My wife took my child

[Boiler 46,336]

He can't get a visitor visa, that's the problem. if he can prove that the child is his, then he might be able to get a visa.

But not until the child can sponsor him, 21.

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

Being a father entails more than being a sperm donor.

Clearly, if your wife does not want you to be in her child's life, does not want you to be his father, and you live 8,000 (or so) miles away on a foreign continent in a completely different culture and for all practical purposes world and have no way of traveling to America, or even make contact with the child who may or may not move many times until he's grown up enough to realize that whatever his mom told him why his dad isn't in his life must be the way it is, then you got handed a very bad set of cards. You can spend silly money in trying to interfere with your wife's plans, or you can accept the message Allah has sent you and move on with your life.

Perhaps getting some distance from this maybe a good first step.

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

But not until the child can sponsor him, 21.

No, that's something else entirely. We're not talking about the I-130 but that is certainly one way to do it. The OP doesn't want to wait that long and proof of relationship is still needed.

[luckytxn 2,265]

But not until the child can sponsor him, 21.

Permanent ban will make even this impossible. He has admitted that he was an accomplice to fraud and said he had proof and was going to send the proof to 'get her' and said he didn't care if he got a permanent ban from it and didn't need the U.S.

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Well, No one is perfect and you wouldn't investigate someone you didn't doubt in so much and you loved and i never said i was sure she was a psycho , i said i think she is one , My wife was staying in my house so i know for sure that its my son , she doesn't know anyone here but me and my family and there is no males except my father and the whole family was always home , i aint that dumb , so you wake up and stop being so attacking in your way of talking , it will get you no good and if you feed your time is wasted then you shouldn't be posting here, and your wife might not be sexy her self or your husband , that doesn't mean you don't love him/her , and you don't know me well and don't know how iam with her or with her kids , so you don't need to make assumptions ..thank you...n btw i don't need your sympathy

No one here has offered you sympathy, only how to get out of a bad situation. If that's not what you want to hear, then don't waste everyone's time with bad mouthing other people's advice. You can't make up your mind, you called her a psycho and a fraud in your posts and now you don't know if you love her. You tell us a sob story but you were a party to fraud and someone should have told you never to lie, least of all to the USCIS. You have never said what happened, only that you're a victim. The assumption people have made is that you're insensitive dolt and so far you've proven that to be true....thank you

[Boiler 46,336]

No, that's something else entirely. We're not talking about the I-130 but that is certainly one way to do it. The OP doesn't want to wait that long and proof of relationship is still needed.

I am sure he does not want to wait.

But tat is the only option visa the child.

If he does have a lifetime ban then it does not really make any difference as the child would not be a qualifying relative for a waiver.

[NoWayBack 0]

Being a father entails more than being a sperm donor.

Clearly, if your wife does not want you to be in her child's life, does not want you to be his father, and you live 8,000 (or so) miles away on a foreign continent in a completely different culture and for all practical purposes world and have no way of traveling to America, or even make contact with the child who may or may not move many times until he's grown up enough to realize that whatever his mom told him why his dad isn't in his life must be the way it is, then you got handed a very bad set of cards. You can spend silly money in trying to interfere with your wife's plans, or you can accept the message Allah has sent you and move on with your life.

Perhaps getting some distance from this maybe a good first step.

Thank you a lot and i have already accepted the message of Allah.

[NoWayBack 0]

No one here has offered you sympathy, only how to get out of a bad situation. If that's not what you want to hear, then don't waste everyone's time with bad mouthing other people's advice. You can't make up your mind, you called her a psycho and a fraud in your posts and now you don't know if you love her. You tell us a sob story but you were a party to fraud and someone should have told you never to lie, least of all to the USCIS. You have never said what happened, only that you're a victim. The assumption people have made is that you're insensitive dolt and so far you've proven that to be true....thank you

Obviously you don't really read what am saying and just trying to make me the liar , your very defensive for some reason which i don't know what and obviously you don't see your self like someone who likes to attack , as i mentioned before i said i think she is a psycho , i never confirmed that she was psycho , and before she does that to me yeah i loved her more than anyone could ever imagine so really you need to just stop trying to twist everything and being so defensive and i think thats because of something in your past ...and who said that we lied to the USCIS , she was a fraud of something else entirly ...nothing that involves me....and 1 last thing , if you would want a proof of me telling the truth , you would never get one because of your way of talking...Thanks

[Nasturtium 500]

Soooo.... you say you were planning to scam her and keep mentioning her sexiness level because that means... what? You're pretty fixated on it. Is it a matter of you feeling like you should get some kind of award for managing to create a child with her in the first place? Closed your eyes and thought of Egypt? Well, newsflash, relationships come with consequences and whatnot. People have told you how to handle the situation. Scandal was actually in the same situation and therefore has the best knowledge of what to even do. It sucks if you can't afford to deal with it, and I get that-- but there are only so many ways to deal with things. There is no magic fix. Your best bet is that if you can amicably come to an agreement of some point where you mutually meet up in a third country. Chances are, she feels she can't trust you. Being that you admitted to scamming her, I'd say her Spidey senses are probably right.

[Boiler 46,336]

and start saving for child support.

[thelastpetitioner 218]

You are such an egotistical scumbag.

" she wanted to always have me with her so she came here to get pregnant"? Really? Who do you think you are? Grow the hell up,you're 23. Cases like this are the reason its getting harder and harder to get visas here in middle east and africa

[Nasturtium 500]

You are such an egotistical scumbag.

" she wanted to always have me with her so she came here to get pregnant"? Really? Who do you think you are? Grow the hell up,you're 23. Cases like this are the reason its getting harder and harder to get visas here in middle east and africa

You're not feeling his irresistible charm? Maybe you're also not sexy enough to handle him.

[MochiKamo 93]

This part bother me: "she knew eventually i was gonna leave her...so she basically came here to get pregnant so she could always keep me with her since we had a child together..." You basically admit that you were with her for fraudulent reasons... Maybe it's the English barrier but honestly without help I really don't know what you can do. Unfortunately it would require money.

I couldn't take the original poster seriously after reading that gem.

Being a father entails more than being a sperm donor.

I can understand the usage of "our child" but being a father is more than being a sperm donor and I don't see any "my child" about this situation.

You are such an egotistical scumbag.

" she wanted to always have me with her so she came here to get pregnant"? Really? Who do you think you are? Grow the hell up,you're 23. Cases like this are the reason its getting harder and harder to get visas here in middle east and africa

You can say that again.

[thelastpetitioner 218]

You're not feeling his irresistible charm? Maybe you're also not sexy enough to handle him.

Most likely.

I can see why she might have decided to take the child and run. He has no idea how women " work". If she left you,it means she doesn't want you,means she wants you out of her life,why the #### would she want apiece of you with her forever?

I have it to be fair tho,it's her fault as much as it is his

Edited November 1, 2011 by thelastpetitioner

[Nasturtium 500]

Most likely.

I can see why she might have decided to take the child and run. He has no idea how women " work". If she left you,it means she doesn't want you,means she wants you out of her life,why the #### would she want apiece of you with her forever?

I have it to be fair tho,it's her fault as much as it is his

Yep. Too true!