Do I dare say this - "But I am GLAD for the long application wait".

[Nicoco 26]

I think in a way it made us much stronger and we were able to work out some issues that could have been problems in our marriage. So in that sense, it is good.

We are "half-way" through our K-1 journey. At this point I don't think that waiting more is good. We are waiting for an interview date from the embassy. My fiance is living in horrible conditions. He is living away from his family who does not approve of this, and he is living in a slum out side of the captial, with almost no way of transportation and food that is making him sick. The place he is at doesn't have a place to wash clothes, no heated water, and the bathroom is outside. It's flooded in Thailand right now, so he is also in a flooded area.

I have tried to get him to leave and move somewhere else, but he doesn't want to use my money anymore because I am a full time student and I work full time, so I need the money to save for our future.

It was okay for waiting when his life was normal, but this is killing me having to watch my future husband live in those conditions.

We are completely ready for the interview and we have been since Oct. 1, but the volume of cases in BKK is too large. We are hoping for the end of this year. If not, I'm afraid of what will happen to him.

[Nicoco 26]

And to add to my above post, for ME, the USC, I cannot buy the apartment yet, I cannot completely be sure about the wedding date now, and I just think over all both of our lives are on hold.

[tazzie 6]

Nowhere did I state a long waiting time is better for everyone. I am simply saying there are those of us who actually needed the time and were grateful to have it. We all dealt/will deal with the waiting in our own way and nobody's way is wrong. The people saying they were glad for it are not bad planners, or lazy, they simply needed the time and there's nothing wrong with that. To have someone come in and say "NO, NO, the waiting is horrible and you should think so too!" doesn't change anything except making one person feel "wrong" when they're not.

This is a good post Coconuts, glad you posted it. Everything you have said is true and it encourages most people.

[daryl&lada 8]

Interesting reading!