What do you think of this situation?Hi

[SimoAndYvette 0]

Hi All!

I have been asking random questions recently, because random things are happening:

1. BIL applied for student visa to come to USA to get Teaching Degree....DENIED

2. In the midst of this our family in Morocco informs us that my SIL met some man from Yemen (green card holder in Tennessee) and wants to get married. The day we find out Tariq's student visa is denied, my MIL tells my husband "Well now that the interview is over, we should tell you the man from Tennessee has already bought your sister's ticket for NEXT Thursday to go to Denver to be with you. He is driving there to meet her and get married" WTH!!!!

Now, in the past two weeks when we found out about the man from Yemen, my husband has talked to him maybe 5 times on the phone. He was preoccupied because we were getting all needed information for sponsoring my BIL. We had no idea it was this serious or that it had gone this far already. To say my husband is stressed is THE understatement of the year. He called the "fiance" last night and had a huge conversation with him. This is what we found out and this is our big question...what do you think?

1. He has been in U.S. for 19 years and has a green card.

2. He lost the green card several years ago and just never bothered to get a new one.

3. He owns a gas station in Tennessee...it is open 24 hours and he refuses to have employees; he does not trust other people.

4. He says he has lived with his uncle all this time, and is in the process of buying a house for him and my SIL (however, I did a background check today, and it appears he has owned a house since 10/2009)

5. He is flying her to Denver to be with us, is meeting her here the same day...he is driving not flying (???). He wants to meet us, meet her, get married and take her back to Tennessess, where they will stay in a hotel until the house is done (HUGE ?? here...).

6. There are no other marital records in the U.S. (doesn't mean he isn't married in Yemen).

7. He thinks he will just be able to take her to TN and file for a green card for her as his spouse. In only 3 days (THANKS VJ'ers!!) I found out the wait is like 4-5 years if he doesn't have his citizenship, which he does not. She has a tourist visa only, so that means she will have to go back and forth every 6 months. My husband told him all of this, and he insists he can do it (what is the secret he has that none of us know?!?!)

My husband is afraid that his sister will be that toy your kids begged and begged for, they played with it for a couple weeks and then it got put under the bed somewhere.

There are so many unanswered questions here! We think he should go to Morocco, meet her and the family, and then come back to U.S. If they are still interested, we can go to TN meet him and his family, and THEN if my husband agrees they can get married...but wny the rush??

What do you think?

Thanks!

[lovepath 11]

Wow..this is too fast.

First, what he is proposing to do is illegal

Second, he wants to marry her before ever meeting her in person?

Third, he is a GC holder, not a citizen.

Fourth, for a dude from Yemen, this is atypical. Where is his family, mother and father. Are they OK with all of this? It is very unusual for the family not be get involved BEFORE marriage.

Good Luck

[MrsAmera 41]

Wow messy situation. What does the sister think of all this? I guess my first instinct is run fast. It sounds really sketchy. How did he meet the sister in the first place? While she has a tourist visa I don't know if she would have to go and come back because once they would file for adjustment of status she would (i believe) go into a limbo state, sort of like a K1 after marriage and paperwork for adjustment. That being said - it would be a really rough road and I worry about the sister in this situation.

[Mithra 1,185]

This doesn't sound good. I agree with your husband's idea that she may just be a new "toy" to play with. I don't care what kinds of benefits immigration may bring, your husband's family should not let your sister in law marry this man. It's unfortunate that usually the potential benefit shadows the potential risk involved.

ETA - I don't know every Yemeni person on Earth but I know my fair share and typically they wouldn't marry in private like this. Unless, they didn't plan on this marriage being long term. Some Yemenis have a negative opinion about Maghrebi women ie them being "easy". Not saying this guy thinks that put it's possible.

Edited July 25, 2011 by Mithra

[KittyPollitt 284]

This doesn't sound good. I agree with your husband's idea that she may just be a new "toy" to play with. I don't care what kinds of benefits immigration may bring, your husband's family should not let your sister in law marry this man. It's unfortunate that usually the potential benefit shadows the potential risk involved.

ETA - I don't know every Yemeni person on Earth but I know my fair share and typically they wouldn't marry in private like this. Unless, they didn't plan on this marriage being long term. Some Yemenis have a negative opinion about Maghrebi women ie them being "easy". Not saying this guy thinks that put it's possible.

Great insight.