My story...

[kennym 275]

oohh btw, whether someone ask for help or not, when I see someone taking abuse, I jump in whether they ask for help or not..

You girls need to play nicely...

Edited October 7, 2011 by kennym

[kennym 275]

who's fault is that?oh yeah the husband.she doesn't wanna see it for what it is.yes she shouldn't take ###### and abuse from anyone,EVER,that's a given,but you are living in someone else's house,you gotta respect their rules.honestly this whole is so juvenile.again I'm not taking any sides in this story but this belongs to an episode of teen mom or something off MTV.let's grow up,shall we?

'thelastpetitioner'

What are you talking about? Or better yet, what are you drinking? The point is, she is being attacked by folks here on VJ, that's the issue.

I agree, and that is what I'm saying.. Stop attacking people over #######! GROW - UP !!!

[Phil N 4]

There is a lot of missing information here, obut that's probably for the better...

Grandma dislikes DeeDee for whatever reason, and decided to become belligerent about it. To her, DeeDee is fingernails on a chalkboard, just for existing and what she represents to grandma. Sort of like a wicked stepmother, only wicked grandmother. Since grandma is an abuser, she also rules mama, and is going to talk and bully mama into whatever grandma thinks is best.

I agree that hubby coulda/shoulda done more to protect his new wife from the abuse, but he is young and didn't know what to do in the moment. He seems to have regained his bearings, resolved to take care of her, and at least his new bride is happy with him, and that's what's most important.

The part about mama & grandma & whoever renting that house out from under them, now that's bizarre... trying to make life difficult for the young couple; for some reason (still grandma calling the shots, no doubt) they have really strong negative feelings about DeeDee and want to do whatever they can to create difficulty for Sam in the marriage so he'll bail on her. Well, DeeDee probably already has enough for a VAWA 360 petition if that was her goal, but obviously it wasn't, it was her man that she came for.

So grandma, and mom, must have some agenda for Sam that DeeDee is somehow interfering with. I wonder what that agenda is. This whole thing also makes me curious about Sam's dad, if he is in the picture or long gone or whatever, and whatever other family support is there for him and DeeDee.

In any case, Sam has made a huge effort and commitment to bring DeeDee here, navigating the paperwork, process, expenses, and then faced up to tremendous difficulties from family once DeeDee arrived. If he applies that same determination and persistence to overcoming these family obstacles, and helping DeeDee adjust, it looks promising for a happy ending. Best of luck to both of you!

[Dan and Judy 614]

I love how the 12 years old keeps coming up. The OP said Grandma was spreading rumors about her having sex at the age of 12.

She also said she was in highschool when she knocked out the girls tooth. The OP was not the first to use the word hillbilly in this thread.

If someone drags you out of bed and throws you around and all you do is call them hillbilly. I don't think that is an over reaction.

[Confused 2 94]

'thelastpetitioner'

What are you talking about? Or better yet, what are you drinking? The point is, she is being attacked by folks here on VJ, that's the issue.

I agree, and that is what I'm saying.. Stop attacking people over #######! GROW - UP !!!

Everyone here understands that everyone has different views of her situation. You have a view and keep forcing people to agree otherwise you start attacking them. You believe DeeDee is a 100% innocent and I don't. That's that. The truth, only the people involved in the situation will know. As far as I can see, DeeDee does not seem the kind who can take even the smallest of things without biting back. It seems very unlikely to me that she did absolutely nothing to fuel the fire. Sam's grandma might be a b***h but DeeDee doesn't look like an innocent angel either.

as far as not asking for advice, well then, don't post in public forums DeeDee. 4 days of being married and you are already blasting his family on the internet. You posted and people responded. So chill!

[kennym 275]

Confused

You also. The issue is you guys are inventing reasons to attack someone. "I dont know any of you, but believe you could be a violent agressive person." What a ridiculous assumption. It is baseless, unfounded and sounds like children.

There is just as much possibility she is telling the truth and all of you are. assuming simply because either, what she posted about something that occured 10 years ago, or there is no way the grandma can be wrong. Not all grandmas are sweet and nice.

Its not about the OP, it is about inventing reasons to attack somebody.

Not shoving anything down your throat or anyone elses. Somebody attack the OP over some baseless BS, then a bunch of you jumped on the band wagon. Like a bunch of Jerry Springer groupies.

Whether shes innocent or not, isnt the point. What basis do you have for assuming she deserves the attacks. It ses you and other are basing you feelings on something in her pre-teen years.

So if anyone is shoving something down anyones throats, it the Jerry Springer fans.

You are just upset, because someone stands up against the bullies. I am certain that if you guys werent in the anynomity of the internet, none of you would treat people like this in person. Its simply cowardly.

Edited October 7, 2011 by kennym

[kennym 275]

Sorry for the bad grammer. Using this phone keyboard is tricky.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

Confused

You also. The issue is you guys are inventing reasons to attack someone. "I dont know any of you, but believe you could be a violent agressive person." What a ridiculous assumption. It is baseless, unfounded and sounds like children.

There is just as much possibility she is telling the truth and all of you are. assuming simply because either, what she posted about something that occured 10 years ago, or there is no way the grandma can be wrong. Not all grandmas are sweet and nice.

Its not about the OP, it is about inventing reasons to attack somebody.

Not shoving anything down your throat or anyone elses. Somebody attack the OP over some baseless BS, then a bunch of you jumped on the band wagon. Like a bunch of Jerry Springer groupies.

Whether shes innocent or not, isnt the point. What basis do you have for assuming she deserves the attacks. It ses you and other are basing you feelings on something in her pre-teen years.

So if anyone is shoving something down anyones throats, it the Jerry Springer fans.

You are just upset, because someone stands up against the bullies. I am certain that if you guys werent in the anynomity of the internet, none of you would treat people like this in person. Its simply cowardly.

kennym -

I can assure you that if I had heard this story in person, and had any reason to believe that the person telling the story was embellishing or less than forthcoming, that I would question them about it - in person.

[kennym 275]

Well ask you your questions. Dont invent reasons to attack someone

[Fandango 1,439]

What I really want to know is, where was your husband when the grandma was attacking you, DeeDee????

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

Well ask you your questions. Dont invent reasons to attack someone

I did not invent a reason.

The story (as told) is a bit fantastical. Even a cool-headed person would probably not just let someone pull them out of bed by the hair. Our friend the OP does not seem to have a history of being cool-headed. I don't think she would let it happen that way.

So, even if things happened as they were told, I doubt the reaction of DeeDee was as she explained it. I tend to think if there was any family drama it was only escalated by her.

This isn't an invention. It's common sense.

[rlogan 2,036]

well 3 nights ago, my husband was playing on the computer so i went outside , layed on the grass and watched the stars. my husband run and woke his mom up saying i run in the woods and this caused a huge scandal...

etc.

Regardless of whether there is missing information, the drama is excellent with felonies and all. Starting with assault, unlawful imprisonment maybe, extortion...

Very good on a Friday afternoon.

Edited October 7, 2011 by rlogan

[DeeDee&Sam 68]

I did not invent a reason.

The story (as told) is a bit fantastical. Even a cool-headed person would probably not just let someone pull them out of bed by the hair. Our friend the OP does not seem to have a history of being cool-headed. I don't think she would let it happen that way.

So, even if things happened as they were told, I doubt the reaction of DeeDee was as she explained it. I tend to think if there was any family drama it was only escalated by her.

This isn't an invention. It's common sense.

no, because you dont know ####### about me. if im lying, how come the whole family except his sister and his sisters daughter dont say a word to her anymore? how come they are all on mine and sam's side? because they were there and they saw i didnt do or say a thing wrong. and as i said before, my mom in law told me she didnt like me even before i came to america, because im a foreigner. she didnt like me and she didnt give me a chance from the start. and her being nice to me for a week was pure acting. i didnt do #######, because im smart enough to behave in a new environment. so shut that drama mouth of yours, and get the hell out of my topic, because you have no idea what im talking about, and you "help" is not needed.

for the person who asked me where was sam during this time, he was trying to change the matress we had on the bed with a new one, and he wasnt around, but when i told him what happened later that night he exploded. so whoever dares to blame my husband one more time can go and drown in niagara falls. and no sam's dad is not in the discution and he'll never be, since he's not part of our lives thank god.

now the old problem some people seem to have with me, i wasnt 12, i was in highschool, i was probably 16 or 17 i dont remember. when i was 12 i was a geek with the highest grades in my class so that doesnt count.

and yes @Confused 2 , i will attack everyone that talks ####### about me or my husband, because you guys dont know any of us , so your opinion isnt needed.

because

1. i didnt ask for help

2. i didnt look for sympathy

3. i wasnt whining

4. i didnt ask for opinion or advice

5. im not and ill never be a butt kisser and a loser like you expect me to be. and ill bite every one of those who throw ####### at me and my family

because as i said before. this topic was made for people in the same situation, not for wannabe internet smartasses

and kennym is just experessing his opinion, no he's not being a butt kisser , and he's right, because you people are inventing ####### to take me down, and dont hope for that cause 100 of you wont manage to do that

Regardless of whether there is missing information, the drama is excellent with felonies and all. Starting with assault, unlawful imprisonment maybe, extortion...

Very good on a Friday afternoon.

no, theres no missing information, all the details are there. good luck being a paranoid

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

You are fun to bother.

Really DeeDee, I don't believe you let someone pull you out of bed by the hair and just took it lying down.

That's just made up horse hockey.

Edited October 7, 2011 by Rebecca Jo

[kennym 275]

I did not invent a reason.

The story (as told) is a bit fantastical. Even a cool-headed person would probably not just let someone pull them out of bed by the hair. Our friend the OP does not seem to have a history of being cool-headed. I don't think she would let it happen that way.

So, even if things happened as they were told, I doubt the reaction of DeeDee was as she explained it. I tend to think if there was any family drama it was only escalated by her.

This isn't an invention. It's common sense.

Yea. Rebecca, the queen of drama. There is no evidence that its anything but the way she explained. Those that chose to believe your spin are simply bored and havent got much of a life.