Advise for overcoming spouse leaving me for Immigration with another woman

[Boiler 46,086]

Sounds like he has a lifetime ban theoretically waiverable after 10 years - 9C.

So from his point of view, bearing in mind his prime focus then the Canadian option no doubt sounds best.

i know nothing about the Canadian Laws, you could write to them, whether it will make any difference who knows.

Unfortunately this is a common situation, this site is full of it.

[Chuck & Chay 0]

sorry to hear about this gozydidmewrong..i know its causing you alot of emotional stress..but its his loss not yours..you don't really deserve such an idiot..i think it is clear that all he wants is to have a GC..and its good that you were able to know his personality before he gets his GC with your help of course..that would hurt that much..the worst is that he maybe using the woman he has now as well..he is a real user..

[qwerty1974 11]

I was sorry to rread this thread and I agree, better to have found out now. I would definitely write to the providers who are accounting bills in your name and have your name removed. Also, I would wrte a formal letter withdrawng any petitions or so on and including what you have mentioned here. Who knows, perhaps they'll mark his card as it were. I really do hope that you can move on from this. The main thing is to change those accounts, tie up loose ends, inform immigration of his recent actions as you see them, and then draw a line under it knowing you have done everything you can and try not to give him a second thought after that...he really doesn't sound worth it.

[SapphireDreams 71]

Having worked for a Canadian Hydro company in the call centre, I know that eventually the electricity/hit will be disconnected, but it just takes awhile unfortunately. Did you initially call and set it up in your name and provide a deposit? It's true, they won't just close the account now that it is in arrears. The good news is that if they continue to not pay it, it will be disconnected. Same with Bell Canada.

And, since i'm assuming you have no Canadian social insurance number and plan to never live there, they can't really pin the debt on any Canadian credit. If they have your phone number they'll probably have collection agencies calling you eventually, so you might want to change your number.

[NY_BX 397]

After 4 years of driving back and forth to Canada every Sunday to be a wife to my Egyptian husband.. He now has dropped me and moved on to a Canadian Arabic woman for Canada residency.

Long story but I will try to be brief

Husband waited in Montreal Canada while US spousal visa was being processed

I drove almost every Sunday...(5 hours) alternating week in Canada to be wife to my husband

(and complete things for Visa process) and week in NY to work and maintain home

Everything approved until Interview... interview approved but when finger printed it was found that he had been deported from US and was not to return for 5 or 10 years but he did 3 or 4 times he was denied and

Issued 601 Waiver to submit... took about 8 months for me to complete and almost 2years to process.

( within 36 hours of contacting the senator's office Waiver was denied. Appeal was granted to submit due to

VSC not following procedures submitted Jan 2010) April 2010 notification from VSC received and sent to Appeals

Last touch Oct 2010 and nothing!!!)

While in appeal seems husband was searching other options fearing there would be no US approval.

(he starting having issues with me saying he now wants children and I can not have any.. asked me to accept him having another woman for child and Immigration back up... 2nd woman may be ok in Egypt but I can not accept)

Within 4 months his family & friends hooked him up with Canadian Arabic woman from Tunisia.

He moved her in and I was out. It seems he can get residency in Canada by simply showing they have lived together for one year. (The woman I feel for because he lied and told her we were divorced and then when I informed that we were not then he said "in process of divorce. I have even found proof he was seeing her and I the same time)

My opinion is they are committing Immigration fraud... first they lied about time they have been together, lied and did not disclose his marriage to me because he would have to give them divorce decree..

To make matters even better for me I have received telephone calls from Canada Bell - $444 for internet and Hydro - $630 for heat & electric... they are running bill in my name and not paying them... Even though I have contacted them several times to disconnect my name... they tell me current resident has to call and approve in their name... Yeah right they are gonna call and say hey we have been using not her sorry we owe you $$

Thoughts, opinions, advise?????

I am so trying so very very very be a decent person and not want revenge right now!!!!

I just dont get people sometimes :{

Thanks for listening

When I read the title of your thread, I got the sense that you knew the marriage was for immigration purposes: "{...} spouse leaving me for immigrations with ANOTHER woman." In other words, he used you for immigration, was unsuccessful, so he moved on to someone else to achieve his goal.

Then I read your post and it confirms my suspicion. This is the classic example of a chauvinist zealot committing fraud. So, before I proceed, I must say I am so sorry you've been a victim and God bless you for trying to right a wrong. The reason I say that is you're trying, not only to rectify what was done to you, but also somewhat "save" another possible victim.

Here's my question: did you discuss children with him prior to your wedding? I find it incredibly horrid that this breathing being suddenly has the balls to, not only ask for children for immigration purposes (an anchor baby, so to speak), but to then suggest a surrogate mother. I am in total disbelief. The selfish, destructive and insensitive behavior of this person is beyond narcissistic. You have no idea how mortified I am for you.

So, call and tell them you'll move and you need to disconnect the utilities immediately. Do the impossible to get that man out of your life and out of the country, if you can. This man has had several close calls (deportation, visa denial, etc.) and he still hasn't learned. In fact, it's made him worse.

This is not about being a good person. The reason you're not being decent is because you're betraying yourself. My heart is with you and I know God will bless you. You will prevail because God is fair for those who right their wrongs.

Good luck and please keep us posted on your progress.

[cheerstoamerica 21]

You don't deserve any of these sh*t. Stay strong girl. I'm sure you'll get through this tough situation.

[NY_BX 397]

Having worked for a Canadian Hydro company in the call centre, I know that eventually the electricity/hit will be disconnected, but it just takes awhile unfortunately. Did you initially call and set it up in your name and provide a deposit? It's true, they won't just close the account now that it is in arrears. The good news is that if they continue to not pay it, it will be disconnected. Same with Bell Canada.

And, since i'm assuming you have no Canadian social insurance number and plan to never live there, they can't really pin the debt on any Canadian credit. If they have your phone number they'll probably have collection agencies calling you eventually, so you might want to change your number.

Great idea! Since they're still married, would they come after him? I am curious. There must be a way this ####### pays for his sins....

[AmyWrites 593]

I really have no idea what to tell you, other than to be strong and this will get better and you'll find someone who does truly love you.

[Karee 4,191]

I know the Canadian and American credit reports are not interchangeable so your credit rating in the US will not be affected by you not paying their bills. I think though you should put it in writing to the companies that you are not living at the address and you will not be responsible for the bills sent to that address. Include that you have repeatedly called to have your name taken off to no resolve.

Here is the website to report suspected Canadian Immigration fraud: http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/information/protection/fraud/report.asp

Last but not least, I was very sad to read what happened to you. My sympathies are with you and I hope that you can heal quickly and put this behind you.

Bolded part above is a fact.

[Dar&Shan 3]

I am so sorry to hear this! Unbelievable-I don't have any words of wisdom for you, but you are certainly a lovely person, and I have a feeling you will heal from this and find someone who is deserving of you.

After 4 years of driving back and forth to Canada every Sunday to be a wife to my Egyptian husband.. He now has dropped me and moved on to a Canadian Arabic woman for Canada residency.

Long story but I will try to be brief

Husband waited in Montreal Canada while US spousal visa was being processed

I drove almost every Sunday...(5 hours) alternating week in Canada to be wife to my husband

(and complete things for Visa process) and week in NY to work and maintain home

Everything approved until Interview... interview approved but when finger printed it was found that he had been deported from US and was not to return for 5 or 10 years but he did 3 or 4 times he was denied and

Issued 601 Waiver to submit... took about 8 months for me to complete and almost 2years to process.

( within 36 hours of contacting the senator's office Waiver was denied. Appeal was granted to submit due to

VSC not following procedures submitted Jan 2010) April 2010 notification from VSC received and sent to Appeals

Last touch Oct 2010 and nothing!!!)

While in appeal seems husband was searching other options fearing there would be no US approval.

(he starting having issues with me saying he now wants children and I can not have any.. asked me to accept him having another woman for child and Immigration back up... 2nd woman may be ok in Egypt but I can not accept)

Within 4 months his family & friends hooked him up with Canadian Arabic woman from Tunisia.

He moved her in and I was out. It seems he can get residency in Canada by simply showing they have lived together for one year. (The woman I feel for because he lied and told her we were divorced and then when I informed that we were not then he said "in process of divorce. I have even found proof he was seeing her and I the same time)

My opinion is they are committing Immigration fraud... first they lied about time they have been together, lied and did not disclose his marriage to me because he would have to give them divorce decree..

To make matters even better for me I have received telephone calls from Canada Bell - $444 for internet and Hydro - $630 for heat & electric... they are running bill in my name and not paying them... Even though I have contacted them several times to disconnect my name... they tell me current resident has to call and approve in their name... Yeah right they are gonna call and say hey we have been using not her sorry we owe you $$

Thoughts, opinions, advise?????

I am so trying so very very very be a decent person and not want revenge right now!!!!

I just dont get people sometimes :{

Thanks for listening

[NicciNono 1]

Wow! Sounds like a real jerk!

Sue him.

[wee carrington 33]

What an absolutely horrible situation to be in, I'm really sorry this happened to you. I really do wish you all the best. Take care of yourself.

[Om&Abo Malik 12]

After 4 years of driving back and forth to Canada every Sunday to be a wife to my Egyptian husband.. He now has dropped me and moved on to a Canadian Arabic woman for Canada residency.

Long story but I will try to be brief

Husband waited in Montreal Canada while US spousal visa was being processed

I drove almost every Sunday...(5 hours) alternating week in Canada to be wife to my husband

(and complete things for Visa process) and week in NY to work and maintain home

Everything approved until Interview... interview approved but when finger printed it was found that he had been deported from US and was not to return for 5 or 10 years but he did 3 or 4 times he was denied and

Issued 601 Waiver to submit... took about 8 months for me to complete and almost 2years to process.

( within 36 hours of contacting the senator's office Waiver was denied. Appeal was granted to submit due to

VSC not following procedures submitted Jan 2010) April 2010 notification from VSC received and sent to Appeals

Last touch Oct 2010 and nothing!!!)

While in appeal seems husband was searching other options fearing there would be no US approval.

(he starting having issues with me saying he now wants children and I can not have any.. asked me to accept him having another woman for child and Immigration back up... 2nd woman may be ok in Egypt but I can not accept)

Within 4 months his family & friends hooked him up with Canadian Arabic woman from Tunisia.

He moved her in and I was out. It seems he can get residency in Canada by simply showing they have lived together for one year. (The woman I feel for because he lied and told her we were divorced and then when I informed that we were not then he said "in process of divorce. I have even found proof he was seeing her and I the same time)

My opinion is they are committing Immigration fraud... first they lied about time they have been together, lied and did not disclose his marriage to me because he would have to give them divorce decree..

To make matters even better for me I have received telephone calls from Canada Bell - $444 for internet and Hydro - $630 for heat & electric... they are running bill in my name and not paying them... Even though I have contacted them several times to disconnect my name... they tell me current resident has to call and approve in their name... Yeah right they are gonna call and say hey we have been using not her sorry we owe you $$

Thoughts, opinions, advise?????

I am so trying so very very very be a decent person and not want revenge right now!!!!

I just dont get people sometimes :{

Thanks for listening

ALLAH is the best of planners and he will never leave this guy alone! He is greater then all of this! (just thought you could see it from that angle because i had no other advice to give) Don't worry it will all turn out as it should in the end!!

[Movin on New Life 3]

Thank you EVERYONE for your words... I have been out of town the last two days and just got home from a 6 hour drive... I will respond and update tomorrow nite after work. I have to get up in 4 hours for work and too tired now. Hope you understand! I do really appreciate the support it indeed helps!

Good nite.. until tomorrow...Felicia

[trillium13 84]

I don't have anything useful to add, but I will say that you seem to be handling this as well as anyone could. I commend you for taking the high road. Take care of yourself, you deserve much better.