What to do??

[arunaround 0]

To make a long story short..Yes the processes can be a stressful experience.. My wife was here on a J1. We met, and we fell in love at the moment.. I went to see her when she was in the states, and said Id come back in a few weeks. She insisted on "that if I love her, I shouldn't leave".. She flew to me, and we got a place.. She kept rushing on about getting married because thats the only way she can be with me.. We got married, and going through the process of forms and all, I yelled allot at her.. Didnt mean to , but I did.. So we were together for 5 months.. Then after she got green card, she left and went back to the place she wanted to go.. (wont mention where). we talked a bit on the phone, and I asked her if this was over, she said yes, but I cant file for divorce because it complicates things..??? Her green card was mailed to me, and she asked me to mail it to her fed ex, overnight in plain envelope.. Ive tried to apologize for being the way I was for 5 months, but she didnt work, always wanted to go everywhere, spend money I didnt have... And she knew I didnt have it.. Always said, she could find someone to give her what she needs.. So of course I was angry.. But yelled only, or left for a few hours.. Never hit or anything like that.. So what should I do, or what can I do.. Of course I love her. But she's gone back to her own lifestyle, and really doesnt care if I know or not... Im not trying to get revenge or anything. But I still have green card. And Just dont know how to handle this situation... Anybody with ideas...

[Boiler 45,496]

Easy

Mail it to her, its hers not yours.

PS she should have updated her address.

[arunaround 0]

Yea, I can do that, really plan on it.. But she say I have to stay married to her. Why stay married if were not together???

[nane1104 146]

WOW, dude, seems like you were getting used by her to get her greencard.

It's hers...for now, so send it to her but you don't have to stay married to her if you don't want to. You can file for divorce anytime and then she will have to sort out her immigration situation herself.

She would have to file for removal of conditions herself but she would have to show proof that she entered the marriage in good faith. I kind of doubt she can do that, so SHE needs to stay married to you for a while longer.

If I were you, I'd divorce her ASAP and report her to ICE and USCIS for visa fraud.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

I sure hope you didn't open the envelope that the green card is in. If you didn't then mark the envelope "Not at this address", and send it back to USCIS. She's supposed to notify USCIS of a change in address within 10 days. Yes, the green card is her property, but you aren't obligated to deliver it to her. You can return it to USCIS.

You don't have to wait to file a divorce. Waiting benefits her - not you. File for the divorce. When you get the divorce decree then send a copy of it to USCIS. She'll be forced to try to remove conditions while asking for a waiver of the joint filing requirement because of the divorce. She'll need evidence she entered the marriage in good faith in order to do this. Hopefully, she doesn't have any of this evidence.

Have no further contact with her unless it's in a public place and you have witnesses. If she's being coached by anyone familiar with immigration law then she knows she can get a 10-year green card by accusing you of spousal abuse.