What if the K-1 beneficiary is showing some signs ...

[I_Am_That_I_Am 46]

Send her home. Don't give her a chance to hurt you any further. And hopefully that will serve as an example to others who are also experiencing same things.

She does not love you, only using you. Good Luck!

[Anh map 2,098]

I cannot control her status yes, and I don't plan to. But I can deny her residency

by letting her conditional residency expire. The issue here is I'm expecting a nor-

mal marriage but the journey to get there seems to have taken a turn. I'm not the

irrational one. I'm the one on the "fixing mode".

"Denying" isn't trying to control?

Put your effort into working on the marriage. If it fails, you've done the best that you can. Don't worry about where she may live after you would end your marriage.

[issha2lynden 77]

As sad and ugly as it sound because I am a filipina but I would like to say..US CITIZENS pls beware very small percentage of women here wont use you for the GC. We have a very bad culture which I HAte!!! like when a woman is married to USC people expect you to have a lot of money and be a santa claus..relatives expects gifts..then later before u know it ..you are supporting the whole family. When the filipino wont help they would say he/she is a bad person..stingy..not filipino..In my mind I am like OK! I am not filipino! I don't care! lol..I know women who did this, and shamelessly brag how they do it..YIKES!

The US citizen builds her family a mansion here and then when she go to US she will send money back Philly and when u say NO! she'll go ok and send all her work pay home..I mean isn't it that she should have a contribution to the household utilities?????? That must be a deal breaker really! The worst story I heard 2 women of my neighborhood married to USC and every time the husbands goes home to US the wives play around with filipino man who she introduced to hubby as driver..HATEFUL AWEFUL right???!

I went to CFO seminar geeeeez I heard girls talking..I ask do u love him? she goes hmmm just my stepping stone! WHAT? excuse me but MY HUSBAND IS NOT A STONE! I will protect him from anybody who would hurt or take advantage of him..even if that would mean cutting my ties with my family..I married the man that I vowed before God to be my husband..We are ONE! I am sad..really sad!! SO YES I am exposing the truth..opening this can full of worms!! Not all women here are bad apples..I am saying very few are good though ..Another thing, it is so ugly to see old like really old american walking holding hands in the mall with a really young filipina girl..I mean Helloooo! DO you really think she loves you???????

So OP, you must have seen red alerts when u started..things u just ignored because u believe in "CHANGE"! I learned this..If you see even just one thing or reason to stop marrying that person..RUN AWAY! So I got married at 37 The two year conditional I guess is for those women like your wife go and make an infopass and make the USCIS know the marriage is for immigration purpose. You have something on your head! USE IT! GOD BLESS YOU BRO!!

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[Boiler 45,945]

Unfortunately there have been quite a few posts like this. Divorce and move on, her issues are hers alone. Sounds like she got what she wanted.

[Sadlad 0]

Um no actually. She can divorce you and and file for ROC based on a good faith marriage (by providing them with info such as joint bank accounts, proof you lived together, stuff like that). She doesn't need you any more. She might not know that but she doesn't need you.

Unless I make an Infopass appointment with USCIS.

And if it did come to a divorce. I may have sounded "soft" in my

inquiry but I am well-prepared for a divorce. I have anticipated

a situation like this after hearing so many cases of malicious in-

tent like these. Notice I mention that I am recording her and not

only her but all of my allegations are well-supported. I am ready

for that.

[TBoneTX 45,918]

I am recording her and not only her but all of my allegations are well-supported. I am ready for that.

Good backbone. Keep us posted, si man.

[Anh map 2,098]

Unless I make an Infopass appointment with USCIS.

And if it did come to a divorce. I may have sounded "soft" in my

inquiry but I am well-prepared for a divorce. I have anticipated

a situation like this after hearing so many cases of malicious in-

tent like these. Notice I mention that I am recording her and not

only her but all of my allegations are well-supported. I am ready

for that.

The more that you share, the more dysfunction comes to the surface.

If you are looking for ICE to fight your battle, they won't. Failed marriages are not very high on their list of immigration issues to investigate.

You would have to supply overwhelming evidence of fraudulent intention and activity on your spouse's part. This will likely cost you $$$ with an immigration attorney.

[Fandango 1,440]

Unless I make an Infopass appointment with USCIS.

And if it did come to a divorce. I may have sounded "soft" in my

inquiry but I am well-prepared for a divorce. I have anticipated

a situation like this after hearing so many cases of malicious in-

tent like these. Notice I mention that I am recording her and not

only her but all of my allegations are well-supported. I am ready

for that.

I don't think you understand Vanessa. There is no 'unless' and there is no such thing as 'send her home'. She can file for ROC without you. You have done your part and opened the door already.

I suppose the only thing you can do is to make the Infopass appt just to let your concerns be known, and to have it on file in case she forges your name. And unless you have some super evidence of hr marrying you under fraudulent intent, there's not much USCIS/ICE will do.

Record her all you want, but depending on the state you live in, that evidence may be inadmissible.

Her immigration status is out of your hands. I'm sorry you're going through this.

[Sadlad 0]

I don't think you understand Vanessa. There is no 'unless' and there is no such thing as 'send her home'. She can file for ROC without you. You have done your part and opened the door already.

I suppose the only thing you can do is to make the Infopass appt just to let your concerns be known, and to have it on file in case she forges your name. And unless you have some super evidence of hr marrying you under fraudulent intent, there's not much USCIS/ICE will do.

Record her all you want, but depending on the state you live in, that evidence may be inadmissible.

Her immigration status is out of your hands. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Yes that is the part I was not clear, looks like she can file it without me pending

approval. My original inquiry was about the process wasn't it?

The recording are inadmissible? I was probably confused of what I hear in courts.

What about phone texts where she is discussing with her bestfriend about her plan?

What about bank statements that she hid money? Are they inadmissible? Like I said,

I'm well-prepared. I'm sure this is enough for you. And you probably won't believe

verbal abuse or racist comments cannot be proven either. That is fine, that is your

opinion. I'm just saying I'm ready for court.

Divorce happens and I have accepted it. I don't like the very idea divorce, but they

happen. I don't like talking about her relatives' racist fraternity nor talking about

her convicted child-molester uncle (whom she defends without offering any proof).

Let's drop the topic. Divorces are indeed ugly by nature. This is not what I wanted.

[Boiler 45,945]

Have you discussed all this with your Divorce Lawyer?

I know laws vary by State, not that probably many people on this site are knowledgeable in this area.

[Kiv 32]

She has to file for I 751 not you. It needs your signature but it can go without it.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Yes that is the part I was not clear, looks like she can file it without me pending approval. My original inquiry was about the process wasn't it?

The recording are inadmissible? I was probably confused of what I hear in courts. What about phone texts where she is discussing with her bestfriend about her plan? What about bank statements that she hid money? Are they inadmissible? Like I said, I'm well-prepared. I'm sure this is enough for you. And you probably won't believe verbal abuse or racist comments cannot be proven either. That is fine, that is your opinion. I'm just saying I'm ready for court.

Divorce happens and I have accepted it. I don't like the very idea divorce, but they happen. I don't like talking about her relatives' racist fraternity nor talking about her convicted child-molester uncle (whom she defends without offering any proof).

Let's drop the topic. Divorces are indeed ugly by nature. This is not what I wanted.

Okay. I'm sorry I kind of took the topic off path, I just wanted to correct your confusion about the I-751 (ROC).

To answer your initial question, no there's no extension to her conditional status (2 year card). She MUST file the I-751 before her conditional GC expires. She can file it with you, she can file it without you (no forgery or faking of signatures needed) provided you are divorced OR she can file it based on abuse (no divorce required). Failure to file the ROC before her GC expires results in her status being revoked and if caught, she will be deported.

In response to the above quote. Depending on your state the recordings COULD be inadmissible due to privacy laws. Some states require BOTH parties permission/knowledge of the recording, some states require just one party to agree/know about the recording... So you need to know your specific state laws to know if they're admissible.

Phone texts, unless they're to you COULD be a privacy breach. Bank statements "hiding" money is explained away as "saving" money.

All that's irrelevant anyway. You could take it to USCIS and see what happens, but you won't "for sure" be able to stop her immigrating. It's pretty much at that stage where her immigration status isn't really up to you. You can help her but you don't have to and she doesn't need to. Now it's whether to divorce or not. If you don't, you don't. If you do, you do. Has no bearing on her immigration status.

[Fandango 1,440]

Agreed with Vanessa. Check the privacy laws in your state. You could be compiling all this stuff, and making a case which shows a very controlling husband monitoring his wife's every move.

The divorce and her immigration process are two separate issues. Verbal abuse doesn't necessarily prove a scam for immigration benefits.

If you want to 'catch her out' to prove she used you for benefits, check the state laws about putting a keylogger on your own computer. Not if she has her own, but if she uses yours, then that might be worth a shot, providing it's legal and admissible in your state. But understand, you need to have overwhelming evidence to not appear to be the scorned bitter spouse.

Good luck. I really mean that.

[ceadsearc 516]

It sounds like you have two issues, one regarding your wife's immigration status and one regarding your marriage.

Unless you have proof that your wife was using you for a green card, in which case you can turn that over to USCIS, there is not much you can do about your wife's immigration status. She can divorce you and file for her 10-year green card without any help, signatures, or approval from you because she already has her conditional green card.

As for your issues with the relationship itself, it would probably be in your best interest to consult a divorce attorney if you think you are or may be headed in that direction. They can advise you on the best path and whether or not any recordings, etc. will be allowed and/or useful. If you have no children and haven't been married that long, it may not make a big difference anyway.

[DeeDee&Sam 68]

she's been there for a while so me saying it might be culture shock it would be nonsense. send her home, or if you keep her and she divorces you after getting the green card dont be surprised :/