Difference of Age

[Tim/Mav 305]

The Important thing to see through the clouds here is: A woman is Not a Piece of Property in which you think you own. They have a mind and know right from wrong. Age difference may or maynot be an Issue. Giving a relationship your best foot forward matters.

We all know that "Other People" interpet their own ideals upon you and your relationship. If it is Negative, turn your back. You made an Obligation based upon your heart and stay by it.

USC's: Remember the commitment you made. You will loose friends but see they were not friends anyway. Corruption and Jeliousey will play a role. You will find other friends that accept your relationship.

Even Family members say their part but, that is not important.

So, age difference or not: You only live once.

[SuperDuper! 230]

I have been to the Philippines two times. I have seen cheaters and people that do not match. I ament Jean on a dating site in May. From the start we have ment each others expectations. I visted her in August. I even extended my stay untill the middle of September. Now back in the USA I just sent off the K-129 and now waiting. I worry about our age difference.

Age is just a number in the Phils, as the old saying goes.....So just what is your number age diff? It can't be worse then mine, and we got approved without any trouble, LOL!

[TeddyHoney 42]

The Important thing to see through the clouds here is: A woman is Not a Piece of Property in which you think you own. They have a mind and know right from wrong. Age difference may or maynot be an Issue. Giving a relationship your best foot forward matters.

We all know that "Other People" interpet their own ideals upon you and your relationship. If it is Negative, turn your back. You made an Obligation based upon your heart and stay by it.

USC's: Remember the commitment you made. You will loose friends but see they were not friends anyway. Corruption and Jeliousey will play a role. You will find other friends that accept your relationship.

Even Family members say their part but, that is not important.

So, age difference or not: You only live once.

Good post.

[issha2lynden 77]

I have been to the Philippines two times. I have seen cheaters and people that do not match. I ament Jean on a dating site in May. From the start we have ment each others expectations. I visted her in August. I even extended my stay untill the middle of September. Now back in the USA I just sent off the K-129 and now waiting. I worry about our age difference.

Be careful..Be very careful. I attended my CFO seminar..I talked to a fiance asked her if she loves him..her answer JUST MY STEPPING STONE!! Man this is Philippines..Be very wary. You are old and she is way younger..do you really think she loves you?? REALLY??? for those who says AGE DOESN'T MATTER..YES IT DOES!

Still wanna pursue?? OK

Please know as early as now, part of filipino culture being a close knit family..once their child married a foreigner they think

$$$, and then before you know it..you are supporting the whole family. Are you ok with that??

You don't wanna quit? My last shot, LOL

There were 2 women from our province who married USC and everytime the hubby is gone to US..the wifey plays around with a filipino bf who is introduced to husband as driver.. YIKES! :angry:

I don't want rain in your parade but BE VERY WARY. I am sick and tired hearing and seeing couple walking in the malls here..a very old american holding hands with a very young girl. Only if you guys could hear how filipino talks at you back. SAD I KNOW. YES I AM OPENING A CAN FULL OF WORMS..but I am a VJ family member ..I DO CARE..

OP I hope your woman is not one of them..I sincerely wish you well...Good luck!

[issha2lynden 77]

If it's a difference of say 10 yrs .. I don't think it should be an issue.

However, if you are like 50yrs and she's 25yrs.. That's pretty much gonna raise red flags, guaranteed.

NOT IN PHILIPPINES! LOL

[skiptex 225]

Be careful..Be very careful. I attended my CFO seminar..I talked to a fiance asked her if she loves him..her answer JUST MY STEPPING STONE!! Man this is Philippines..Be very wary. You are old and she is way younger..do you really think she loves you?? REALLY??? for those who says AGE DOESN'T MATTER..YES IT DOES!

OP I hope your woman is not one of them..I sincerely wish you well...Good luck!

if a women can fake orgasm.. she can fake anything.. lol

[NoneYa 73]

Issha - What you describe happens a lot but you can't say that across the board or you will get a lot of hate mail from the filipina's who love their older men. I suggest if the man that posted this question see any of these signs go to dragonladies dot com and research it and read some of the stories. I was the most skeptical and untrusting of the younger filipina's when they contacted me online. There are some that are sincere but I would agree there are many that are not and you have to figure it out. A Filipina asking for money is not a sign for love. Not being available by phone and wide gaps in time between talks when they are not at work is also another red flag. Most of these type women are easy to spot over a six month period if you are educated about it. If they are a sophisticated manipulator who are not so easy to spot, then you are in trouble. Just look for the signs and if they lie to you once, move on.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Be careful..Be very careful. I attended my CFO seminar..I talked to a fiance asked her if she loves him..her answer JUST MY STEPPING STONE!! Man this is Philippines..Be very wary. You are old and she is way younger..do you really think she loves you?? REALLY??? for those who says AGE DOESN'T MATTER..YES IT DOES!

Still wanna pursue?? OK

Please know as early as now, part of filipino culture being a close knit family..once their child married a foreigner they think

$$$, and then before you know it..you are supporting the whole family. Are you ok with that??

You don't wanna quit? My last shot, LOL

There were 2 women from our province who married USC and everytime the hubby is gone to US..the wifey plays around with a filipino bf who is introduced to husband as driver.. YIKES! :angry:

I don't want rain in your parade but BE VERY WARY. I am sick and tired hearing and seeing couple walking in the malls here..a very old american holding hands with a very young girl. Only if you guys could hear how filipino talks at you back. SAD I KNOW. YES I AM OPENING A CAN FULL OF WORMS..but I am a VJ family member ..I DO CARE..

OP I hope your woman is not one of them..I sincerely wish you well...Good luck!

Ok, I'm going to see if I can offend everyone in one post...

All men everywhere will do stupid things for pretty girls. This character flaw isn't exclusive to American men. However, most American men are not as gullible as many Filipinas seem to think they are. In many cases, these guys know darn well that these girls don't really love them. He might only want a sex toy who will treat him like she loves him for a few years. Most of the time, they're just hoping she hangs around and plays nice until he either dies or gets tired of her. Many times these guys go into these relationships knowing that it isn't going to last more than a few years. The sad truth is that many East Asian and Pacific Island girls don't age very well. They're adorable when they're young, but start to deteriorate rapidly when they hit their mid 20's.

...Jim ducks while the Filipinas start throwing kitchen utensils at him...

This isn't really any different from rich old men in the US who marry young trophy wives. These guys know that these girls marry them for their money. As long as the girl acts like his wife then they're generally ok with that. If she does anything to humiliate him, like fooling around on the side, then the relationship is over.

A lot of the men who go to the Philippines are average looking older men with average incomes. These guys wouldn't have a prayer of getting a young trophy wife in the US, but it doesn't take nearly as much to get a young wife in a poor country. There are several reasons this happens a lot in the Philippines. For one thing, the country has a long and sordid history of sex tourism, like many Southeast Asian countries. For another, there's no strong cultural aversion in the Philippines to older men marrying younger women, especially when there's a financial advantage for the bride.

Obviously, the above doesn't apply to everyone. There are many many relationships which are genuine and sincere on both sides. I'm just saying that not all of the guys who are getting played are totally unaware of it. In many cases, they're playing each other.

[issha2lynden 77]

One example, I had met a Filipina in the U.S. before I met my fiancee. This Filipina I met online told me that she had been happily married and there was a 39 year age difference. He was now deceased. I chose not to meet this woman because I wanted children and she had two already. Another example, there was another man in my neighborhood that was approved and he 35 years older. This couple did break up but it had nothing to do with their age. They were not compatible. Another example, I tried to tell a 24 y/o not to email me again because she was too young and I got this one page email back explaining why a 31 year difference was okay.. and she gave me examples of what she knew of. My point is, that this is common in the Philippines. You sound like you have a Western concious. I do too.

My finance is 27 years younger but I do look younger and she is more mature. The reason I was interested in her had nothing to do with her age, it was that we were so much alike. We were a match. We are really on the same paths and enjoy each other and want the same things. I didn't plan it this way, but I too have seen couples that are similar in age that don't match and are not going to last. Use your good common sense. If this is your soul mate, just make sure that you are hers and if so, you can probably offer her a better happier life than many men out there that are much closer in age. Just don't spoil her once she is here. This is why you love her because of who she is. Best of luck to you.

Disclaimer: Just make sure she is not a manipulative woman or desires money because that would be the worst day of your life if you marry someone like that.

why the highlight: Don't you really think that age is a factor of compatibility? think..again think ..ponder

Challenge: If you guys believes that young girls marrying old man is a COMMON THING in my country..then why is it that you only see these cases with foreigner men? I am a filipino and hey people THAT'S NOT COMMON HERE . Sorry! Just telling the truth! Anyone who contest me on this can give me statistics of young girls/women married old filipino men!

[Winning23 25]

NOT IN PHILIPPINES! LOL

The marriage is in USA to be US Citizen in the USA. the application process is done by Americans, so, they need to make sure and do their research regardless of where the finance is coming from and treat each case as a potential fraud.

[issha2lynden 77]

Ok, I'm going to see if I can offend everyone in one post...

All men everywhere will do stupid things for pretty girls. This character flaw isn't exclusive to American men. However, most American men are not as gullible as many Filipinas seem to think they are. In many cases, these guys know darn well that these girls don't really love them. He might only want a sex toy who will treat him like she loves him for a few years. Most of the time, they're just hoping she hangs around and plays nice until he either dies or gets tired of her. Many times these guys go into these relationships knowing that it isn't going to last more than a few years. The sad truth is that many East Asian and Pacific Island girls don't age very well. They're adorable when they're young, but start to deteriorate rapidly when they hit their mid 20's.

...Jim ducks while the Filipinas start throwing kitchen utensils at him...

This isn't really any different from rich old men in the US who marry young trophy wives. These guys know that these girls marry them for their money. As long as the girl acts like his wife then they're generally ok with that. If she does anything to humiliate him, like fooling around on the side, then the relationship is over.

A lot of the men who go to the Philippines are average looking older men with average incomes. These guys wouldn't have a prayer of getting a young trophy wife in the US, but it doesn't take nearly as much to get a young wife in a poor country. There are several reasons this happens a lot in the Philippines. For one thing, the country has a long and sordid history of sex tourism, like many Southeast Asian countries. For another, there's no strong cultural aversion in the Philippines to older men marrying younger women, especially when there's a financial advantage for the bride.

Obviously, the above doesn't apply to everyone. There are many many relationships which are genuine and sincere on both sides. I'm just saying that not all of the guys who are getting played are totally unaware of it. In many cases, they're playing each other.

ALWAYS LOVE YOUR POSTS JIM! YOU NEVER FAILED ME!

[issha2lynden 77]

The marriage is in USA to be US Citizen in the USA. the application process is done by Americans, so, they need to make sure and do their research regardless of where the finance is coming from and treat each case as a potential fraud.

WELL BASE ON THE RECORDS..NOT IN THE PHILIPPINES..PINAYS OFTEN GET APPROVED!

[issha2lynden 77]

Ok, I'm going to see if I can offend everyone in one post...

All men everywhere will do stupid things for pretty girls. This character flaw isn't exclusive to American men. However, most American men are not as gullible as many Filipinas seem to think they are. In many cases, these guys know darn well that these girls don't really love them. He might only want a sex toy who will treat him like she loves him for a few years. Most of the time, they're just hoping she hangs around and plays nice until he either dies or gets tired of her. Many times these guys go into these relationships knowing that it isn't going to last more than a few years. The sad truth is that many East Asian and Pacific Island girls don't age very well. They're adorable when they're young, but start to deteriorate rapidly when they hit their mid 20's.

...Jim ducks while the Filipinas start throwing kitchen utensils at him...

This isn't really any different from rich old men in the US who marry young trophy wives. These guys know that these girls marry them for their money. As long as the girl acts like his wife then they're generally ok with that. If she does anything to humiliate him, like fooling around on the side, then the relationship is over.

A lot of the men who go to the Philippines are average looking older men with average incomes. These guys wouldn't have a prayer of getting a young trophy wife in the US, but it doesn't take nearly as much to get a young wife in a poor country. There are several reasons this happens a lot in the Philippines. For one thing, the country has a long and sordid history of sex tourism, like many Southeast Asian countries. For another, there's no strong cultural aversion in the Philippines to older men marrying younger women, especially when there's a financial advantage for the bride.

Obviously, the above doesn't apply to everyone. There are many many relationships which are genuine and sincere on both sides. I'm just saying that not all of the guys who are getting played are totally unaware of it. In many cases, they're playing each other.

many NOT ALL! Thank GOD not ME! LOL

[Philwithlove 17]

my father and mother has 20 years gap. me and my fiance have an 18 years gap but never been an issue for us. he never send me money nor i ask for any coz im sensitive not for him to think thats what i want from him. his friends and relatives adviced him for a prenup agreement and im willing to sign it. no problem.

he never send me flowers nor chocolates for he said he wanted me to love him not for the flowers nor the chocolates that he gonna give me. he doesn't have pc nor a hightech phone. but im resourceful enough to find ways for us to communicate. Free Magic jack account, globe US super direct, gmail free call to phone, etc.. we talk on the phone almost 5 hours per day and whole day on weekends.

by all these, my fiance knows i love him.

if your young gf do efforts for you and never ask for something in return i believe she loves you for who you are and doesnt mind the age.

[issha2lynden 77]

Issha - What you describe happens a lot but you can't say that across the board or you will get a lot of hate mail from the filipina's who love their older men. I suggest if the man that posted this question see any of these signs go to dragonladies dot com and research it and read some of the stories. I was the most skeptical and untrusting of the younger filipina's when they contacted me online. There are some that are sincere but I would agree there are many that are not and you have to figure it out. A Filipina asking for money is not a sign for love. Not being available by phone and wide gaps in time between talks when they are not at work is also another red flag. Most of these type women are easy to spot over a six month period if you are educated about it. If they are a sophisticated manipulator who are not so easy to spot, then you are in trouble. Just look for the signs and if they lie to you once, move on.

SIr I am not saying all filipina women are bad apples! I am a filipina..There are good ones . but FEW! I am only saying be very wary!