fiancee and child coming to US together

[Researcher 0]

My fiancee wants to come her just herself, first, while leaving her daughter for (she thinks) a couple of months with grandparents. She has been saying she wants to make sure everything will be all right for her 7 years old daughter: living conditions, environment, school, activities... Also, she is saying she wants her daughter finish 1-st grade in Russia.

My opinion: they should come here on the same plane. Reasons: school plans at Russian and American school do not necessarily match and therefore no harm if daughter leaves before school year end. Second reason: she will need to get travel document if she wants to return here, and it may take lo-o-ng. By that time her daughter's visa may expire :-(

I understand she might be feeling insecure leaving home behind and likely wants to make sure for herself she will like it here [and she will like me here :-) ]...

Nevertheless, what in your opinion are pros and contras of "mother and daughter" vs "mother now, daughter later"?

as screwed up as life can get here in america i believe it is still better than life anywhere else in the world. it's kind of like the old saying " democracy is the worst form of government there is ....except for everything else. good luck

[akdiver 3]

as screwed up as life can get here in america i believe it is still better than life anywhere else in the world.

Nothing like a little blatent nationalism I guess.

"As screwed up as it may be, I think Islam is the only religion people should practice."

"As screwed up as it may be, I think Christianity is the only religion people should practice."

"As screwed up as it may be, I think elimination of the Jews is the only solution."

People honestly and completely believe all of these statements. You do the math.

Cheers!

AKDiver

[slim 1,525]

funny that an American would think life here is better than in the rest of the world....

[semga 0]

Better late than never :-) Лучше поздно, чем никогда :-) (This is same thing in Russian)

I was not able to thank all of you earlier, but really appreciate your thoughts. I agree, this is a matter of mutual trust. After that - just not so important technicalities