reverse dowry - bride price

[clueless55 18]

Stupid question, but you've been to china and met her in person? Are you planning on marrying in China?

My take on it the bride price is not 100% adhered to,and depends on her age, if married before, kids, and how poor the parents are, and whether somebody involved is trying to take advantage of you.

She's from Guangxi? The first Chinese lady I met was from Guangxi and was introduced to the parents (Lower middle classish but doing well) actually gave me some dowry. (returned in a few days)

The evil lady I ended up marrying later from the same province told me 'You lucky my father no need money. You no need pay.'

If the family is of modest means, some money is cool. Remember, it's all somewhat optional, and negotiable.

Depending on how well you know this lady, and how much time you spent with her, don't forget...A few thousand dollars is big money in poorer provinces like Guangxi, and it's not unheard of, particularily in Nanning, for the financial support to be the primary goal of the lady....who maybe has no intention of leaving China.

Does the girl contribute financially now to the support of the family or the parents? Children are still retirement plans in most Asian countries, and expected to contribute.