Depressed and sick! Fiance Visa denied/ request more info... this is too much on us!!!!

[naijaboy 16]

Hi guys,

This journey of mine has been long! I expected it to come to an end on Sept 20 but it didnt.. i feel empty and im tired!!!!!!

I filed for a fiance visa last Nov. 2010 She lives in Lagos and she had a rough time getting her approval packet in the mail.. Finally i emailed the consulate office and they emailed the package along with a interview date of Sept 20th 2011... we thought we were soooo prepared.. I had everything ready from pics, to emails, chat logs, money gram receipts of over $5,000 worth of transactions of cash i sent her over the past year and cards.. I also had the affidavit of support with tax info, work info and a bank statement.. I had my itinerary from October of 2010 and July 2011 from the times i came to visit her.. copies of my passport stamped as proof of the visit. i filed a fiance visa for my ex wife through the Abuja office in 2005 and i sent her a copy of the divorce papers just in case that would be a issue. we google on info on the interview process and read through this forum several times! Well Sept 20th came and she called me after the interview and stated she did not get the visa.. she stated that the interviewer was very nasty to her.. he asked her why aren't we getting married in Nigeria? why wait to get married in America? she answered that my family is in America and we wanted to have the wedding in America. He also asked her why haven't we done a introduction ceremony? He looked at the pics and asked why weren't other people in the pics? we didn't realize that they wanted to see other people in the pics.. At the end of the day he told her that she didn't have enough proof.. He asked her for more pics, pics that told a story, pics with us and other people in it.. he also asked for telephone records.. we use a online calling card service called rebtel that gives me an American number to dial that connects me to Nigeria.. that is the only record on the phone bill.. I hope that is enough.. I printed out rebtel call log and my ATT bill.. It shows i call her like 5 times a day.. He told her to send a email requesting for another interview that.. He said it may take over 7 weeks to schedule another date.. im so tired and sad... Its like someone has our lives in their hands.. This is the hardest thing ever... I wouldn't advise anyone to go through such a thing.. Love is something! The things we do for love!! I feel helpless

Edited September 22, 2011 by naijaboy

[Miss smarty pants 84]

Cheer up! You haven't really been denied yet. Try to collect the evidence they are asking for and take it to them if you can.

[patient2010 93]

No need to feel helpless. Get yourself together and the things they need and send an email to request a new interview date...You were not denied just delayed...Good luck to you guys and welcome to VJ

[HARMONY2012 16]

Kai, I feel for you! I really do! All I can say is not to give up...As hard as it is to hear this, God does everything for a reason...Get up, brush yourself off and keep moving. I wish you all the best of luck, I really do. XOXO

[naijaboy 16]

Thanks guys! i sent the info that same day through fedex.. I sent about 100 pages of 6 months of phone records from ATT and rebtel... I high lighted all the calls every page had calls! I also only found 12 pics with me, her and others in them.. it seemed that we mostly took pics of just ourselves together.. I also found old i love u? why haven't u called me all day emails and i sent those as well..

[HARMONY2012 16]

Thanks guys! i sent the info that same day through fedex.. I sent about 100 pages of 6 months of phone records from ATT and rebtel... I high lighted all the calls every page had calls! I also only found 12 pics with me, her and others in them.. it seemed that we mostly took pics of just ourselves together.. I also found old i love u? why haven't u called me all day emails and i sent those as well..

AwWw...See you didnt even waist time to send them right back the information they are looking for.....You guys will be fine...

This is the time to put your whole trust in God because he is the one really in total control....He is a faithful God and WILL get you guys through this.

GoodLuck!

[Blessing+faith 1]

Everything is going to be just fine...dont worry...

[naijaboy 16]

AwWw...See you didnt even waist time to send them right back the information they are looking for.....You guys will be fine...

This is the time to put your whole trust in God because he is the one really in total control....He is a faithful God and WILL get you guys through this.

GoodLuck!

Thanks! we will pray hard about it! Also we have pics of us in the same traditional outfits.. Is that a good idea to send those type of pics or will they now use it against us and ask if we are already married? My fiance says not to use those pics because mostly married couple dress alike in Nigeria

[patient2010 93]

Thanks guys! i sent the info that same day through fedex.. I sent about 100 pages of 6 months of phone records from ATT and rebtel... I high lighted all the calls every page had calls! I also only found 12 pics with me, her and others in them.. it seemed that we mostly took pics of just ourselves together.. I also found old i love u? why haven't u called me all day emails and i sent those as well..

You will be fine no worries

[HARMONY2012 16]

Thanks! we will pray hard about it! Also we have pics of us in the same traditional outfits.. Is that a good idea to send those type of pics or will they now use it against us and ask if we are already married? My fiance says not to use those pics because mostly married couple dress alike in Nigeria

Yes, she is right. Stay away from those kind of pics where you guys are in uniform, though not always the case married couples are the ones that usually wear matching outfits. What you previously stated sounds good enough to have sent back to them....

[naijaboy 16]

Yes, she is right. Stay away from those kind of pics where you guys are in uniform, though not always the case married couples are the ones that usually wear matching outfits. What you previously stated sounds good enough to have sent back to them....

ok Thanks! my cousin said that it was ok to use them because non married couples do where uniforms at parties and so on.. but my fiance had a bad feeling about it.. no need to arouse any suspicion from the interviewer

[Harsh_77 718]

You have not been denied and you can still make it.

[HARMONY2012 16]

ok Thanks! my cousin said that it was ok to use them because non married couples do where uniforms at parties and so on.. but my fiance had a bad feeling about it.. no need to arouse any suspicion from the interviewer

Yes, its not uncommon for non married couples to wear uniforms (but the majority are married). Anyways in YOUR case, you want to stay away from those kind of pics, because like you said "no need to arouse any suspicion". This is Lagos...Everything people do or say or dont do or say is suspicious to them...Keep the pictures for now my dear....Listen to your wife to be... :-)

Edited September 22, 2011 by HARMONY2012

[naijaboy 16]

Yes, its not uncommon for non married couples to wear uniforms (but the majority are married). Anyways in YOUR case, you want to stay away from those kind of pics, because like you said "no need to arouse any suspicion". This is Lagos...Everything people do or say or dont do or say is suspicious to them...Keep the pictures for now my dear....Listen to your wife to be... :-)

Thanks i will!

[yankee4real 0]

Hey Naijaboy,

Be happy & dont be depressed because she is lucky to have another chance. This same case happened to someone I heard of. She got to the embassy another time and the same consular officer that interviewed her said why she brought new evidences ..... ? Imagine that ! And the consular later said the evidences she brought the first day was enough to get visa... At last, he gave her the visa.

So, prepare all the requested evidences and try again... YOU ARE NOT YET DENIED.

Best of luck