Facebook and his ex

[Gosia & Tito 199]

I already talk to him. He said that why I am thinking that he cheat. Have I not think what we have done together. He send me to school, we went to cruise, he helped my family and yet I am still thinking he is cheating.

This guy is not owning his ####### (I am a guy myself). You do not owe him for school, cruise, or anything, he choose to marry you, period.

Maybe in another planet this is not cheating, in mine it is.

The fact that he created this FB account in a hidden way is already saying that he himself knows this is not right, even when he does not want to admit it.

Not saying you need to run or anything like that, but you would want to define what is what you want to do about it, it does not matter whether he or the sister-in-law think this is cheating or not; it affects you, you don't like it and consider it wrong, that should be enough.

At the end, the decision is yours, all we can do here is give our opinion.

Take care. Don't let anyone make you believe that you have to put up.

[Soju 5]

One thing that I may suggest is try marriage counseling . Maybe there is something that is making him keep going back to Ex..

I think solution is to find the root of this behavior..

[Daniel&Theary 30]

I would have your husband read all these responses then maybe he would realize what he is doing is wrong. Just keep in mind he is going to do what you let him do at some point you have to put your foot down and say no more. I am not saying to divorce him but maybe go to your sister in laws for a few days or a week and really make him think about what he is doing. I pray that things work out for you. Stand up for yourself do not let your husband walk all over you.

Edited July 20, 2011 by Daniel&Theary

[Sergi9 110]

Thank you to all for replying my post. I really do appreciate it and somehow it lighten my feeling that I able to let this out.

I am not posting my situation here just to get sympathy from all of you guys but I am posting this because I want to understand of his actions. It is not easy to broadcast my situation in the internet. I just want someone could help give me an advice about his behavior. Many times I really tried to understand but as what I have said before I just can't figure it out why he is like that. Sometimes it is easy to give an options but doing it is so hard. Forgiving him before is not an easy thing to do.

I have talked to him few minutes ago about this matter again. He said that "I thought already deactivated it before but guess not". I asked why of all girl friends you have, why it is only her you are very curious of. I told him help me understand because I really can't understand. He said that how many times I would tell you that I did not do anything wrong.I know deep in myself that this conversation of ours would not go further, he will not admit and I still get the same answer that he is only curious.

To all thank you so much for spending time to read my post and replying to me.

Once a dog starts eating the eggs, you have to either get rid of the dog or get rid of the hen house.

[Kiv 32]

I think you need to get counseling, this may get worst for your marriage.

If he is doing good things for you that is not buying him rights to disrespect you.

If he thinks you cannot understand, ask him how would he feel if you create your own account with a diferent than normal alias and have only one guy there, who likes to put pictures or videos of him showing how better his is body compared to your husband's.

Then tell him you like to be in contact with this guy because you are curious and you are doing nothing wrong.

I don't think you should worry about him taking your daughter.

[rlogan 2,036]

Granted there are some couples where porn and even other people are allowed in the relationship but that's with the explicit consent of the spouse. If you're not accepting of that then he needs to decide if he loves you or this other woman's boobs more.

Spot on. Nothing behind their back. Because acts that are consented to do not violate trust. They may still involve jealousy, even with consent. Diplomacy and tact are necessities here. The wife is number one.

When the wife is the last one to know, she's been put in the lowest place out of everyone. If the wife has picked the mistress, then what is there for anyone to say?

[Giskat09 2]

what do u call that if its not cheating? i dont get it... its still a cheating coz he is hurting you emotionally and your marriage life. The next step is he will meet that webcam girl and there you go, physical cheating... while still early, do your best for him to stop of what he's doing. There's nothing wrong if u reacted, you're the wife not just a girlfriend or fiance or room mate..

If he wont stop, then better do something that will make him trigger to stop doing those things. He's an idiot.

[Fandango 1,440]

Giskat, you keep bumping old threads. you do realize that, right?