Difference of Age

[issha2lynden 77]

My comment leans more on realness of the relationship on a social level rather than the visa-legal level. Sounds more like the parents are pimpin' their young daughter who may be quite naive herself, EVEN at 21. Personally, more than 10 years is not for me, but that's me. But even Stevie Wonder can "see" that this appears suspect. So she'll get here, give grandpa a heart atttack in the bedroom and get it all, not just "HALF!"

If anyone is offended, I don't take this seriously. No, I don't. In all seriousness, the key to these "successful" relationships that have tremondous differences in ages is COMPROMISE, not "compatability." It is IMPOSSIBLE to be from to two different cultures and generations and be compatable. If is working, there is a LOT of compromising taking place.

Exactly what parents doing!!PIMPIN' And these kind of people here would shamelessly express their real intention in our native language, they need the USC $$$!! Simple, let us not joke ourselves here..this is SAD and DISGUSTING! And I feel horrible as a filipino every time I hear story such as this.

[Dean_De 61]

Exactly what parents doing!!PIMPIN' And these kind of people here would shamelessly express their real intention in our native language, they need the USC $$$!! Simple, let us not joke ourselves here..this is SAD and DISGUSTING! And I feel horrible as a filipino every time I hear story such as this.

Issha..not just because ####### like this happen you will immediately feel bad as a filipino. This happens not just here..everywhere there are materialistic people..the users..i feel bad not being a filipino even with all this #######. i feel bad because people who are mean / greedy even to the tiniest part of their bone exist

[issha2lynden 77]

well, me and my fiance are from the other side of the world and we have a lot of things in common w/c makes compatibility be present in us...in disagreement to what you said I guess the only way to prove the veracity of my point to through example...Say for example in MUSIC..we both love country music..maybe not all bu I should say most. Both of us love nature, we don't have problem just spending sometime when together walking along the beach, at the park and etc..that is compatibility there. When it comes to decision making both of us listen and understand to each of our opinion and come to a one common decision..a little compromise may sometimes happens, but I should say most are mutual agreement There's a lot to set as an example on how for us..ME and my Fiance, compatibility exist more than just to compromise. I think its a tiring thing when all couples will do is to always end up compromising. it is always a nice feeling when couples share most common interest in life and not just to always compromise.

Dean I think you're missing a point Mr Van was saying.." the key to these "successful" relationships that have tremondous differences in ages is COMPROMISE

Unless you categorically belong to this tremendous age gap, then I apologize.

[diath 6]

Well, I hope for you that she is serious about loving you and not just wanting Sugar Daddy.

Best of luck!

[Dean_De 61]

Dean I think you're missing a point Mr Van was saying.." the key to these "successful" relationships that have tremondous differences in ages is COMPROMISE

Unless you categorically belong to this tremendous age gap, then I apologize.

sorry to disappoint you issha but I did get his point. Your focus of attention is different from mine. My emphasis from Mr. Van's qoute : It is IMPOSSIBLE to be from to two different cultures and generations and be compatable. If is working, there is a LOT of compromising taking place.

And sorry to also disappoint you but my fiance is in pretty good shape

[issha2lynden 77]

Issha..not just because ####### like this happen you will immediately feel bad as a filipino. This happens not just here..everywhere there are materialistic people..the users..i feel bad not being a filipino even with all this #######. i feel bad because people who are mean / greedy even to the tiniest part of their bone exist

Unless you are a filipino you wont know how deep is deep. This is rampant and becoming more rampant. :( , We become subject of ridicule in the US talk show, tv program..like we are some kind of a commodity. We are originally good natured people, rich in good

cultural values where Marriage is considered sacred and should stay committed to that vow for the rest of our earthly lives, that is why we don't have divorce here.

I mentioned last time about my encounter with a fiance during my CFO seminar..the scenario if "hey do u love him?' and she goes "just my stepping stone"..I must share something else, even the seminar facilitator talk like this" Hey don't tell your spouses that they can actually divorce you and they can forward the divorce papers to the Philippine Embassy then NSO..and "Do you know that you can leave your USC spouses and petition your self later?? Oh GOD! I felt I was in the wrong place. I wanted to leave but I needed their signature.

I thought ..this world is deteriorating so as the people's brain or should I say Morality.

OP search your heart. What ever is GOOD, what ever is PLEASING, ACCEPTABLE, JUST, TRUE, CLEAN and PURE..do it in the basis of don't forget LOVE.

God bless you!

[bigdog 376]

A prior thread, he going to have a problem.

[Dean_De 61]

Unless you are a filipino you wont know how deep is deep. This is rampant and becoming more rampant. :( , We become subject of ridicule in the US talk show, tv program..like we are some kind of a commodity. We are originally good natured people, rich in good

cultural values where Marriage is considered sacred and should stay committed to that vow for the rest of our earthly lives, that is why we don't have divorce here.

I mentioned last time about my encounter with a fiance during my CFO seminar..the scenario if "hey do u love him?' and she goes "just my stepping stone"..I must share something else, even the seminar facilitator talk like this" Hey don't tell your spouses that they can actually divorce you and they can forward the divorce papers to the Philippine Embassy then NSO..and "Do you know that you can leave your USC spouses and petition your self later?? Oh GOD! I felt I was in the wrong place. I wanted to leave but I needed their signature.

I thought ..this world is deteriorating so as the people's brain or should I say Morality.

OP search your heart. What ever is GOOD, what ever is PLEASING, ACCEPTABLE, JUST, TRUE, CLEAN and PURE..do it in the basis of don't forget LOVE.

God bless you!

I am a Filipina Issha - and not because one filipino/filipina did what was done makes everyone all the same...despite the existence of the rotten souls in here in pinas..I know there are still good ones...you are one of them aint you? and there are other else here in the Philippines to be proud of...our culture is just like every other else. Yes , we may be a part of the third world country, but do you think when it comes to strength and flaws there's a specific country who is blessed just with strength and not having flaws? I bet no...well, if you heard someone say something not right ..just like at the CFO, there's a way for your opinion to be heard..that's what it is for. However, find ways to be heard that it will not be disrespectful..there are ways to disagree yet you are wont sound arrogant. The world may deteriorate just because people just let it. Some people knows and see something wrong yet they don't find ways to help correct the error. I know we can't change the environment nor change peoples mind, but atleast we can try

When my fiance told me before why he doesn't like to marry a woman from his own culture and I asked his reason, he said marriage had been more like a business..and that woman from there are mostly materialistic. I told him, listening to what he say hut me even if I am not from the same culture like what he is saying. I hurt coz in this world people like them do exist.I know I am happy coz he told me he admire Filipino value when it comes to family..but I told him the good and bad you see in our culture is the same kind of traits every other culture have.

Edited October 24, 2011 by Dean_De

[Ray-J 2]

As one who's just completed the interview with his fiancee in Manila, age isn't an issue as long as both parties are over the age of consent.

[Kang 22]

Red flag for the US Embassy. Gonna drill more the parties

[NoneYa 73]

I wouldn't marry with that much age difference but I spoke with a woman who did. She is from the Philippines and now lives near me in the US. Her husband is now deceased. They were 39 years apart. I asked her how she handled the age difference and she told me that after a year together, she never noticed the difference. Everything was normal. They were approved but that was probably 1997. He got alzheimers and she drove him for treatment for 5 years.

Here is another woman that obviously loves her man and they are 38 years apart. Watch Wendi Deng protecting her husband Rupert Murchoch. This is funny.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qdiLZnyQ9Y

All that being said, the 21 year old probably wants to escape poverty. There is nothing wrong with that. The problem is what will happen when she gets over here and sees opportunities. The previous checklist from teapotgurl1983 is a good checklist. I would never get involved with a woman who visits bars. If she goes out and parties then I would definately not.

In the end, I would say if you want to educate this girl, take care of her, love her, she will be better off with you than staying in squalor the rest of her life.

I have seen the most deplorable conditions in the Philippines. I love the people but I couldn't live in some of the conditions there. For someone to say, don't do it they are telling this girl to go rot in poor health and have no life. I am neutral, even with the age difference because you will likely take care of her. You are just taking a big risk and you better know her well because many of them will use you. Also, I hope she speaks good enough English to communicate to you because this is the only way you can know her. That would be a bigger flag than the age. Also, manipulative women will mask their ulterior motives through poor communication so make her talk. Talk to her a lot. If you truly know her and you know the risk, go for it because you are probably saving the girl. You know your situation better than any of the others.

[Tim/Mav 305]

As one who's just completed the interview with his fiancee in Manila, age isn't an issue as long as both parties are over the age of consent.

Ray, Can my Father who is 60 take your daughters 21 year olds hand in Marridge. OH WAIT A MINUTE. I DON"T HAVE TO ASK YOU. THEIR CONSENTING ADULTS. There is nothing wrong with this picture at all.

[Joan >3 Bob 20]

Come on people give western cowboy a break here!! We all know from experience that 99% of the girls from the Philippines say "Age makes no difference and age is just a Number"

Do not put it all on the man here. Maybe she is sincere and he is also. However they need to show very good evidence of a real relationship and I would suggest more than 1 trip be made to the Phils to visit her and her family prior to the Embassy interview and have plenty of good evidences proving an ongoing real relationship. Also affidavits of approval would help from the parents stating their approval.

[sunshinearizona 21]

I just filed the K-1 VISA documents. My fiancée and I have an age difference. I am 60 and she is 21. She is from the Philippines. I have her parents consent and never been happier. All documents are in order. I am very concerned that age will be a factor in the interview. Please comment!

you need to be concerned ! as what you are doing is wrong -

[Tim/Mav 305]

Come on people give western cowboy a break here!! We all know from experience that 99% of the girls from the Philippines say "Age makes no difference and age is just a Number"

Do not put it all on the man here. Maybe she is sincere and he is also. However they need to show very good evidence of a real relationship and I would suggest more than 1 trip be made to the Phils to visit her and her family prior to the Embassy interview and have plenty of good evidences proving an ongoing real relationship. Also affidavits of approval would help from the parents stating their approval.

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