my wife threatening me with immigration / deportation

[LAGOSLOVE 10]

Hello.. I'm sorry to hear that but look at the fact that she has been married twice before... they obviously ran away from her control issues and insecurities. Keep your documents in order and move out.. leave her with the rest. She can not deport you and I can see you have love for her but she has real problems. Stay away from her. Move on and file for legal separation.. good luck and let love find you again

[lostinwind1 0]

Wow you are a stand up guy! You should read my thread about how my husband is treating me and he work do not support me at all.

Very sorry to hear that, but sometimes we just need to lean our hearts and walk the other direction and karma is there.

[lostinwind1 0]

Hello.. I'm sorry to hear that but look at the fact that she has been married twice before... they obviously ran away from her control issues and insecurities. Keep your documents in order and move out.. leave her with the rest. She can not deport you and I can see you have love for her but she has real problems. Stay away from her. Move on and file for legal separation.. good luck and let love find you again

Thank you very much for your words, hey what happened to Nigeria no African cup (soccer), the eagles will be absent not cool

[lostinwind1 0]

How do i avoid any false domestic violence claims? what should i do to prevent anything like that?

Thank you,

-Lostinwind

Your best bet is to either move your possessions out when you know she will not be there or contact your local law enforcement agency to observe you removing your things to "keep the peace". There will be a record made of you leaving the residence without any domestic issues and you will be protected from false allegations of violence.

I would advise you to take necessary caution and protect yourself...

Good luck

I will make sure they are people around before i get my stuff out of the house, Thank you

[himher 634]

Once you have adjusted status / lifted conditions there is little chance of your wife having you deported. Once you decide to go get your things together and avoid contact as much as possible. Having witnesses around while you pack your things is a wise thing to do. Best of luck!

Edited October 22, 2011 by himher

[MDM24 1]

I would advise in case you want to save your marriage couple's therapy (counseling) or she may need a psychiatrist.. (borderline personality disorder?, bipolar?)

[lostinwind1 0]

I would advise in case you want to save your marriage couple's therapy (counseling) or she may need a psychiatrist.. (borderline personality disorder?, bipolar?)

That's off the topic but thank you for your suggestion.

[reecy 2]

Hello,

This is my first post under new username; sorry just for privacy I am creating this username. To make the story short I came to the US on K-1 visa, I have been working 2 jobs to offer myself and my wife good life, I have built my career here from scratch thanks to god, recently my wife is not appropriating the success and she is looking at it as negative thing in our relationship... my wife has been married twice before and her I am 3rd, this is my first marriage. We fight as any other couples but we properly we do it more often because of the luck of confidence and trust from her side. we had plans to buy a house and stuff like other couples, since our first fight she became mean to me, she says things like "I brought you to this country, you were poor (which is not true, i had a job and was living fine) and I am the cause that you are well now, things no one can hear I get upset every time I hear this and it is just too much on me because I have been working hard and she has not worked since we married she was laid off and she never looked for a job, I am the one everyone look at with negative because I am foreign and not a citizen as her (friends and family). I have decided to go for divorce since we are just burning anything beautiful was between us and I want to keep whatever was good to stay that way. After I told her I want the divorce she did not accept and she is trying to get me deported. I have removed conditions and received 10 years green card. Now she is seeking help from her friends and family to get me deported (NEVER abused her or anything) she is saying that “I used her and I never wanted her and she is going to send me home, because our marriage was false” those are her words now every time I see her. I have found a new apartment and I am moving very soon. I do not mind supporting her and that’s just fine and fair because I want her to have whatever she wants, I am leaving the house with a bag of clothes nothing else she can keep whatever….

I just want some advice here and some suggestion, any comment on what should I do and should I go ahead and get a lawyer or wait until she does that?

Forgive my English and Thank you very much for reading.

-LostInWind

[reecy 2]

It is not good to pick sides especially when you are hearing from just one side. People do use people. Unfortunately this happens often. The only suggestion I will give is to try your best to save you marriage as much as you can. Do not give up so easy. Both of you need help right now with your relationship. I am so tired of hearing "Divorce". After all the time and money you guys put in to being together, it is sad that both of you are letting things end this way. If someone is saying that they want to get you deported, believe me they are hurting.

Edited October 22, 2011 by reecy

[reecy 2]

Hello.. I'm sorry to hear that but look at the fact that she has been married twice before... they obviously ran away from her control issues and insecurities. Keep your documents in order and move out.. leave her with the rest. She can not deport you and I can see you have love for her but she has real problems. Stay away from her. Move on and file for legal separation.. good luck and let love find you again

[reecy 2]

Why are you judging her? You don't know what really happened in this couple relationship. Not because she was married before means that she is controlling person.

[Boiler 45,941]

You might want to mention the I864 she signed...

[Godwen 0]

your wife did not work after you got married and you were ok about that? I dont know what happened with both of you but I believe you have your own fault too.....

Try and see if things can be amended, if not then I think everyone should move on.

My little advice to everyone whose wife isn't working and isn't looking for a job, please tell them to get a job!!!! Get them working!!!!! Joblessness leads to many things, jealousy, Obesity and many others!!!!

Even if I had all the money in the world my wife is still gonna work no matter what!!!! I dont care what she says she has to work for us to continue to live together!

[alex09 0]

Listen men, better be safe than sorry, if she's threatening to have you deported and she's been acting that nasty to you for a long time, it's good that you get out of the house, but you can be sure, she's spending all her time figuring out how to hurt you, my thoughts to you is to get a lawyer involved early, have somebody/lawyer take a look at your situation and see what they can tell you in order to save yourself from any lies she might come with I don't know what state you live in but the law is different in every state and usually the law favors the woman, you're here alone, no friends, no family and she's got everybody on her side, if she can find 2 people to lie for her about anything against you, she can get you in trouble... i'm not trying to scare you, i'm just telling you to be careful and start getting professional advice early.

[NicciNono 1]

Im sorry to hear this. I would invite her for dinner and nicely talk to her about whats going on, remind her you were fine in your country and its her attitude thats destroying things. Maybe you can work things out, and end on a happy note, or keep things going.

Sorry for your troubles! And your english is great!