id like to see k1 process made harder

[Misha & Ira 113]

No. Just no. ...

Agreed 100%.

[Him & Me 4]

I don't agree with what you say. Not everyone's marriage would break or not be successful. I love my fiance and I am ready to spend the rest of my life with him. And please dont hope to see this process harder. You are done so you dont have to worry and I guess you dont care, but I do. I am going to apply for my fiance and I think it is already too hard and it takes a lot of time and afforts to begin with. My last comment, there are many people whoes income is about or a little above the 125%, that means for them to not be able to bring their loved ones to live with them in the USA forever.

[Ron and Rhea 42]

we have allready done the k1 etc etc.we are now removing conditions.i for one would like to see this whole process more stringent than it already is.we have our circle of friends whom are all k1 holders and ive closely watched all of them and there marriages.first,i would like to see more up front than just meeting 1 time within 2 years.second,this 90 day to marry must be extended to at least double (180 days)third,i believe that the income levels of pationers should be much higher than 125% of poverty level.we all have to admit the process is already long.uscis can only do so much when it comes to paperwork and background checks.but in all reality it is up to the petioner and the k1 visa holder to make a marriage that will last a lifetime.im gonna stick my neck out here and say i personally believe that only 40% of these marriages last any length of time.dont get me wrong i am happily married to a wonderful women and weve been together now a full 2 years.but looking back it sure was very tough.any comments welcome?

You BELIEVE 40% of these marriages last any length of time, well the percent of marriages that fail, in general, in the US is greater than 50% and thats a fact, so your 40% belief isn't a stretch. You're not stretching your neck out much at all, lol.

My first marriage was for 31 years, to a Filipina, we met and married over there and we didn't know each other very well at all, in reality. I feel its not so much if the marriage is between two people of different races, or the same...all couples have problems, be it language, cultural, money, etc, etc, etc X 4 million other problems. Its about how you deal with those problems, that will make or break your marriage.

And how one deals with those problems is important because if they get a divorce without dealing with the problems in an adult manner, they will carry that same personality trait into their next marriage, and the cycle will repeat itself.

But I digress, this process is good enough, IMO...any two yahoo's here in America can get married without jumping through hardly any hoops. Just because they are Americans certainly doesn't mean their marriage will last longer, or fail quicker, than any other type of marriage.

The only thing that I would give you in your post is the 90 days....if it were longer, that would not hurt anything, I believe.

[Diana and Chris 25]

Who are we to judge? Couples meet at a bar, get married 3 months later and nobody is taking their rights to get married because of that. I had seen my fiance twice when we applied, spoke sometimes up to 5 hours daily in a long distance relationship for more than a year, and yet had to wait 7 months just for my POE AND I can tell you I'm in love and ready to get married. So, what If somebody told us a "no" because of a criteria such as yours?...

[Heartwarming 15]

Hmm...so what about culturally based marriages? Like mine for example...it was arranged. What do you say about that?

This process is already hard enough for people. I do not understand your argument here. I mean why should people have to struggle so much just to be together? Just because some people are not honest does not mean we should all be beaten up because of it. I would like to see people be reunited with their loved ones faster not slower. This seems selfish because you want others to have a hard time when you had a hard time but you want to see them suffer more. That is not nice at all. Maybe you want to see things more strict so that they can weed out the bad people but still.....

Edited September 10, 2011 by Kurkure

[BoxsterOwner 3]

We should make USCIS deny any relationship that both party met using a dating website. /end sarcasm

Edited September 10, 2011 by BoxsterOwner

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

I am a woman and I am the USC. I managed to get through college and raised 3 children by myself. I also mange to hold a job that make more than the amount needed to sponsor my husband. It meant that I couldn't run off to be with him every time the wind changed but I didn't have to ask others to sign up so that I could bring my husband here. I am a grown woman that can take care of myself.

[maning 36]

Heh, complain that HIS marriage was a hard and had a lot of struggle, so equates HIS problems with his marriage with everyone else. I'm sorry but don't compare your relationship to anyone here. Just because you had a hard time doesn't mean everyone here will experience the same problems you had.

Anyway, my fiancee and I have been together (or you can say apart since we are separated by 8000 miles of land and sea) for over 6 years, I lived with her in her country 3 months out of the year and we get along great. I see us doing the same when we get married in the US and live together. I'm just tired of the distance like everyone here. I'm tired waking up and she's not beside me. I'm tired of talking through the phone or through video chat as if it's the same thing as in person. I'm tired that our plans to marry and one day start a family hinges on the decision of someone else. It's like you can't even control your own life when you're stuck in the visa process. It's not like in the movies where they fall in love and the credits start rolling... in my movie all I see is me checking my case status a hundred times a day online just to see "Initial Review" slap across my face.

[mike42979 57]

I dont know what needs to be changed but i see some people on here and think wow how did they get approved lol.

[carolynhotstuff 252]

The process is already hard enough. My husband and I have been trying for 2 years to get his visa. We have spent 9 months in Administrative Processing with no end in sight. We have spent thousands of dollars with all the travel fees, visa fees and attorney fees. Because we have an age difference and he is Asian and I am Black we felt it would be in our best interest to get an attorney to fill out our paperwork. In order to make our case for a bonafide relationship I visited him twice before we got married. We followed the advice from our attorney and visa journey and front loaded our petition. He still ended up having a second interview with the fraud prevention unit at the embassy.

I guess when my husband is safely tucked in my arms in the United States it would be easy for me to say the visa process should be harder. That the income requirements should be higher and that co-sponsors should not be allowed. In other words only rich people should be allowed to marry people from other countries. While we're at it why not say only rich White people should be allowed to marry people from other Countries.

My husband and I love each other so much yet the stress and strain caused by the process almost broke up our marriage. I hadn't seen my husband in almost 2 years when I decided to stop putting my life on hold waiting for the visa and went to see him in Pakistan risking my life once again because Pakistan is not safe for Americans.

[AKSinghSingh79 143]

While we're at it why not say only rich White people should be allowed to marry people from other Countries.

Umm, nothing personal but was this comment really necessary? I understand that you're upset with the OP's original topic but I think we are all in mutual agreement that the process is already tough enough.

Edited September 10, 2011 by AKSinghSingh79

[BoxsterOwner 3]

You guys do realize that the OP wants it 180 just because if the relationship didn't work out within 180 days, not 180 days to do the necessary wedding planning, schedule and ect.

[ascxvz 4]

i feel that you should atleast have a heart for all the couples who are undergoin the wait for K1 process...the longingness of each other, the frustrations, the stress of waiting, emotionally draining, etc. because you yourself have undergone it...i think this is not a fraternity group wherein you were beaten up so you wanted the others who is following your step to get a harder dose of what you had...making it harder for us? to be honest...i think when you really love a person, a day without her/him is not complete...so being away for 5months and so on (waiting for process to be done) is more than each one could bear...but see...here we are, just waiting patiently because we are inlove and would wish to be with the man/woman we prayed for to be with us til we breathe our last. Sorry, but i dont like the idea of making it harder for us.

[Dean_De 61]

Just wondering why NOW the OP says what he said. I knew and is certain that way back when he was doing the visa application he always prayed that the visa process go smooth. Awwww....just don't get it other than maybe..just maybe something fishy is going on

[Dan & Jenni 457]

i think the income requirements should be higher to marry because this is not a cheap process. Supporting family is expensive in USA. Some people make a little money and save a lot. Some people make a lot of money and save none. Both these people could qualify. I think people need to love themselves and value themselves before they can love another person. I think any people choosing to get married need to be able to depend on each other to be provided for. I think 18000 is not enough money to live in most of USA. In Egypt I would be rich!! I think if you love someone then you try and make sure you can provide for them.

I am against co-sponsers. If you cannot afford a spouse then do not get one right now. Love will not pay your bills. Love will not fee the children. I think co-sponsors place responsibility onto a kind hearted person and in the usa at least 40% of marriage fail. This is very dangerous for the kind co-sponsor who just wanted to help a couple in love be together.

I think everyone needs to meet in person many times. Not just once within 2 years. I think it should be 3 times in 2 years.

But, I think this process needs to be quicker once all those rules are in place. I feel the 6 month wait for uscis is a waste of my time and money...and I value both. I pay for a service today and I want that service delivered soon. I do not want it to sit in a pile waiting for someone to decide to pick it up. It takes an hour to go thru a completed packet and approved it. USCIS needs to have higher productivity levels or get new employees. Many people need jobs right now and I bet if they advertised work from home positions many of our foreigner spouses would excel in this area. Since we have all been thru this nad know how important it is then I believe we would work hard and quick to approve or deny cases. I believe uscis should have a salary tier. If you complete 7 applications in one day you will get 140 dollars. if you complete 10 in one day then you will get 200 dollars. if you are only able to complete 1 in a day then you do not get paid till you have a day over 7. I think people would work much harder if they know they will get 20 bucks for each completed application (and that is denied or approved).

so only the rich should be allowed to be with the one they love???????????????????????????????? the amount of money a person earns means nothing once outgoings are taken in to account. someone earning 18000 but with no debt or outgoings might have more money in there pocket than someone earning 70000 who has a lot of debt and high outgoings.