My wife took my child

[Golden Gate 530]

Hello VJ

I don't know where to start but anyways this is my first time to post on VJ ..My wife( US citizen) and i have been married for 2 years now , she applied for immigration visa for me CR-1 and the case was sent back , anyways , my wife came here after then and stayed around 3 months with me then went back to the US when she was pregnant with my son, then she promised me that she were gonna deliver in my country so we both can see our child , then days passed and passed and she kept saying she had problems and i knew all that was excuses then finally i booked her a flight and then i found out that she never went to the airport and she told me that she couldn't make it in time ...anyways i knew it ...and it was the most depressing thing i had in my life ...then my wife just delivered there and i didn't get to see my son ...i applied for a tourist visa ...and got denied ...then my wife wouldn't open the cam for me for days and days then show me my son once then make me wait more days....till today ...she decided that i can't see my son anymore and hung up the cam on me and i did that to my self..well you all would be wondering what made her do that...well...am 23 and my wife is 40...my wife had put all her family above me and always put me down...she knew eventually i was gonna leave her...so she basically came here to get pregnant so she could always keep me with her since we had a child together...my family told me that but i didn't believe them and i trusted her...she came here to stay 6 months so we could apply by DCF but then she told me she had to leave as soon as she knew she was preg...i told her to take the pregnancy test and she wouldn't till i finally got her to do it and she was preg...she said CPS were gonna take her children and so on ....also her daughter was over 21 so basically she had np and nothing to worry about....anyways....now i can't see my son and i don't know what to do....anyone want to ask about anything..feel free to ask it..

What if she had stayed to have the baby there? What would have happened then?

[MyLittlePony 340]

Sounds like now someone is starving for attention created account to amuse themselves.

[scandal 951]

Something doesn't add up. Have you been able to determine you are the biological father ? Have you had a DNA test to make sure ? Why wouldn't she show you the baby on cam ? Is there some reason why she would want to hold on to you ? Are you that special ? There is something missing from this equation because none of this makes sense.

I agree with this, Nagi. There must be more to this story.

To the OP: I can't give you any advice about how to get your rights as a father. It will be very difficult for you to do unless the child's mother wants to cooperate. That I know from my own experience. I too am a father in one country (US) with children in another country (Brazil). They live there with their mother. We have a divorce agreement from yet a third country which spells out my visitation rights, and rights to access via Skype, email, phone etc. She flaunts that agreement and has never respected it in 3 years since the divorce and they moved to her home country. Like you, I would need to hire lawyers to adjudicate the divorce agreement in Brazil and have it enforced by the local courts. All of this takes considerable time and money. There is really no other way in such an international disputed custody situation. Your situation is different in that you are not divorced and don't have any legal agreement to enforce, and in fact are not even sure the child is yours.

Good luck.

Sounds like now someone is starving for attention created account to amuse themselves.

I thought about that. Maybe. Or maybe not.

[Boiler 45,541]

Probably a troll.

But:

What US court is going to agree to send a USC to Egypt?

And he is going to get her put in jail for submitting a fraudulent document, come on.

[luckytxn 2,264]

What documents were fraudulent and how were they fraudulent?

[sara..... 371]

my memory might be really off today.......but wasn't there someone that came on here not to long ago that was asking questions about being pregnant and afraid to stay in Egypt because she thought the husband could refuse to allow her to leave Egypt?

could that be related to this?

sara

[Golden Gate 530]

my memory might be really off today.......but wasn't there someone that came on here not to long ago that was asking questions about being pregnant and afraid to stay in Egypt because she thought the husband could refuse to allow her to leave Egypt?

could that be related to this?

sara

Yes, I looked that up, but it seemed the timing was a little different, and they had actually been living in the U.S. together, and went to Egypt for a visit and he wanted to stay there.

[kytwell 179]

Is your name on the birth certificate?

If she's not seeking any child support from you, don't sweat anything. When and if she comes after you for child support then you can go about getting yourself some custody/visitation rights. In 18 years when the child is of age, they'll seek you out. What goes around comes around and she'll get hers in the end. SOME women use children as a weapon against fathers. They're the ultimate weapon to use against us, as the women who resort to this tactic don't have a motherly instinct or decent bone in their body. Father's who had the misfortune of breeding with this type of ilk have two options: simply walk away or fight for your rights with every available tool and asset at your disposal and still in a good majority of the cases you may not end up gaining anything and then you'll resort to option 1.

Edited October 27, 2011 by kytwell

[NoWayBack 0]

This part bother me: "she knew eventually i was gonna leave her...so she basically came here to get pregnant so she could always keep me with her since we had a child together..." You basically admit that you were with her for fraudulent reasons... Maybe it's the English barrier but honestly without help I really don't know what you can do. Unfortunately it would require money.

Yea, she was playing head games and was being nasty so she knew i was gonna leave her if she continued doing it .... so she wanted to control me ...got it now...so please next time don't accuse people of bad things when you know nothing about them..thanks

[NoWayBack 0]

Something doesn't add up. Have you been able to determine you are the biological father ? Have you had a DNA test to make sure ? Why wouldn't she show you the baby on cam ? Is there some reason why she would want to hold on to you ? Are you that special ? There is something missing from this equation because none of this makes sense.

She has stayed with me for 3 months , so yeah am sure am the father.she had the HCG test before she leave ....she wouldn't show me the boy on cam because of her obsession with controling when she feels like she can't control me , and as in for if am that special , well i can't answer that , you must know me your self so you can decide that and as in why she feels less or she could be left because of her bad actions , well she aint sexy but i married her because she was a really stand by woman and was kind but i didn't know her well till later....if you have any more doubt in me...i have no problem to answer all of your questions , and if your here to investigate and not help , then your not in the right topic...thanks for coming by

[NoWayBack 0]

If she treated you that badly then you should not have stayed with her. You should have not slept with her. You could not have been that blind. If your family saw something, then why did you not see it. You need to see a lawyer, pronto! Divorce her and fight for custody. Age isn't the issue. Maybe she's psycho, how well do you really know her?

Finally someone posted fairly , I will answer all your questions , my wife is this kind of woman whom does the bad thing n really cry hard to show how sorry she was for what she did and that she never meant it , i found out later that she was acting just to get her way or manipulate me .... my family was thinking with their mind more than their heart and i wont lie to you ..i thought more by my heart...so my family was wondering why would some woman in her age want to marry someone in my age? and why would she leave her kids to come here...and why didn't she want to have birth control when i and her talked about it...so basically they seen it as she just wanted to get pregnant to hold me to her....i seen it as in she wants to have a baby with someone she loves...so it was not bad...am not in the US to see a lawyer , and if i had a visa i would go there and fight it ...but am here and she is there and thats what she is using ...if i divorced her i will have no way to be with my child unless if am there....and as in for the psycho part...well ..she was to a therapy for 3 years...she never wanted to talk about it and when i ever started to ...she got mad and started destroying things.....you never know people well until your in a kinda situation

What if she had stayed to have the baby there? What would have happened then?

You shoulda have figured it out ..its so simple...she would have the baby here and we would be applying for DCF together and would go back together ....well she would be a good person lol....but obviously she left because she is bad...what kinda question or what are u trying to get to ?

Sounds like now someone is starving for attention created account to amuse themselves.

Sounds like some people needs to work sometime and don't have time to stay infront of the pc to answer every post 24 houres...and Obviously there are some other people that can't live without trying to make other people bad some how even tho they aren't...but they just try to fullfill their desire ....

[NoWayBack 0]

I agree with this, Nagi. There must be more to this story.

To the OP: I can't give you any advice about how to get your rights as a father. It will be very difficult for you to do unless the child's mother wants to cooperate. That I know from my own experience. I too am a father in one country (US) with children in another country (Brazil). They live there with their mother. We have a divorce agreement from yet a third country which spells out my visitation rights, and rights to access via Skype, email, phone etc. She flaunts that agreement and has never respected it in 3 years since the divorce and they moved to her home country. Like you, I would need to hire lawyers to adjudicate the divorce agreement in Brazil and have it enforced by the local courts. All of this takes considerable time and money. There is really no other way in such an international disputed custody situation. Your situation is different in that you are not divorced and don't have any legal agreement to enforce, and in fact are not even sure the child is yours.

Good luck.

I thought about that. Maybe. Or maybe not.

I just answered nagi...read the posts i made...thanks for the advice...but i can't go to the US to hire a lawyer and enfore it...got it.

[NoWayBack 0]

What documents were fraudulent and how were they fraudulent?

She made a US passports for her children ( my step children ) without their fathers permission , she frauded the consent letter and sent it in...and she was frauding documents to send it to her school because her and her daughter ( my step daughter ) have same first and last name ..except that her daughter has a maiden name ....so they were always playing around that...and i have the chat between me and her after she went there on how she sat up her ex husband and how stupid i was not to think of that.....i can screw her ###### life.

[NoWayBack 0]

my memory might be really off today.......but wasn't there someone that came on here not to long ago that was asking questions about being pregnant and afraid to stay in Egypt because she thought the husband could refuse to allow her to leave Egypt?

could that be related to this?

sara

Well....am the Egyptian side and i would help her if you can give me the link to her topic...thanks

Yes, I looked that up, but it seemed the timing was a little different, and they had actually been living in the U.S. together, and went to Egypt for a visit and he wanted to stay there.

What Topic is that...i can really assure her that he can't do anything if the child has a US passport...gimme a link to the topic and i will help her.

[NoWayBack 0]

Is your name on the birth certificate?

If she's not seeking any child support from you, don't sweat anything. When and if she comes after you for child support then you can go about getting yourself some custody/visitation rights. In 18 years when the child is of age, they'll seek you out. What goes around comes around and she'll get hers in the end. SOME women use children as a weapon against fathers. They're the ultimate weapon to use against us, as the women who resort to this tactic don't have a motherly instinct or decent bone in their body. Father's who had the misfortune of breeding with this type of ilk have two options: simply walk away or fight for your rights with every available tool and asset at your disposal and still in a good majority of the cases you may not end up gaining anything and then you'll resort to option 1.

Thanks a lot for your advice but i wouldn't use option one that easy, i have to do everything to be with my child so i wouldn't be unfairing him...am his father and its my responsiblity and i wouldn't leave him live with a cruel stone hearted woman like that...i don't know how will she raise him or what will happen to his future ...he is a peice of me ...