urgent and serious

[Shakil 4]

You would need to show that you are married and are living together. If you file for divorce then you would have to disclose it to the IO and eventually will have to wait for the 5 year mark. Remember, never lie to the immigration officer, it would create a lot of problems for you. Its really your decision to stay married or give your marriage another chance sincerely. If not, then wait for the 5 years minus 90 days to file.

[NickD 203]

HI.....i am still waiting for more comments and replies and thanks to everyone who replied to me about my issue. Some

talked about the idea that " if she cooperate with me..." what kind of cooperation you mean? Another thing:

if i can send the package including ONE of her ID plus a copy of our marriage certificate , does it mean it s done and

I dont need her and i dont need anything from her anymore?? Thanks

So what is your major concern, your marriage or gaining US citizenship? Wife's friend recently received her US citizenship, but her marriage was always on the rocks. Just said, nothing is keeping me here, she returned to her home country. To be with friends and family that loved her.

Is your wife really cheating on you? How did the two of you get through that God awful AOS and ROC stage, both of you had to work hard just to stay together. You don't post a country you came from, is it really that much better here? Is there really gold on the streets with a good paying enjoyable job with lots of time off to enjoy your life?

You asked for comments, but got questions instead. If your marriage is really falling apart, how good of an actor are you at your N-400 interview for the three year marriage? With me, my marriage came first, the USCIS came in a far second, didn't really care for their commanding arrogant attitude either. And lots of other countries that would love to have us with a lot more time off, far lower taxes, and plenty of places to enjoy life. Still kicking that around today.

[bigdog 376]

hi everybody

i dont know what to say or how to satrt my topic....i m really hurt and sad....the time my wife and i have been geting ready to send the the file the packege n4000 my wife sent me an offmessage telling me that "she has been cheating on me for 1 a year and other things she said ....she really hurt me and i am still i cant believe it and i am deeply hurt and sad. she is waiting for my response to her message but i dont know what to say and what kind of answer she wants to hear ... i realy love from my heart i never expect this from her now i need your hepl WHAT DO I SHOULD DO ?

DO i still have to send the package n400 or what? thanks to u all

Stick with the 5 year green card path.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

HI.....i am still waiting for more comments and replies and thanks to everyone who replied to me about my issue. Some

talked about the idea that " if she cooperate with me..." what kind of cooperation you mean? Another thing:

if i can send the package including ONE of her ID plus a copy of our marriage certificate , does it mean it s done and

I dont need her and i dont need anything from her anymore?? Thanks

Cooperate, as in coming with you to the interview, possibly being interviewed separately. Cooperate, as in making sure your joint taxes are all up to date. Cooperate, as in continuing to maintain a joint domicile.

[Dana-Mića 51]

I think right now you should focus on your marriage and weather you want to fix it or end it. As for citizenship you can take it at the 5 year mark or even later no big deal. I lived in this country as a permanent resident for almost 11 years before I got mine.

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

Given your experience at the ROC stage where you almost were deported when USCIS didn't believe your marriage wasn't genuine and took it all the way to the court (which is in your A-file!), it would be Russian Roulette if you now were to pretend again that your marriage is healthy even though you just stated publically that it is not. Even if your wife cooperates now, it still would be fraud and can haunt you for the rest of your life. If your wife wants to hurt you later on, all she has to do is come clean and confess and your naturalization will be declared void, like it never happened. Not worth the risk.

Unless you want to risk immigration suicide, I strongly advise you to wait with the N-400 until you have been a resident for 5 years.

Edited September 3, 2011 by Just Bob

[together4evr 360]

i will tell you two words

Unforgivable Betrayal

[nane1104 146]

Given your experience at the ROC stage where you almost were deported when USCIS didn't believe your marriage wasn't genuine and took it all the way to the court (which is in your A-file!), it would be Russian Roulette if you now were to pretend again that your marriage is healthy even though you just stated publically that it is not. Even if your wife cooperates now, it still would be fraud and can haunt you for the rest of your life. If your wife wants to hurt you later on, all she has to do is come clean and confess and your naturalization will be declared void, like it never happened. Not worth the risk.

Unless you want to risk immigration suicide, I strongly advise you to wait with the N-400 until you have been a resident for 5 years.

Totally agreeing with this.

Don't think you have to stay in your marriage for immigration benefits, it's not worth it.

[polar1979 4]

Yout marraige doesn't look like it's in the good standing, I'd say it will be too risky to file now, you guys might get seperated somewhere along the way before your interview and that can screw things up a lot. My only advice, WAIT FOR 5 YEARS RULE.

Edited September 4, 2011 by polar1979

[nycfeng 2]

" copies and originals of both spouses' state ID cards, or Driver's License at the interview" is required for each case For 3 year n400?

so, for interview, the USC must go with the applicant?

If the marriage is invalid, or dissolved, then the five year rule applies. The USC is not part of the process, except now they require copies and originals of both spouses' state ID cards, or Driver's License at the interview. If she won't cooperate, then you have wait the full five years.

[nycfeng 2]

How often are wife and husband being interviewed separated at n400?

Cooperate, as in coming with you to the interview, possibly being interviewed separately. Cooperate, as in making sure your joint taxes are all up to date. Cooperate, as in continuing to maintain a joint domicile.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

How often are wife and husband being interviewed separated at n400?

Not very often, unless fraud is suspected. (Stokes Interview)

" copies and originals of both spouses' state ID cards, or Driver's License at the interview" is required for each case For 3 year n400?

so, for interview, the USC must go with the applicant?

Not required, but a good idea.

[NickD 203]

How often are wife and husband being interviewed separated at n400?

Took both my wife and stepdaughter to their interviews, for my wife, didn't give a damn about me, just wanted to see my papers. And was completely invisible at my stepdaughters' interview.

But we are a family, and if a family wants to stay together has to deal with the USCIS together to keep members from getting deported. Both my wife and stepdaughter had to get on the phone for just two seconds to give me permission to handle their case problems, is nice that they both trust me. Have somewhat of a language and legal barrier to deal with, but we wanted to stay together.

We formed a group of six other couples in the same boat as ours with the USCIS and met once of month to discuss immigration related problems. Two of the US citizen spouses, both men had the attitude, if their wives want to be citizens, they could do that themselves. Both those marriages finally ended up in a divorce, don't even know why they got married in the first place with that attitude. Both wives recently returned to their respective home countries, nothing for them here.

[mamaSue 38]

It's far easier to wait until the 5-year mark before you apply.

I've got 2 friends, both CG holders, both have been here over 30 years, without applying for citizenship... with no problems at all!!

You're now a LPR.....pretending you're happily married for the 3-year rule could cause more problems.

Just go with the flow. and stay a LPR a couple of years longer, then apply on your own merit.... probably far less hassle!!!

[Kathryn41 3,205]

I'm sorry you are having problems.

If you have been a green card holder for 5 years now, then you can apply for citizenship on your own. You don't need to be married to do that. If you have not been a green card holder for 5 years but have had your green card for 3 years, then you can only apply for citizenship if you are still married to the same US citizen and the marriage is more or less working. That is what is meant by 'if your wife co-operates'.

It sounds like the other major issue is your marriage itself. You say she is waiting for your reply to her message? You need to decide what you want to do. You say you love her, so perhaps you can suggest that the two of you see a marriage counsellor and see if you can work out your problem. You do need to talk together about your problems, though. It may be that the marriage is over and you will decide to divorce or you will decide that you are both willing to work on it some more.

Regardless, the state of your marriage is only important to your citizenship question if you are applying now based on the 3 year option. You need to be married and living together right up to the time you take your oath or you are not eligible for the 3 year option. The 5 year option is always available, though, whether you are still together or not. So, the important issue right now isn't really the citizenship application - it is what do the two of you want to do about your marriage. Once that decision is made, then you can decide which option to use when applying for citizenship.

Good luck to you.