my wife cheated on me when i was in morocco

[Dixie_Peach 1]

i only brought enough for cindi ... the rest of you have to get your own!

i think i need spiked kool-aid to continue reading...

[bhajishah 4]

Advantages for the men. Always have good home to come to, ensures your responsibilty to your family and to the creator.. secure your place in the hereafter

life isnt about titties and beer guys..keep your promises and responsibilities.

[Hilarious Clinton 452]

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[MaryandMian 1]

Just trying to figure this out.

One man, multiple women: Legal under Islamic law. (maybe not feasible for many anymore but legal nonetheless)

One woman, multiple men: Illegal under Islamic law.

Haven't quite figured out how this creation thing plays into this inequality (unless Allah created multiple women for the man which I'm not sure the "book" really gives that).

Anyhow, run the advantages of Islamic law for a healthy marriage by me one more time...

I married a muslim man and we discussed this in depth when he asked me to marry him. So here is what I have read and understood so anyone forgive me if I am wrong.

Yes under Islamic law a man can have more than one wife. This was created in the beginning of Islam so that during the many wars widows and there children would be married to another man and the family unit would stay intact.

Now days almost all Islamic marriages are like the ones in other parts of the world. One spouse and you sign a Nikkah contract with the terms of divorce so that you can not just say I divorce you without good grounds. Divorce or death of first spouse are grounds for another marriage just like in any other society. Now in Islamic countries they do have more than one wife. Plus, the first wife is supposed to grant the permission for an second wife.

I think that in Islamic marriages as well as other marriages you have to sit and discuss how you feel in advance of the marriage. You cannot think the marriage is like Prince Charming kisses the Sleeping Princess and that life is perfect. Just my opinion. And I am not sure exactly what the OP was asking if it was the Islamic part of divorce in the USA or if it was about his green card being effected by the problems with the marriage possibly going into divorce.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Allah created Man and then created woman as companion. The house, having babies etc is the womans domain. Physically we are weaker, menatally we are stronger

Cindi,

Put the Kool-Aid down and come out of your cave with your hands on your head. Thank you.

I love my cave xoxox

life isnt about titties and beer guys..keep your promises and responsibilities.

What if you're smart like me and make no promises and assume no responsibilities?

Then, life can be about titties and beer.

[Melo 1]

I think that people staying together out of fear is sickening... I find religious doctrines ridiculous... the Quran says that it is OK for a man to beat his wife... in fact I can quote the verse and book if you want me to... the Bible, Vedas, Geeta, so on and so forth all carry verses that I find objectionable. All religions are similar in as much as they preach hatred and intolerance and all religions are similar in as much as it hands control over a household firmly in the man's hands. I cannot view that as ok at all. To my mind a couple should want to work towards keeping their marriage intact. The very notion of executing someone (read woman) is completely unacceptable.

[bhajishah 4]

Allah created Man and then created woman as companion. The house, having babies etc is the womans domain. Physically we are weaker, menatally we are stronger

Cindi,

Put the Kool-Aid down and come out of your cave with your hands on your head. Thank you.

I love my cave xoxox

life isnt about titties and beer guys..keep your promises and responsibilities.

What if you're smart like me and make no promises and assume no responsibilities?

Then, life can be about titties and beer.

Aj your stuck , you ran off and got married

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

I think that people staying together out of fear is sickening... I find religious doctrines ridiculous... the Quran says that it is OK for a man to beat his wife... in fact I can quote the verse and book if you want me to... the Bible, Vedas, Geeta, so on and so forth all carry verses that I find objectionable. All religions are similar in as much as they preach hatred and intolerance and all religions are similar in as much as it hands control over a household firmly in the man's hands. I cannot view that as ok at all. To my mind a couple should want to work towards keeping their marriage intact. The very notion of executing someone (read woman) is completely unacceptable.

In fact, religion should be outlawed.

Religion should be declared subversive and immoral and all religious people should be forced into re-education camps. Those who resist must be executed to maintain order and morality.

Melo, you sound positively Stalinist

Aj your stuck , you ran off and got married

Can't I atleast PRETEND my life is about titties and beer?

[bhajishah 4]

Someone has to be the leader and somehwere there should be laws. or there will be complete anarchy and chaos

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

I think that in Islamic marriages as well as other marriages you have to sit and discuss how you feel in advance of the marriage. You cannot think the marriage is like Prince Charming kisses the Sleeping Princess and that life is perfect. Just my opinion. And I am not sure exactly what the OP was asking if it was the Islamic part of divorce in the USA or if it was about his green card being effected by the problems with the marriage possibly going into divorce.

See, now we're getting somewhere. I was just trying to figure out why cindi would sit there on pretending that Islamic law would be the cure for infidelity. It simply isn't. Marriages work and fail everywhere.

Someone has to be the leader and somehwere there should be laws. or there will be complete anarchy and chaos

There are laws. One husband and one wife. That's the law. Here anyways...

[bhajishah 4]

I think that people staying together out of fear is sickening... I find religious doctrines ridiculous... the Quran says that it is OK for a man to beat his wife... in fact I can quote the verse and book if you want me to... the Bible, Vedas, Geeta, so on and so forth all carry verses that I find objectionable. All religions are similar in as much as they preach hatred and intolerance and all religions are similar in as much as it hands control over a household firmly in the man's hands. I cannot view that as ok at all. To my mind a couple should want to work towards keeping their marriage intact. The very notion of executing someone (read woman) is completely unacceptable.

In fact, religion should be outlawed.

Religion should be declared subversive and immoral and all religious people should be forced into re-education camps. Those who resist must be executed to maintain order and morality.

Melo, you sound positively Stalinist

Aj your stuck , you ran off and got married

Can't I atleast PRETEND my life is about titties and beer?

sure, if it helps you deal with the daily bs . wherever you find your magic koolaide AJ

[~Jackie~ 30]

Didn't Frank Zappa sing a song called 'titties and beer?'

Jackie

[gimygirl 0]

Just wanted to say hi to gimy. So erm, HI!!!

::sneaks out of the thread::

swirly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *runs up and bounces off of you*

[Melo 1]

I think that people staying together out of fear is sickening... I find religious doctrines ridiculous... the Quran says that it is OK for a man to beat his wife... in fact I can quote the verse and book if you want me to... the Bible, Vedas, Geeta, so on and so forth all carry verses that I find objectionable. All religions are similar in as much as they preach hatred and intolerance and all religions are similar in as much as it hands control over a household firmly in the man's hands. I cannot view that as ok at all. To my mind a couple should want to work towards keeping their marriage intact. The very notion of executing someone (read woman) is completely unacceptable.

In fact, religion should be outlawed.

Religion should be declared subversive and immoral and all religious people should be forced into re-education camps. Those who resist must be executed to maintain order and morality.

Melo, you sound positively Stalinist

Aj your stuck , you ran off and got married

Can't I atleast PRETEND my life is about titties and beer?

Heheheh!!! Stalinist eh??? Gosh!!!

[bhajishah 4]

I think that in Islamic marriages as well as other marriages you have to sit and discuss how you feel in advance of the marriage. You cannot think the marriage is like Prince Charming kisses the Sleeping Princess and that life is perfect. Just my opinion. And I am not sure exactly what the OP was asking if it was the Islamic part of divorce in the USA or if it was about his green card being effected by the problems with the marriage possibly going into divorce.

See, now we're getting somewhere. I was just trying to figure out why cindi would sit there on pretending that Islamic law would be the cure for infidelity. It simply isn't. Marriages work and fail everywhere.

Someone has to be the leader and somehwere there should be laws. or there will be complete anarchy and chaos

There are laws. One husband and one wife. That's the law. Here anyways...

Not a cure, but a less societal lassefaire approach to these things should be promoted

I think that in Islamic marriages as well as other marriages you have to sit and discuss how you feel in advance of the marriage. You cannot think the marriage is like Prince Charming kisses the Sleeping Princess and that life is perfect. Just my opinion. And I am not sure exactly what the OP was asking if it was the Islamic part of divorce in the USA or if it was about his green card being effected by the problems with the marriage possibly going into divorce.

See, now we're getting somewhere. I was just trying to figure out why cindi would sit there on pretending that Islamic law would be the cure for infidelity. It simply isn't. Marriages work and fail everywhere.

Someone has to be the leader and somehwere there should be laws. or there will be complete anarchy and chaos

There are laws. One husband and one wife. That's the law. Here anyways...

Thats the point, there really is no law against polygamy if people are running off having girlfriends/boyfirends affairs and kids with other women/men. Step outside the box ET