urgent!

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Are you suggesting that after she moved out there to be with him and lived with him for two months and married the guy, he can just end things without an explanation? I put in two options there, she can VOLUNTARILY move it (meaning he can't kick her out) OR maybe there is something to save there, none of us know what's going through this guy's head, it could be he's afraid of going through the process or doesn't have the money to maybe? Ultimately it's something that should be explained to her regardless of whether his decision stands or not.

I'm not suggesting it I'm stating it. While an explanation would be NICE, he doesn't have to. It doesn't change anything. A lot of people go on about what people are "owed" and she isn't really owed anything except a safe way home.. and even then she isn't owed that, it's just NICE. People always make it more about the immigration than about the relationship. If she hadn't immigrated and she was from the US instead she'd just move on with her life thinking he's an a*shole. Suddenly involve immigration and she gave up everything to come here and blah blah blah. That was HER choice too. She made a leap of faith and it didn't work out. People feel more bitter about it. More embarassed crawling back home... but there was always that risk.

Lets say she asks and he says he just doesn't love her anymore. Would that REALLY fix anything? Wouldn't she still wonder what prompted it?

Sure if she thinks there's something to save she can try talking to him about it but my point is you said he NEEDS to explain it. He doesn't. Just like if she suddenly left she wouldn't have to explain it either and no matter what she said he'd just assume she used him for a GC and it sounds like from the OP no matter what he says she will just assume he's cheating and found someone else.

Edited September 14, 2011 by Vanessa&Tony

[Deema & Wayne 28]

I'm not suggesting it I'm stating it. While an explanation would be NICE, he doesn't have to. It doesn't change anything. A lot of people go on about what people are "owed" and she isn't really owed anything except a safe way home.. and even then she isn't owed that, it's just NICE. People always make it more about the immigration than about the relationship. If she hadn't immigrated and she was from the US instead she'd just move on with her life thinking he's an a*shole. Suddenly involve immigration and she gave up everything to come here and blah blah blah. That was HER choice too. She made a leap of faith and it didn't work out. People feel more bitter about it. More embarassed crawling back home... but there was always that risk.

Lets say she asks and he says he just doesn't love her anymore. Would that REALLY fix anything? Wouldn't she still wonder what prompted it?

Sure if she thinks there's something to save she can try talking to him about it but my point is you said he NEEDS to explain it. He doesn't. Just like if she suddenly left she wouldn't have to explain it either and no matter what she said he'd just assume she used him for a GC and it sounds like from the OP no matter what he says she will just assume he's cheating and found someone else.

It's easy to say all that when you're not in this person's shoes, yes an explanation would be nice and is also necessary in my opinion, she didn't move down the street, she moved to a different country and no one makes a "leap of faith" unless they were given the impression that this is something worth doing. It doesn't necessarily have to fix anything, whether it's something we want to hear or not, knowing the truth will help her heal. We can't make anyone give an explanation, but it's the decent thing to do and I think it's worth a shot to talk to him and at least try. I know if my husband just walked out, I'd like to know why and we can't know what either of them is thinking so assumptions at this point won't do anyone any good. This isn't about immigration at all I agree with you on that but talking to him can either give her the satisfaction of knowing even if she still needs to leave or fix their relationship if it's not about cheating on her at all and just about something that can be fixed. Just my two cents, I'm not asking you to agree with me.

[i see you 0]

Hello! Why does it matter whether he is African American or Caucasian? Does that matter in this situation? Why did you even have to bring his race up? Is it your friend or you that needs the advice? At any rate, she should know if he has another woman or not nobody on here can help her. She needs to follow him and see what he does when he is not at home or just come out and ask him.

Thank you for all your advice and suggestions. And thank you for those people who believe that this situation is real and than you also for the people who doesn't believe it. I appreciated it a lot. "kurkure" If it bothers you when I mentioned what kind of race is it will for me there is nothing wrong with that! I didn't mean anything just describe it. Make sure that you understand what I am saying....Thank you and more power!

[Deema & Wayne 28]

Thank you for all your advice and suggestions. And thank you for those people who believe that this situation is real and than you also for the people who doesn't believe it. I appreciated it a lot. "kurkure" If it bothers you when I mentioned what kind of race is it will for me there is nothing wrong with that! I didn't mean anything just describe it. Make sure that you understand what I am saying....Thank you and more power!

Best of luck, I hope things work out whichever way they go.

[bobby231 3]

Ii have no advice or help but just want to say that if this is true, and I have read other similar stories -some true some not some just one side, and i am not suggesting this is either, but I'll never understand it. We go through so much to get these VISA and our partners here. I think everyone will agree getting a VISA for the US is no picnic. I'll never understand how some petitioners can go thru all that to get thier fiance(e) or spouse here and then not commit to the person. I mean, why bother with all this frustration and anxiety, etc in the first place if that's what your going to do? I know some things don't work out and sometimes that's found out early. But jeez you can still be human about it and act with care and compasion and do what you can to make it as painless as possible for the beneficiary if things don;t work out. If this was K-1 I wonder why he married her and then 2 months later want someone else.

I'll never understand it. He could do the same thing with any USC and not ever have gone through the agonizing VISA process.

I don't get it.

I guess I expect to much from some humans. Guess I expect everyone will behave like majority of members here on VJ who are overly ecstatic and on emotional overload for weeks, months, years when they finally get thier fiance(e)/spouses here after VISA process hell.

[i see you 0]

not "leave" . Sorry it's live.....

[i see you 0]

Guys my friend told me that during their wedding. She said that there was no witness who signed in the paper only the lawyer, her and her husband. Is it right?

[katiemanny 64]

Guys my friend told me that during their wedding. She said that there was no witness who signed in the paper only the lawyer, her and her husband. Is it right?

For what purpose was the lawyer at the wedding, to serve as a witness or to acknowledge the validity of the wedding?

I believe its fine if the lawyer signed as a witness, but also 2 witness is needed excluding the newly weds.

Edited September 14, 2011 by katiemanny

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Some assumptions have been made in this thread, and they've never been clarified. So, first off...

Did your friend come to the US with a fiancee visa, and is her current husband the petitioner? If not, and she came with some other type of visa and just met and married this guy, then all of the speculation from other members about what effort was expended by either party to bring her here is moot.

Next question is what does an attorney have to do with their marriage? Is this an immigration attorney? If so then I smell a really big rat...

In all likelihood he cannot just throw her out of the house, but it has nothing to do with any spousal obligation to support her as was implied elsewhere in this thread. It has to do with tenancy laws. In some states her name would have to appear on the lease or title in order for her to have tenancy rights, but in many states a spouse has implied right of tenancy. Basically, this means it's just as much her home as it is his. Only a judge could order one of them to leave.

That said, marrying her doesn't obligate him to help her with immigration. Even if he filed a K1 petition to bring her here, he's not required to help her adjust status. If the relationship is over then he can divorce her and walk away.