it matters. Get married when (or if) you both feel like it and really want to get married, and ideally when you know the other person well enough. Travel together, go thru some normal life crises together, see how the other person is in the daily life and under stress. When you are absolutely sure you two are happy together and will be happy together even when you'll be old (without the dream of any relationship being just dancing on the roses), go for it.

I think 2-3 weeks only of knowing the other is a bit short time for rushing to marriage, but there are still parts of the world where it's also common for people to be put to a marriage contract when they were kids, or without them having met each other at all, the whole contract having been arranged between the families. Or go back in the history anywhere not much more than a century and one discovers the concept of romance based marriage is a very young invention. But no matter whether you got married after that 3 weeks of knowing each other or 30 years after being together, it's not very nice to criticize the others by how soon or late they should have (or should not have) got married. If you want to use a catalyst question instead (before they do get married ideally), I've noticed that questions like "why are you together?", "how did you guys meet?" and similar are very great indicators of future happiness. If he or she doesn't look happy when they answer that question but look away somewhere else or look serious, that'll tell something. The good answers to those questions? They should remember (and their body language should confirm that) why they fell in love with each other and why they still love.