Have you already been together a while

[Messybrownhair 251]

Been here for 9 months now and its been going great. I think at this point I have fully adjusted. I used to cry a lot and be so bored and that was when I was still waiting for the GC and had nothing to do. Now since I went back to school, I have been so busy that I long for that time again! I still think about my parents everyday, we talk daily but I know I will go home when I graduate so I am just looking forward to that. I just passed my driver's test so I feel like I have already completed everything and I can just relax and wait for ROC.

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

I disagree. I think in many ways it's easier on non-english speakers because it's ALL different. Here things are similar to Aus but different enough that it's very frustrating. I don't expect to be misunderstood. I hate being told I'm wrong because the word I've used for something for 28 years is different here.

I also read about "Pinay support groups" in many areas. Pinay TV channels, food etc. I have to ship stuff, there's no store nearby. Any food similar to home isn't the same and it's usually not a good difference. There are NO other Aussie's in my area. No support group. No Aussie channels. Vonage has cheap deal for the Philippines, Australia not so much because it's not as common so I would be paying quite a lot a month just to talk to my family on a regular basis.

It's also better living conditions in many way for Filipino's. Not as good for Aussie's. Worse healthcare here compared to Aus.

Just because I speak English doesn't mean this has been easy. I've been here 2 years and it's still often a daily struggle.

Just for the record my Fiance speaks pefect English and has better grammar than I do. Ain't that a hoot.. LOL. A large majority of Philippines speak at least basic English and many many are fluent. All most all business and signs are in English.

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

Thanks for the replies. All is well here. I should never sit around and read sites like dragonladies.org in my spare time, which i did yesterday in my spare time between football games.. My love really did none of the things they warned to be careful of. .

As for us. My soon to be, speaks perfect English and comes from a family that does not need help from me.. I have a good job, no kids. I have lots of Pinay/American couple friends already here.. She has already met one of my couple friends when they were visiting there, and her and the Pinay wife hit it off immediately. and have become good friends. I already eat supper once a week with three other Pinay/American couples. So she will already have at least two good friends here that she has been talking to for several months. We have big dances here at Christmas and Valentines sponsored by the Philippine/A,American society , some of which I have already been to and know many of the members. I am very open to her culture and it will be part of our lives.

So I am hoping it will help that she will already have other Pinay here that she knows and talks to and can get advice from. These are good women who have been married 8-10 years and have kids by their American husband.

Of course there is so much to do. She will not work, but I am guessing she will get bored with that quickly. I have told her she can go back to school some, work part-time, volunteer, or stay home, whatever she likes .

And of course I have to teach her to drive. That should be fun. I have a truck and a souped up 08 Mustang GT pulling over 400 HP. Guess which on she wants to learn to drive in. She does not know it but I am looking at a Prius for her . LOL

Anyway thanks for all the positive replies, I needed that. I guess like any marriage you never know but in my heart I think I am making the right choice.

Oh and as far as what people think. I never really cared about that. Some people think I have gone nuts. I have had a few comments like "so your getting a wife/Slave" blah blah blah. I just generally laugh it off, and can usally look at them and say,, You have been married how many times " ? or didn't you just tell me last week how mean your wife was. My sister told me I had lost my mind then 1 month later filed for divorce from a husband she has not loved in 20 years... so there you go. It's right for us and that is all that matters.

I do have a crazy ex-GF that has vowed that I will not do this, and has sent my fiancee and her brother messages on FB. She still rides by and texts but I really think once she is here that will stop. That is the only problem we have had.

Like any relationship it takes work and I pray this one will be a good one. Thanks

[happyblessedme 12]

Thanks for the replies. All is well here. I should never sit around and read sites like dragonladies.org in my spare time, which i did yesterday in my spare time between football games.. My love really did none of the things they warned to be careful of. .

As for us. My soon to be, speaks perfect English and comes from a family that does not need help from me.. I have a good job, no kids. I have lots of Pinay/American couple friends already here.. She has already met one of my couple friends when they were visiting there, and her and the Pinay wife hit it off immediately. and have become good friends. I already eat supper once a week with three other Pinay/American couples. So she will already have at least two good friends here that she has been talking to for several months. We have big dances here at Christmas and Valentines sponsored by the Philippine/A,American society , some of which I have already been to and know many of the members. I am very open to her culture and it will be part of our lives.

So I am hoping it will help that she will already have other Pinay here that she knows and talks to and can get advice from. These are good women who have been married 8-10 years and have kids by their American husband.

Of course there is so much to do. She will not work, but I am guessing she will get bored with that quickly. I have told her she can go back to school some, work part-time, volunteer, or stay home, whatever she likes .

And of course I have to teach her to drive. That should be fun. I have a truck and a souped up 08 Mustang GT pulling over 400 HP. Guess which on she wants to learn to drive in. She does not know it but I am looking at a Prius for her . LOL

Anyway thanks for all the positive replies, I needed that. I guess like any marriage you never know but in my heart I think I am making the right choice.

Oh and as far as what people think. I never really cared about that. Some people think I have gone nuts. I have had a few comments like "so your getting a wife/Slave" blah blah blah. I just generally laugh it off, and can usally look at them and say,, You have been married how many times " ? or didn't you just tell me last week how mean your wife was. My sister told me I had lost my mind then 1 month later filed for divorce from a husband she has not loved in 20 years... so there you go. It's right for us and that is all that matters.

I do have a crazy ex-GF that has vowed that I will not do this, and has sent my fiancee and her brother messages on FB. She still rides by and texts but I really think once she is here that will stop. That is the only problem we have had.

Like any relationship it takes work and I pray this one will be a good one. Thanks

Been Happilly Married 4 yrs. and 6 months.The first year was an adjustment period but in the long run LOVE conquers all. My 2 kid from previous relationship is here with us now and nothing has change. We just love each other more so we have a 3 yr. old son who looks exactly like his dad. It really depends on both of u.Take a lot of effort to make any relationship work.

[rlogan 2,036]

Been together four years and there are no problems in the relationship. We're both amazed at how difficult it seems to be for others to adjust. When I am in the Philippines for months at a time I do not need to see other Americans, eat American food, or watch American TV or whatever. Same with her. She just needs to communicate with her family.

She is very, very surprised at the police state we live in because the propaganda is all ####### about how free Americans are.

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

Been together four years and there are no problems in the relationship. We're both amazed at how difficult it seems to be for others to adjust. When I am in the Philippines for months at a time I do not need to see other Americans, eat American food, or watch American TV or whatever. Same with her. She just needs to communicate with her family.

She is very, very surprised at the police state we live in because the propaganda is all ####### about how free Americans are.

Police state ? Where do you live ? That is here in America ? I am taking she is she shocked by how much money the govt takes from all of us to give to those who did not earn it. However that is socialism not totalitarianism. .

[Leatherneck 693]

Been together four years and there are no problems in the relationship. We're both amazed at how difficult it seems to be for others to adjust. When I am in the Philippines for months at a time I do not need to see other Americans, eat American food, or watch American TV or whatever. Same with her. She just needs to communicate with her family.

She is very, very surprised at the police state we live in because the propaganda is all ####### about how free Americans are.

There is so much truth in that statement.

Free to follow the thousands of new nanny state laws pushed out each year.

Edited November 7, 2011 by Leatherneck

[Kiv 32]

Have been here close to 8 years now and I still miss my family a lot, I go to see them as much as possible, I have missed many important dates in the lives of my parents, brothers and sisters, each time is harder to follow up on friends lives (thanks god for internet). Having the chance to travel at least once a year helps a lot.

I still love my husband and he loves me, no children here just us, we have gone through many things together, some so sad that I don’t know how could I have passed them without him, some very fun that I know I would have not enjoyed as much if I was not with him. I lost some things coming here but I also gained. Still struggling with the language but life is good.

[Hank_ 9,174]

I disagree. I think in many ways it's easier on non-english speakers because it's ALL different. Here things are similar to Aus but different enough that it's very frustrating. I don't expect to be misunderstood. I hate being told I'm wrong because the word I've used for something for 28 years is different here.

I also read about "Pinay support groups" in many areas. Pinay TV channels, food etc. I have to ship stuff, there's no store nearby. Any food similar to home isn't the same and it's usually not a good difference. There are NO other Aussie's in my area. No support group. No Aussie channels. Vonage has cheap deal for the Philippines, Australia not so much because it's not as common so I would be paying quite a lot a month just to talk to my family on a regular basis.

It's also better living conditions in many way for Filipino's. Not as good for Aussie's. Worse healthcare here compared to Aus.

Just because I speak English doesn't mean this has been easy. I've been here 2 years and it's still often a daily struggle.

Yet ... this is the Philippines specific forum so yes his question was aimed at others from the Phils.

I do understand you issues, especially with different foods , I found that an issue when I was in the Phils for the month. Language can be an issue just moving across the country here...

[Hank_ 9,174]

Thanks for the replies. All is well here. I should never sit around and read sites like dragonladies.org in my spare time, which i did yesterday in my spare time between football games.. My love really did none of the things they warned to be careful of. .

As for us. My soon to be, speaks perfect English and comes from a family that does not need help from me.. I have a good job, no kids. I have lots of Pinay/American couple friends already here.. She has already met one of my couple friends when they were visiting there, and her and the Pinay wife hit it off immediately. and have become good friends. I already eat supper once a week with three other Pinay/American couples. So she will already have at least two good friends here that she has been talking to for several months. We have big dances here at Christmas and Valentines sponsored by the Philippine/A,American society , some of which I have already been to and know many of the members. I am very open to her culture and it will be part of our lives.

So I am hoping it will help that she will already have other Pinay here that she knows and talks to and can get advice from. These are good women who have been married 8-10 years and have kids by their American husband.

Of course there is so much to do. She will not work, but I am guessing she will get bored with that quickly. I have told her she can go back to school some, work part-time, volunteer, or stay home, whatever she likes .

And of course I have to teach her to drive. That should be fun. I have a truck and a souped up 08 Mustang GT pulling over 400 HP. Guess which on she wants to learn to drive in. She does not know it but I am looking at a Prius for her . LOL

Anyway thanks for all the positive replies, I needed that. I guess like any marriage you never know but in my heart I think I am making the right choice.

Oh and as far as what people think. I never really cared about that. Some people think I have gone nuts. I have had a few comments like "so your getting a wife/Slave" blah blah blah. I just generally laugh it off, and can usally look at them and say,, You have been married how many times " ? or didn't you just tell me last week how mean your wife was. My sister told me I had lost my mind then 1 month later filed for divorce from a husband she has not loved in 20 years... so there you go. It's right for us and that is all that matters.

I do have a crazy ex-GF that has vowed that I will not do this, and has sent my fiancee and her brother messages on FB. She still rides by and texts but I really think once she is here that will stop. That is the only problem we have had.

Like any relationship it takes work and I pray this one will be a good one. Thanks

Not sure why you do not block your EX-GF on FB...? Easy enough to do.

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

Yet ... this is the Philippines specific forum so yes his question was aimed at others from the Phils.

I do understand you issues, especially with different foods , I found that an issue when I was in the Phils for the month. Language can be an issue just moving across the country here...

Tain't no way ant kinda English is any more better than another other kind. It all be thee same. Ain't dat right ?

Not sure why you do not block your EX-GF on FB...? Easy enough to do.

I do have her blocked. She made a fake Pinay profile and used it to send them messages. Used Google to send broken Tagalog messages to a person from Cebu.. way too much drama but I think that is all behind us.

[ethel_eric 2]

hello;

I have married exactly 5 yrs on Oct 8...I would say, it has been blissful. I came here from PH in 5/2008 and started working full time right away on 12/2008 to present. My husband works full time too but we managed to spend quality time together at nights and weekends. I have 3 kids and no common child together. Our marriage has been happy one and we never had big problems adjusting at all. My husband is an extremely good father to my kids and a good provider. We are planning to buy our first house next year and look forward to long and happy marriage.

[rheanick 42]

I am interested to hear from any couples in here, that already have their mate here in the US or have been married for a while. How is it working out ?

Doing good. Typical ups and downs of marriage life.

Feedback from friends: Hubby and I look happy

Feedback of hubby on our relationship: He is recommending to his single friends that if they want someone to really take care of them they should consider a filipina wife. [My response to this comment, they have to get a responsible filipina coz bad ones still exist. ]

BTW, I am not my hubby's slave... i have maids that clean our house.

[Thunderstruck 1]

My wife and I have been married for 5 months now and she has been here 8 months. We are very happy. She makes it very easy. She never was homesick (except when she was ill for a few days with a fever), she said she was never bored even before she began volunteering at a daycare center who has since hired her (after receiving her EAD). She takes caring for me, our home and our possessions very seriously. She is never materialistic and the only time she wants to spend money is to occasionally go to one of the Asian buffets we have in our area. On top of that, she is the sweetest, happiest, and most fun-loving person i have ever been around. I couldn't ask for a better wife and I think she feels the same. I love her now even more than when I married her.

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

Doing good. Typical ups and downs of marriage life.

Feedback from friends: Hubby and I look happy

Feedback of hubby on our relationship: He is recommending to his single friends that if they want someone to really take care of them they should consider a filipina wife. [My response to this comment, they have to get a responsible filipina coz bad ones still exist. ]

BTW, I am not my hubby's slave... i have maids that clean our house.

Thanks for all the postive responses. She will be here this weekend.