Bringing Mother-in-law to USA for long visit?

[Jojo92122 1,924]

Google "visitor visa daughter's pregnancy" to find some interesting read.

[Dean_De 61]

Good thing you don't work at the border. You sound like the nightmare customs and border patrol agent looking for an excuse for terrorizing a grandmother for visiting her grandchild.

This is pretty clearly not an employment contract, but family visitation.

i think Jojo minunderstood the meaning of term used between nanay and nanny

[Ron and Rhea 42]

Hold on, hold on, are we speaking about his mom in law or a Nanny..? Did the OP not say nanay?

[Dean_De 61]

Hold on, hold on, are we speaking about his mom in law or a Nanny..? Did the OP not say nanay?

the OP is referring to his mother-in-law / nanay which is from Capiz

[rlogan 2,036]

You are right. I did mistake "nanay" for "nanny."

US immigration laws can be tricky, and how a person presents his/her case at the visitor visa interview can be the difference between getting a visa and a denial.

Repeating the fear-mongering does not make it true. She is visiting her family. That is the full extent of how tricky this is.

Really??? Now, I have threaten the OP?????? Did I say I was going to do anything?

You did more than that. This tactic is called "minimization" coupled with "playing the victim". Here you were innocently accusing someone of a felony on a public forum (defamation) and absolutely yes threatening them that gestapo-soldiers are going to arrest them at the border for visiting their granchildren. And now you want to pretend you were minding your own business and here people are attacking you for no reason.

You have stated that you misunderstood a word, but this article is clearly your foundation, and it is stupid self-promotion by this person. We need her to say that we are visiting our grandchildren and not signing an employment contract as a day care provider?

The solution is to tell the truth.

This is what I said, so repeating it back to me is sure interesting.

I understand you saw this article and thought it would be a cool way to repeat exactly what the author did: create phony drama where there is none, then come to the "rescue", and we'll all be grateful you saved us from ourselves.

But it is like saying you should be careful and not say you are a terrorist bent on blowing up NYC when you enter, when you are there to see Disneyland. It isn't quite that stupid, but it is really, really dumb to pretend grandma is an employee. That was the whole premise of this article, that someone would be so idiotic they would claim themselves an employee. There was no language error in the article you used.

Edited November 1, 2011 by rlogan

[flicker 5]

i have friends here who have alot of money try to bring nanay over but untill they became citizens they were all denied because the mom didnt have alot of money,house,business..etc..in the philippines to prove she would go back but after they were citizens they were able to bring her over,,good luck!!!!!wooohoooo!!!!

[TeapotGirl 66]

i have friends here who have alot of money try to bring nanay over but untill they became citizens they were all denied because the mom didnt have alot of money,house,business..etc..in the philippines to prove she would go back but after they were citizens they were able to bring her over,,good luck!!!!!wooohoooo!!!!

This is true. The only person I know that made is my neighbor who's a practicing nurse in Maryland and they got a big house and business here too.

Edited November 2, 2011 by teapotgurl1983

[MalaysianGirl 26]

OP: It is going to be incredibly hard for your mom-in-law to go to the US on a tourist visa (meaning B1/B2 visa), unless she has incredibly strong ties to the Philippines and she is rich (as someone has already said in this thread).

All the best.

[Jojo92122 1,924]

Repeating the fear-mongering does not make it true. She is visiting her family. That is the full extent of how tricky this is.

You did more than that. This tactic is called "minimization" coupled with "playing the victim". Here you were innocently accusing someone of a felony on a public forum (defamation) and absolutely yes threatening them that gestapo-soldiers are going to arrest them at the border for visiting their granchildren. And now you want to pretend you were minding your own business and here people are attacking you for no reason.

You have stated that you misunderstood a word, but this article is clearly your foundation, and it is stupid self-promotion by this person. We need her to say that we are visiting our grandchildren and not signing an employment contract as a day care provider?

This is what I said, so repeating it back to me is sure interesting.

I understand you saw this article and thought it would be a cool way to repeat exactly what the author did: create phony drama where there is none, then come to the "rescue", and we'll all be grateful you saved us from ourselves.

But it is like saying you should be careful and not say you are a terrorist bent on blowing up NYC when you enter, when you are there to see Disneyland. It isn't quite that stupid, but it is really, really dumb to pretend grandma is an employee. That was the whole premise of this article, that someone would be so idiotic they would claim themselves an employee. There was no language error in the article you used.

Wow. You are really something. Please quote my posts where I made any threats. Please quote my posts where I accuse the OP of committing a felony? Please quote my posts where I said the MIL would be arrested.

IF YOU CAN PROVE I MADE ANY THREATS OF ARREST HERE OR QUOTE ME ACCUSSING THE OP OF COMMITTING A FELONY, PLEASE REPORT ME TO THE MODERATORS. THEY CAN DELETE MY ACCOUNT IF YOU CAN SHOW ANY OF THIS. PUT UP OR SHUT UP.

It's really easy for you to make up facts and accusations isn't it? Have you heard of "projection?" It's where you falsely accuse other of doing something you do.

Edited November 2, 2011 by Jojo92122

[TeapotGirl 66]

i think Jojo minunderstood the meaning of term used between nanay and nanny

You are right. I did mistake "nanay" for "nanny."

The last article may be informative. People have been denied visitor visas for saying they intend to come to the US to provide care and help during and after a pregnancy. As the article points out, there are cultural differences between the US and other countries. US immigration laws can be tricky, and how a person presents his/her case at the visitor visa interview can be the difference between getting a visa and a denial.

I am not trying to be Dr. Phil here but they want the mother-in-law to come so she could help her daughter with the baby and kinda be a nanny. He mentioned "LONG VISIT" meaning not just usual drop by. I do not know with the OP's wife but this typical with Filipinos specially firs time mothers and used to live in a rural area. Not only it is stressful, they have a lot of superstitious beliefs when it comes to the baby.

Edited November 2, 2011 by teapotgurl1983

[Theresa0828 65]

Is Jojo92122's fiancee or wife a filipina? Perhaps he misinterpreted the OP's question... Nanay means mother in Filipino dialect. I do not think that the OP want to hire his mother-in-law as a nanny, but just to be there for his wife during the adjustment period of being a new mother. This is also a common practice in the Philippines, wherein elders assists the new mother, teaching her a thing or two...

[Jojo92122 1,924]

Is Jojo92122's fiancee or wife a filipina? Perhaps he misinterpreted the OP's question... Nanay means mother in Filipino dialect. I do not think that the OP want to hire his mother-in-law as a nanny, but just to be there for his wife during the adjustment period of being a new mother. This is also a common practice in the Philippines, wherein elders assists the new mother, teaching her a thing or two...

I misread "nanay" as "nanny." I admitted to that in Post #16.

I understand that it is a common practice for family to assist with a new mother. However, it is rare in America for a grandmother to come and stay for a year to take care of her daughter and grandchild.

My point is that how "nanay" presents her case at the visitor visa interview will matter. She is more likely to get a visa if she say that her primary purpose is to visit rather than to care for her daughter and grandchild. Because a US person can be hired to care for the daughter and grandchild, the US considers this activity to be work. A visitor is not allowed to work. A visitor is allowed to visit.

[TeapotGirl 66]

I understand that it is a common practice for family to assist with a new mother. However, it is rare in America for a grandmother to come and stay for a year to take care of her daughter and grandchild.

My point is that how "nanay" presents her case at the visitor visa interview will matter. She is more likely to get a visa if she say that her primary purpose is to visit rather than to care for her daughter and grandchild. Because a US person can be hired to care for the daughter and grandchild, the US considers this activity to be work. A visitor is not allowed to work. A visitor is allowed to visit.

If the "nanay" was issued with the visitors visa, who knows what she's going to do in the house she's are already in the US and stays with the daughter? My cousin got multiple entry visa and just going around, helping his legally immigrant sister with the house and their mother's estate in NJ, unpaid.

But as been said they won't make it if "nanay" isn't rich.

Edited November 2, 2011 by teapotgurl1983

[Girl from Celebes 588]

Hi all,

I was wondering if anyone had success doing this. My wife and I are planning to begin to start a family next year at some point. She really would like her nanay to be here for 6 months to a year after she has the baby. I've heard it is very difficult to get a traveler's visa from the Philippines. Is the traveler's visa the only way to go? Nanay lives in a rural area of Capiz province and has never traveled outside the Philippines before. If not a traveler's visa, is there some other way?

Thanks in advance!

I'm not sure whether if embassy would apply local custom even for tourist visa . But, if not, my friend has had experience to dealt with it. She wanted her mother comes to visit her after she met her grand daughters the last couple of years. (She lives in Austin, Texas, and she's from Indonesia who married USC).

She applied tourits visa for her and being a sponsor and also letter statement that she would provide everything to her while on visit. Her mother is not rich and lives in small village. Her visa was granted, but I guess there is a certain amount times that she can stay there. My friend's mother visited her about a month. Not more than that.

[DaveE111 10]

Bottom line, unless the traveler is very wealthy or incredibly lucky a tourist visa is almost impossible. We have a filipino couple visiting now who are wealthy, and both have had B2 visas for years. They wanted to bring their 15 year old daughter this trip and the US Embassy Manila denied her visa saying that if the entire family traveled to the states, there would be no reason to return.

I have a step daughter in the Philippines I have been trying to assist in getting a tourist visa for over a year. Refusal after refusal. I will not give up though, and hope that eventually the Embassy will relent. My US Senator is writing a personal letter of support this time, but he says it usually does not help.

What is really strange about Manila is that there are some families that seem to have no problem getting tourst visas for the entire family. Crapshoot at best.