Facebook and his ex

[Tim/Mav 305]

Something about Facebook as far as deleting your Account. This is why it is so easy to create again.

When you try and delete your Facebook Account your option is: ON HOLD Not Deleted. Therefore: The information is the same and Registered to the Users Name. To make it active again you simply press an Option and your Account is back. WALLA !

Free to send again. What-ever you wish.

[Channah&Aaron 51]

; I agree, this is cheating!! Keep in mind that cheating isn't only when people have intercourse, there is also such thing as mentally cheating.

Somehow, he doesn't want to lose contact with this Pamela Anderson. And the fact that he made up a secret account just to get in touch with her is beyond beyond.

He knew, from his previous actions, that it hurts your feelings, but he still is selfish and thinks about his "needs" only, instead of banning this Pamela Anderson out of his life. You should be in first place, and he shouldn't even be interested in other girls, well, not in that kind of way.

You talked to him about this before, not just once, right?! Still he does these things that aren't acceptable.

If I were you, I wouldn't forgive him for activating his profile again just yet. Can you stay at a family member's house? Stay there so you both can make up your mind and have a heart-to-heart conversation whether you both want to stay together forever with no others in the picture.

You know the saying: "you don't know what you miss, until it's gone". He is taking you for granted and doesn't realize the mistakes he make.

(some might pull their hair for what I'm going to say right now. I LOVE Dr. Phil -lol- and he has always this saying: YOU CAN'T CHANGE WHAT YOU DON'T ACKNOWLEDGE!

Hopefully he'll realize what he is doing, and don't let him walk over you. You deserve better than that.

After all, once again, it takes 2 to tango!!

Edited July 19, 2011 by Channah&Aaron

[Tim/Mav 305]

The above post is Correct. "It takes 2 to Tango" However: Do not make the mistake of putting the blame on her. The blame is rightfully on him if this is the case.

Courious: If she is on his Facebook Friends. Give us his Users Name and his friends name. LOL

NOW THATS WHAT I MEAN: IT TAKES 2 To TANGO.

[MatthewNCarolina 73]

Somehow, he doesn't want to lose contact with this Pamela Anderson. And the fact that he made up a secret account just to get in touch with her is beyond beyond.

HAHAHA Now we have a name for the big boobed girl

To the OP, sorry about that, hope you can find a solution.

[Laser1 63]

He must be testing you. There seems to be a repeated "Hide and seek" pattern in your marriage - he hides things in a way that you can find them, which you eventually do. From your reaction, whether it is a good or bad reaction, he finds out if the activity is ok or not ok. He needs an up-front heart-to-heart talk with you to know which activities are ok.

Edited July 19, 2011 by Laser1

[No-Where-Man 147]

Regardless

It's up to you to decide what you wana do

Its pretty clear he is not faithful, here is what I would do if in your place

1: try to get a copy by away or another for these emails (if its available), pictures , video's, accounts etc

2:decide what is your next step

either :

you decided to leave him and you wana stay in the US, these emails,pictures, accounts and videos provided with dates and times will grant you to stay if you are a conditional residence.

or

stay and solve that problem if possible with him and workout your relation

best of luck

[mystica 0]

Thank you to all for replying my post. I really do appreciate it and somehow it lighten my feeling that I able to let this out.

I am not posting my situation here just to get sympathy from all of you guys but I am posting this because I want to understand of his actions. It is not easy to broadcast my situation in the internet. I just want someone could help give me an advice about his behavior. Many times I really tried to understand but as what I have said before I just can't figure it out why he is like that. Sometimes it is easy to give an options but doing it is so hard. Forgiving him before is not an easy thing to do.

I have talked to him few minutes ago about this matter again. He said that "I thought already deactivated it before but guess not". I asked why of all girl friends you have, why it is only her you are very curious of. I told him help me understand because I really can't understand. He said that how many times I would tell you that I did not do anything wrong.I know deep in myself that this conversation of ours would not go further, he will not admit and I still get the same answer that he is only curious.

To all thank you so much for spending time to read my post and replying to me.

[san diego 407]

OK.. if he was curious he would look up porn.. plenty of good-looking, large, small, medium boobs.. He kept looking at specific once...

[Laser1 63]

. I asked why of all girl friends you have, why it is only her you are very curious of.

Ask him to tell you all about his relationship with her - everything about it. Then you would know.

Edited July 19, 2011 by Laser1

[A + M 29]

Ok, I'm confused! Who is Pamela Anderson? Is she a virtual ex or an actual ex?

Anyhow, your husband is an a**hole!

[gland 5]

Hello all - I would like to ask an advice if my reactions are wrong or did I only over reacted about it. Here is the story.

Me and my husband are married for a year a half now. I am green card holder. Few weeks after we got married, I found on his old computer an archive emails. With this email I saw a girl on webcam capture showing her boobies and flower while chatting with my husband. I confronted my husband about it and he said that he already stop talking to her and there is no relationship involve between the two of them. He also said that he already stop sending money to her. I asked him when did you stop talking to her and he said 4 months ago. I count the months I arrived here and its also 4 months, so he only stop talking to her when i arrived. It really hurt me allot but still I forgive him.

Last May, I found out that he created a facebook account with a different name. In short, he used an alias. At first, when I confront him about it. He denied about but when I mentioned the email address that he used on FB, he admitted that it is him. When I see it, the only friend he had in his FB account is the girl I saw on that webcam capture. I asked him, why you do that. He said that he is only curious whats going on with the girl. He wants to know if he is already married, has kids, if he has a boyfriend if not married, he just want to see her pictures. I asked why it is important to you to know all those kind of things about her. He said I do nothing wrong, I am just curious. He told me that I am only insecure (the girl has a big boobs). I told him back that you should have not marry and petition me. You should have petition and marry her instead of me. I really burst my anger that time, makes me say bad words to him ( i feel bad after I say those words). I went to my sister-in-laws house without informing him and he get angery at me of not telling him and we fight again. He said that "I will delete my FB account for your peace". He deactivated it infront of me and he asked forgiveness. He said its only a white lie. Then I forgive him again.

Today, I found out that he activated it again. It seems he cannot let go of this girl that he really need to see her. This really hurt me allot. He said that I am accusing him of something he did not do. Am I only over reacting? because I am really hurt.

Sounds like it was a little white lie was because he got caught. Dont trust him.

[Channah&Aaron 51]

HAHAHA Now we have a name for the big boobed girl

To the OP, sorry about that, hope you can find a solution.

[Chynna/gapamix 11]

I can't believe I just read that but here is my comment.

First off a lie is a lie no matter what color (heehee).

Second I am sorry you traveled all this way to be with your love and now you are going through this after a year. That really sucks.

Lastly it sounds like internet porn to me "boobie and flowers, webcam, money exchange...that is the recipe...these woman can be very persuasive when money is involved.

Also since you have all this info why not ask them both and see if their stories are the same. You have access to her email address and her facebook page.

Chynna

[Mal and Meg 12]

ditch him and move on, he will never change

[Robert&Karen 264]

He sounds very immature.