Married on K1 wants divorce

[Bryan and Isabel 29]

What a rough situation, you really did everything in your power to make this work, i don't think you could have done anymore. It is him, he just may be immature or crazy! Don't give up hope and you are right about one thing, MONEY COMES AND GOES!! For the woman I have in my life now I would have sold my house as well , TWICE!! =)

[maria6 4]

I think he has serious mental problem..1 min he loves you then next min he don't care.as i am reading your story I know there's something wrong with this guy!

I agree...he sounded like my fiance's ex-wife...BPD or Behavior Personality Disorder.

[TBoneTX 46,118]

Sorry that you had to come all the way from South America just to encounter a womanizer here. Not all Norteamericanos are like that.

Good luck, si man.

[Dan and Judy 614]

I would recommend you google the state you got married in and annulment. there is a chance that would be the easiest way to go

[momoaz 1]

I am sorry you have had such a difficult journey. I want you and all other readers out there to know not all of us Americans are like that. Going against what many people say I gave my fiance money in the Philippines. I asked her to quit her 11 hour a day job and I put 2 years income in a bank account in her name I had no access to. I explained to her I could deposit but not withdraw and that money was for her to live on in case I turned out to be a bad man. It's still there and will be there in case she can not adapt to life in the US so we are all not like the man you fell in love with and gave your life to.

On behalf of us good guys I apologize and while as my fiance says "it is very hard to reach your country" I hope you get what you desire and are happy.

The people I have read about here, the truly good people and the crazy ones, all found this place and I am grateful for it and the information good and bad, it brings to all of us

Thank You VisaJourney and I'll have a good thought for you Laura2011

momoaz

[Laura2011 0]

Sorry that you had to come all the way from South America just to encounter a womanizer here. Not all Norteamericanos are like that.

Good luck, si man.

I guess it's not about nationalities, it was probably back luck and all the excitement that got me blind and not to see what I see now. I've also read many of the stories here and the 'signs' are always there but sometimes we just don't want to see them. I see things in a different way now but I still hope one day my heart will heal and will be able to love again... maybe i find the right man then.

[TBoneTX 46,118]

I guess it's not about nationalities, it was probably back luck and all the excitement that got me blind and not to see what I see now. I've also read many of the stories here and the 'signs' are always there but sometimes we just don't want to see them. I see things in a different way now but I still hope one day my heart will heal and will be able to love again... maybe i find the right man then.

Everything, even this, happens for a reason. I have complete confidence that your heart will heal and you'll find the right man who will love you in return.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Thank you all for your replies. I did not know i could file for the divorce in my country, I'm not from the Philippines, I'm from South America. I guess I'll have to find out how to file for divorce but that's easier than depending on him.

1- With all the experience, the least I want is to go to the States; just thinking about it brings all the memories and the sadness back. I think one day I'll go visit and finally have peace.. knowing that the nightmare is over.

2- Last year he was starting a new business and things were hard but I know this was a good year for his business. I think there are really no assets to split unless he has hidden them from me, anyway I'm not interested in anything but divorce. Sometimes I think he just enjoys to control things, that he is a womanizer and as long as I'm away, it doesnt bother him but you may be right that he may just not want to spend money.

Ok, file for the divorce in your country. If you ever apply for a B2 visa then the issue of the K1 might be raised at the interview. Be prepared to explain your situation, and have a copy of your divorce decree to prove you're no longer married. Did you turn in your I-94 when you left the US?

As I mentioned, it's a common misconception in the US that a husband has to give his ex-wife half of everything he owns during a divorce. It's not true in any state. In most states you would split any assets acquired during the marriage, but anything either of you owned before the marriage would remain your own separate property. Unless he came into a large sum of money after you were married then he'd have nothing to fear from a property settlement - he won't lose anything. I don't know if that's what's holding him back from divorce. I only mentioned it as a possibility because, as I said, many people have this misconception about divorce in the US.

[Laura2011 0]

Ok, file for the divorce in your country. If you ever apply for a B2 visa then the issue of the K1 might be raised at the interview. Be prepared to explain your situation, and have a copy of your divorce decree to prove you're no longer married. Did you turn in your I-94 when you left the US?

As I mentioned, it's a common misconception in the US that a husband has to give his ex-wife half of everything he owns during a divorce. It's not true in any state. In most states you would split any assets acquired during the marriage, but anything either of you owned before the marriage would remain your own separate property. Unless he came into a large sum of money after you were married then he'd have nothing to fear from a property settlement - he won't lose anything. I don't know if that's what's holding him back from divorce. I only mentioned it as a possibility because, as I said, many people have this misconception about divorce in the US.

I did turn in my I-94 when I left. As I said before I married on the 89 day.. left 3 days later. What was my status then??

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

I did turn in my I-94 when I left. As I said before I married on the 89 day.. left 3 days later. What was my status then??

You were out of status, but you only had two days of overstay. Not a problem. The only adverse effect from an overstay of less than 180 days is you wouldn't be eligible for any of the streamlined visitor programs like the Visa Waiver Program. You'd need a visa to visit the US. That really wouldn't affect you since there are no South American countries that currently participate in the VWP.

Turning in your I-94 ensures that your exit from the US was properly recorded.