I485 denied and I130 approved

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

okay last month he just got his SSN and i added him to my bank and i am waiting to add him on my health and life insurance. i looked up my rights for adding someone to my lease and i couldnt because he didnt have an SSN at the time of marriage. just about a week ago i got my renewal of my lease so i plan to add him soon i am just waiting for his pay stubs or maybe they can do it without pay stubs and i send them in later when we get 4 of them. i knew all of this but i totally was caught off guard at the way the woman was drilling me ..this is my first immigration experience now i know how to go about it next time..i will have tons of paperwork and pray they can understand. i hope you get you GC with out a worry. just as soon as your spouse gets her SSN add him/her to everything!!!! the IO will find something wrong so try get Affidavits of a bona fide marriage,gym memberships,cell phone plan, life insurance, health insurance, tons of pictures and emails if possible ( i had hundreds of emails my saved and they are gone because my computer crashed in june. i should have just saved them to a yahoo folder but i wasnt thinking my new laptop would crashh errr) anywho good luck

When I read the things you say , you keep saying I had to wait until he gave me money so I could ... for things that should cost nothing ( such as adding him to utitily bills or bank accouts. ) If I were a CO already suspecting fraud I could easily jump to the conculsion that you are "charging" him for creating evidence. Bad wording on you part.

[IndyThorpe 1]

When I read the things you say , you keep saying I had to wait until he gave me money so I could ... for things that should cost nothing ( such as adding him to utitily bills or bank accouts. ) If I were a CO already suspecting fraud I could easily jump to the conculsion that you are "charging" him for creating evidence. Bad wording on you part.

i tried to add him to my insurance and seeing that he is working they said they need pay stubs. no one is charging anyone i dont see how you can say that. if you know anything you cant lie and say he is not working so he can be on my insurance's faster nope i said he is working and they said well we need pay stubs. sorry if my wording is bad but i hope you can understand me!

[Barbara J 115]

i tried to add him to my insurance and seeing that he is working they said they need pay stubs. no one is charging anyone i dont see how you can say that. if you know anything you cant lie and say he is not working so he can be on my insurance's faster nope i said he is working and they said well we need pay stubs. sorry if my wording is bad but i hope you can understand me!

Also you wording is really not appropriate as you wrote and I quote "this is your first immigration experience, next time you will know how to go about it" Sorry but sounds even more suspicious to me and I am not even a CO.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

i tried to add him to my insurance and seeing that he is working they said they need pay stubs. no one is charging anyone i dont see how you can say that. if you know anything you cant lie and say he is not working so he can be on my insurance's faster nope i said he is working and they said well we need pay stubs. sorry if my wording is bad but i hope you can understand me!

I am not accusing you of anything, just trying to point out that you are using poor choices of words to describe events. Things like "give me money before " " pay me " " give me his paycheck" " do immigration process again" are going to cause the immigration officer to give you a hard time.

[IndyThorpe 1]

I never said pay me or give me money..and it wasnt actually denied I just got RFE so when I say next time I mean when we go back to return the rest of the paperwork..but everything is working out I just left my landlord my husband will be on my lease and my landlord requires an ssn so if I was to add him to it when he first moved in it would not have worked so when we go back we will explain everything

[siasimba 9]

Indythorpe please don't take anything personally... there are many reason why certain things happen. For everyone on this forum to speculate, you are going to get many different answer as to why you needed and RFE. However, the majority of the people in this forum have a lot of knowledge in this field.

They themselves have gone through it and had people gone through it so they would know what the IO is looking for. To be honest with you, like many people stated, NOT having your husband ON the lease is NOT a big deal. Having someone on a lease DOES NOT signify its a bonafide marriage.

Your earlier comment about everyone being separated for the interview is very unlikely, unless they suspected all those couples they interviewed. These stokes interviews are only conducted after high suspicion. Trust me... it takes them MORE time to interview you separately than together.

Personally, I understand that people want small weddings, but pictures with family members included in the photos would help. I can add just about anyone to my lease, gym membership etc. What do you THINK people with sham marriages do ? The hardest thing to get from sham marriages is for all the family to get together to take a happy picture.

Your timeline may be of question as well... marriage after 1 month of knowing each other? especially at age 20-22 ? not going to say its not going to work, but there is a reason why divorce rate is so high in America. Expiring visa ?

I wish you the best of luck with the rest of your process. I think pictures, letters from respectable individuals who know you, not his friend, or not your friends, but people who have nothing to gain from you/him getting married.

[IndyThorpe 1]

Indythorpe please don't take anything personally... there are many reason why certain things happen. For everyone on this forum to speculate, you are going to get many different answer as to why you needed and RFE. However, the majority of the people in this forum have a lot of knowledge in this field.

They themselves have gone through it and had people gone through it so they would know what the IO is looking for. To be honest with you, like many people stated, NOT having your husband ON the lease is NOT a big deal. Having someone on a lease DOES NOT signify its a bonafide marriage.

Your earlier comment about everyone being separated for the interview is very unlikely, unless they suspected all those couples they interviewed. These stokes interviews are only conducted after high suspicion. Trust me... it takes them MORE time to interview you separately than together.

Personally, I understand that people want small weddings, but pictures with family members included in the photos would help. I can add just about anyone to my lease, gym membership etc. What do you THINK people with sham marriages do ? The hardest thing to get from sham marriages is for all the family to get together to take a happy picture.

Your timeline may be of question as well... marriage after 1 month of knowing each other? especially at age 20-22 ? not going to say its not going to work, but there is a reason why divorce rate is so high in America. Expiring visa ?

I wish you the best of luck with the rest of your process. I think pictures, letters from respectable individuals who know you, not his friend, or not your friends, but people who have nothing to gain from you/him getting married.

i have tons of pictures with all of our family together only thing i didnt have was the lease and the IO said thats all she needed. but i will be getting a letter in the mail explaining what to bring. i know we are young but i love him and has anyone ever heard of webcam and hours and hours on the phone practically everyday..i grew to know him way before he moved in with me and if this was a "sham marriage" dont ya think i would have gotten the AOS process started right after wedding ...im just saying.

[Ready to do it 101]

I've read through this thread a few times. I would absolutely think fraud if I was reviewing your file. Your posts just add up to fraud on numerous accounts. I know you don't want it to seem so, but the way you phrase and write things... almost everytime you post a new red flag comes up.

My big question... Why did you guys get married in Nov of 2010? You had only known each other for 3 months, you state in this post that your answer to the interviewer that you were planning a wedding reception in December. Your timeline states that you are planning a "big" wedding for Sept 2011. So if your plans were a wedding reception in December or a "big" wedding in September 2011, why didn't you just wait till Sept 2011 in the first place to get married? Answer, because he would then be out of status. That is an issue you are going to have to overcome IMO. Why did you get married after just 3 months, with no money, where no family could come, didn't put hubby on the lease, and his visa was going to expire shortly. A lot of hurdles to overcome, but you need to stop answering questions with responses that throw up even more red flags... such as your most recent response in this thread. It seems like your defensive nature responds with a new flag and you are constantly opening a new can of worms each response you give. If you do it here, they certainly felt the same way... just something to think about.

she was a little funny about our wedding because it was only me and my husband and son that attended but my reason for that is i didnt have alot of money to have a big family wedding plus all my family is in different states and out the country so i am planning a wedding reception for december where everyone can attend.

[IndyThorpe 1]

I've read through this thread a few times. I would absolutely think fraud if I was reviewing your file. Your posts just add up to fraud on numerous accounts. I know you don't want it to seem so, but the way you phrase and write things... almost everytime you post a new red flag comes up.

My big question... Why did you guys get married in Nov of 2010? You had only known each other for 3 months, you state in this post that your answer to the interviewer that you were planning a wedding reception in December. Your timeline states that you are planning a "big" wedding for Sept 2011. So if your plans were a wedding reception in December or a "big" wedding in September 2011, why didn't you just wait till Sept 2011 in the first place to get married? Answer, because he would then be out of status. That is an issue you are going to have to overcome IMO. Why did you get married after just 3 months, with no money, where no family could come, didn't put hubby on the lease, and his visa was going to expire shortly. A lot of hurdles to overcome, but you need to stop answering questions with responses that throw up even more red flags... such as your most recent response in this thread. It seems like your defensive nature responds with a new flag and you are constantly opening a new can of worms each response you give. If you do it here, they certainly felt the same way... just something to think about.

I know i have bad wording sorry about that!!

on my timeline i said september but i am actually going to do it in december 2011 down in jamaica when we go visit to see the rest of his family that i havent seen yet.

Okay first of all i know we married fast but it was what i felt in my heart. i loved him and he loved me and my son. I wanted it to be official i had no idea at the time about immigration and AOS. in february my mother had started her K1 so her hubby can come over and she was telling me that my husband and I can do AOS and i was all for it because i didnt want him to leave me and go back home. Next question why didnt i put him on the lease because i could not i tried and my landlord told me he would need a ssn to do cori and background checks ..he didnt get his SSN till late july so i just had him do the cori and background check and it takes a couple of weeks to get those results back. i wish i had more knowledge about this whole process i thought it would be easy but its far from it..im not giving i am fighting for whats mine even if that means leaving US to be with him i will...Thanks for all the replies

Edited August 10, 2011 by IndyThorpe

[BenjaminUKtoUSA 7]

I read it, I see nothing that says money. I see pay stubs, which are completely different... You should get affidavits of proof of you're living together etc, if you have any friends whom are teachers, police officers or anything else similar. We used my friend Jeff whom is a police officer for a supporting letter.

[IndyThorpe 1]

I read it, I see nothing that says money. I see pay stubs, which are completely different... You should get affidavits of proof of you're living together etc, if you have any friends whom are teachers, police officers or anything else similar. We used my friend Jeff whom is a police officer for a supporting letter.

THANK YOU!! someone finally see's it .. i have about 5 affidavits so far but all i need is two but im bringing all 5.

[ceadsearc 516]

Honestly, I don't see the issue with "paying" for anything either, as I didn't see where you said payment so much as needing pay stubs (which is often asked for for many things), though I suppose if so many people misinterpreted it it's possible the IO might as well. Unfortunately, the fact that you didn't immediately file your paperwork won't really make a difference in proving whether your marriage is real or not - as you stated, your husband was still in status at that point and you did make sure to file it soon before his visa expired. But it sounds like you've got some affidavits and some good evidence, so just continue to gather anything you can (better too much than too little) and hopefully you'll be approved soon.

[siasimba 9]

People mention about how "easy" it is to add person to lease. But maybe the rules are different in subsidize housing versus regular apartment rentals or homes. So accept it as is. I agree, not everyone can make the perfect decision. Unfortunately, indythorpe had it rough. So lets think of ways to help her gather information or find other creative way to help her prove their marriage is true instead of having doubts.

[Ready to do it 101]

Receipts of wedding rings? Receipts of honeymoon? I realize it was a small wedding with just the 2 of you and son... did you buy a cake, flowers, professional pictures, anything?

Perhaps it was just the three of you at JP in normal clothes. After that, did you do anything special? Go to a nice restaurant for dinner, spend the night in a nice hotel in your city? People assume that for such a special day you must have done something special afterward. What did you do the next 24 hours after the wedding? Certainly there are receipts. Hope that helps.

BTW- Personally, I wouldn't mention anything about other family members of yours or his petitioning for foreigners as you mentioned in a previous post. I don't even recall the exact scenario. Regardless, to me... that's another red flag. It might not be to them, but it would be if I were interviewing and you had these other red flags. I really wouldn't bring it up. They will probably already know all about it anyhow.

People mention about how "easy" it is to add person to lease. But maybe the rules are different in subsidize housing versus regular apartment rentals or homes. So accept it as is. I agree, not everyone can make the perfect decision. Unfortunately, indythorpe had it rough. So lets think of ways to help her gather information or find other creative way to help her prove their marriage is true instead of having doubts.

Edited August 11, 2011 by Ready to do it

[Caramel 3]

i have tons of pictures with all of our family together only thing i didnt have was the lease and the IO said thats all she needed. but i will be getting a letter in the mail explaining what to bring. i know we are young but i love him and has anyone ever heard of webcam and hours and hours on the phone practically everyday..i grew to know him way before he moved in with me and if this was a "sham marriage" dont ya think i would have gotten the AOS process started right after wedding ...im just saying.

Maybe you didn't have the funds to start it right away after the wedding!