Hello :) US and Norway <3 Need some advice!

[May11 0]

Hi, just want to introduce myself and my story.

I'm 21 and a full-time student. I met my boyfriend (21 years old too) when we were both 18 and we really can't wait to settle down. I live in the US and my boyfriend lives in Norway. Currently he got a job in Disney and I'm finishing my studies in nursing. We plan to wait till I'm done with school so at least one of us has a career so we can have a good life. It's really hard to wait, but we have managed well so far. But.. I really want to get married right now, but as a college student I don't the income for the dreaded i-134. I decided to join VJ for the support and amazing advice I've seen here, sometimes I feel like I'm alone in this but obviously I'm not I love my boyfriend very much and he loves me. It's worth the struggle.

What are your opinions? Are we doing the right thing waiting till I'm done with my studies, or is there anything I can do to bring him here sooner? The only thing stopping us is the fact that I don't have the income for the financial support paper. I could move to Norway and live with him, but I can't drop my studies and leave, I've worked too hard for my education. Also I can't leave my family behind ( an only child). Any advice would be appreciated. I know we're both really young and if we have to wait a little longer that's ok.. but living together right now would be amazing.

May

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

What about a co-sponsor?

[May11 0]

What about a co-sponsor?

Thank you for the quick reply

I've thought of that, but I actually don't think my parents make enough. My father is actually trying to bring my half-sister from his first marriage, so I know if I add my boyfriend as another dependent on him that might jeopardize the process for my sister. Does a co-sponsor have to be a close relative? And wouldn't it hurt my chances that I don't have a job, even if I have a co-sponsor?

[tan&tuyet 15]

Thank you for the quick reply

I've thought of that, but I actually don't think my parents make enough. My father is actually trying to bring my half-sister from his first marriage, so I know if I add my boyfriend as another dependent on him that might jeopardize the process for my sister. Does a co-sponsor have to be a close relative? And wouldn't it hurt my chances that I don't have a job, even if I have a co-sponsor?

a co sponsor doesn't have to be a parent it could be anyone that is a USC or Green card holder. As for the wait I would wait until you are financially stable then apply for him to come over here. I know the wait is long but the longer you wait the better future yall will have.

[EasternDE 35]

Hi, just want to introduce myself and my story.

I'm 21 and a full-time student. I met my boyfriend (21 years old too) when we were both 18 and we really can't wait to settle down. I live in the US and my boyfriend lives in Norway. Currently he got a job in Disney and I'm finishing my studies in nursing. We plan to wait till I'm done with school so at least one of us has a career so we can have a good life. It's really hard to wait, but we have managed well so far. But.. I really want to get married right now, but as a college student I don't the income for the dreaded i-134. I decided to join VJ for the support and amazing advice I've seen here, sometimes I feel like I'm alone in this but obviously I'm not I love my boyfriend very much and he loves me. It's worth the struggle.

What are your opinions? Are we doing the right thing waiting till I'm done with my studies, or is there anything I can do to bring him here sooner? The only thing stopping us is the fact that I don't have the income for the financial support paper. I could move to Norway and live with him, but I can't drop my studies and leave, I've worked too hard for my education. Also I can't leave my family behind ( an only child). Any advice would be appreciated. I know we're both really young and if we have to wait a little longer that's ok.. but living together right now would be amazing.

May

Take your time.

Build yourself before you build a couple.

[Bee&Zooz 0]

Wishing you a smooth journey! I think anyone can be a co-sponsor. Good luck

[cartaverde 12]

Hi May,

Finish the studies first, it's worth it. When it's The One, time (especially when it's just a few years) isn't going to change the things. And I'm sure you are already using all the things you can to spend time with him (chat, skype, videochat, holiday and visit each other etc).

Or of course if you end up finding a co-sponsor before, awesome.

There's also a thread for the Scandinavians + their fiance(e)s/spouses, http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/185-scandinavians/

[Krepander 0]

Hi.

We are a Norway-USA couple too, but we live in Norway. Since you mentioned you could move there I thought I should warn you about how it works here right now. (This doesn't apply if you have dual citizenship of course, or if you are going as a student.) He needs to earn about NOK 225k per year to sponsor you (no co-sponsor allowed, in 2007 this number was only NOK 80k), he needs to document he made this much from 2010. You can come to Norway and apply from here (and wait here) since you are American, but depending on where he lives (you file to the nearest police office) it takes about 3-10 months where you cannot work or have the free health service. Unless you have lived together officially for 2+ years you can only apply to come as a fiance (and marry within 6 months) or as a wife. It used to be easier, but they are fighting forced under aged marriages here right now and the rules are not fun for 21 year old students right now:( We chose Norway in 2007 because it was easier, but today we would have chosen the US.

I agree with others, spending some time to wrap up studies/find a job before filing is not a bad thing. You have to do it at some point anyways, and it's better to have stuff worked out so you can focus on each other when you finally are together:) Good luck:)