After 2nd Interview - Back in Administrative Processing at Mumbai Consulate

[U & I 1]

Below is the snap shot of our case so far.

1st interview – 26th July – CO was not convinced why we want to marry in US while my family lives in Dubai and my fiancée’s in India - Visa wasn’t granted- issued 221g to submit list of guest present for our engagement ceremony to verify our relationship.

28th July – we submitted list of our guest present at our engagement ceremony along with my fiancé’s passport

August 2nd - Consulate returned my fiancée’s passport with a letter stating that we have been put under “Administrative Processing”

September 6th – Consulate called my fiancée for a 2nd interview-again drilled her on the same topic that why we want to marry in USA when both of our family lives in Dubai and/or India – why don’t we just get married in India or in Dubai – They were not satisfied with our reasoning and still have suspicion that we are already a married couple – Visa wasn’t granted – Issued a letter again stating that we have been put under “Administrative Processing”

Possible red flags in our case

1. Both my and my fiancée’s immediate relative does not stay in USA

2. We have been in relationship over 4 years and I have visited her every year for over a month

3. We took vacation together once during my annual trip

As per CO – it is totally against the “Indian culture and traditions”. Their argument is why someone would want to marry in US when their family is not living there and that couples don’t go on vacation alone before their wedding.

Our reasoning is that – I have been living in US and my family in Dubai for a very long time. I have more acquaintances and friends in US than in India. Also, it makes more sense for me to marry in a country where I have planned to live my entire life. My family also feels more comfortable in US than in India (for obvious reasons). My fiancée has a very small family so they don’t really mind if we get married in USA.

About taking vacations together – CO seems to know India only through their books and training manual….they are NOT really seeing the social changes India is going through – specially in big urban cities – where many couples whom I personally know – have been living together without getting married. So I find CO reasoning of doubting our relationship based on we took vacation together as completely absurd. Also, at one point CO asked why I didn’t file for my fiancée earlier and why I waited for 4 years during our relationship. He totally ignored the fact that I became US citizen only last year & have been living in US on different visa status. Just can’t comprehend that CO ignored such a vital fact.

In conclusion, we haven’t been denied the visa yet but the way they treated my fiancée during her second interview then not issuing the visa…is just making me very pessimistic about our chances of actually getting a visa now ((there were 5 people together interrogated her and they even went to the point of asking my fiancée if we have had physical relationship during our vacation together…disgusting – I wanted to accompany her during the interview but they denied me an entry into the consulate..they made me wait outside the consulate)

I need help and advice from my fellow VJ members. I need your opinion and suggestion as what they make out of our situation? What are the options we have now? Is it time for me to write to the senator or should I just wait to hear from Consulate again?

I know I still have the option to get married and then file for the spousal visa – but I understand very well that it would be again a 9-10 months waiting period and there is no guarantee that the consulate would not put us back in AP based on our K1 visa case earlier. Also. Personally, me and my fiancée are just too tired of waiting and have reached the peak point of our frustration of being away from each other.

I am also exploring other option of temporarily living US and move to Dubai with my fiancée and then file for her later as my wife from there. But I don’t know the procedure for US citizen living in a foreign country and then filing for spouses.

At this point, I have many questions and very few answers. Any help and suggestion would be greatly appreciated.