"personal" talk in proof of relationship documents

[jessicaDiana 0]

hey everyone,

i have abit of an awkward and embarassing issue here. Me and my fiance just filed for the k-1 today. My fiance in the U.S who just filed for me sent in all the appropriate documents, proof, etc. He had a good amount of papers together from our conversations over the time we have been dating and he just realized and told me he completly forgot to edit (black marker out) our "sexual talk" which we usually have quite alot of in our convos, we are also into some strange things too (which i wont mention) which i dont think helps our situation... He already sent the papers and everything today.Im COMPLETLY embarassed. I thought you were suposed to marker that stuff out, are you? will anything go wrong if the USCIS sees that kinda talk?

sorry for the awkward question!! has anyone left that kinda talk in there conversations and sent it in?

thank you!!

[Stephalex 2]

We left in all the dirty details for all of our things. If you black things out, I'd be more suspicious as to what they might have underneath them to be completely honest.

USCIS will see a couple seriously deprived of each other and if it was just bland emails and talking, they'd probably be a bit bored

[Ryan H 3,812]

There is no requirement to edit talk of sexual nature. However, it's usually not included for obvious reasons.

While it is embarrasing, I don't see how talk of a personal nature could adversely affect a petition (I could be wrong). I would be willing to bet that people have mistakenly or otherwise included this kind of talk before so it would not be the first time an adjudicator would see these kinds of conversations in a file.

[Andie 147]

I think they say ..."you may blank out"... not that you have to or need to. Agree with Ryan H that it has surely happened before where people haven't read through every word of what they have sent.

[Darnell 8,478]

I've not heard of any denials at USCIS based on inclusion of sexual talk or sexual perversions (For clear definition of perversions, look up the fetish list at alt.com )

I've also not heard of any RFEs that are focused on sexual conduct/congress.

But hey - I only hang out here at VJ and CFV - we're a bit looser at CFV, is talk of bungee cords with toilet seats there..

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Edited July 9, 2011 by Darnell

[abdelnish83 6]

I also honestly left all sex talk in my convo with my fiance. it first off would take entirely too long for me to sit there with a black marker trying to black out stuff. and i figured that they want to see a real relationship right??? so thats what ppl in a real relationship do. especially ones that are apart from eachother. its normal so dont be embarassed.

[Penny Lane 8,159]

Don't worry about it. I'm sure they've seen it all before.

[Stuart and Thea 95]

Hahahaha! I plan on keeping my petition after the process is over (the copy anyway, lol) so if you plan on doing the same, don't forget that stuff is in there and one day let your kids read it!! I remember reading love letters that my dad sent to my mom when he was working in Tennessee, she didn't edit the steamy ones out. Now THAT was an eye opener!

Don't be embarrassed about the officers reading them, if they're really really interesting, they will remember you a little more is all before they pass you on to the next desk! They are all professionals, and likely need to sign some kind of nondisclosure or privacy act statement for their job, so none of it should ever come back to haunt you, but as to if your relationship is bonafide?? They might not ask for proof of relationship status, fearing what they MIGHT get back from you as proof!!!

[william_wallace 8]

You need to give us more info on what the convo said so we can help.

I am joking by the way lol.

I'm sure the USCIS have seen and plenty and a lot worse. Don't worry about it. Be thankful yours is just in writing. Me and the wife were on holiday in Toronto in 2006 and we took naughty pics. Some nob stole our camera a few days later

[VanessaTony 3,567]

I would be embarrassed as well so I do completely understand. I blacked out anything person and had a conversation with my K1 interviewer about it. He told me it doesn't PROVE a real relationship at all because some people will talk like that thinking it DOES prove a real relationship... So they tend to ignore it. They don't tend to READ the conversations too in-depth. He told me that some people actually submit personal PHOTOS!! So while it is embarrassing they'll probably just ignore it and move on.

[Dave and Kinnari 31]

I plan on leaving mine in...

I don't care if they read it or not. LOL.

We Indians did develop the kama sutra you know....

[Aztec&Taino 144]

I would be pretty mad at my fiance for not having had the good judgment to edit such conversations. In fact, for the actual petition no such conversations were needed. All that was needed as far as proof of relationship was evidence of having met in person within the last two years and affidavits from both of you stating your willingness to marry. You can now just hope that neither the adjudicator nor the consul has the time or interest to read your sexual conversations and they go ignored and unread...

[jimmy&eloisa 1]

we blacked everything out because my fiancee did not want them to read it jeje,, and for the enterview we prented all the facebook conversations from october till last month and it took her like 2 days to read through it and black every thing out jeje, but im sure they dont ackually read though it all. they dont have time to really.

[Adil & Jeanne 296]

This actually is good proof of a relationsip. Don't worry. They really just want to see you do talk. Think they had time in 2 days at USCID to read my 2000 pages.?? no, they wanted it but sent me on to NVC is 2 days after my 4 page RFE and 25 pounds of evidence.

hey everyone,

i have abit of an awkward and embarassing issue here. Me and my fiance just filed for the k-1 today. My fiance in the U.S who just filed for me sent in all the appropriate documents, proof, etc. He had a good amount of papers together from our conversations over the time we have been dating and he just realized and told me he completly forgot to edit (black marker out) our "sexual talk" which we usually have quite alot of in our convos, we are also into some strange things too (which i wont mention) which i dont think helps our situation... He already sent the papers and everything today.Im COMPLETLY embarassed. I thought you were suposed to marker that stuff out, are you? will anything go wrong if the USCIS sees that kinda talk?

sorry for the awkward question!! has anyone left that kinda talk in there conversations and sent it in?

thank you!!

[VanessaTony 3,567]

This actually is good proof of a relationsip. Don't worry. They really just want to see you do talk. Think they had time in 2 days at USCID to read my 2000 pages.?? no, they wanted it but sent me on to NVC is 2 days after my 4 page RFE and 25 pounds of evidence.

Actually no its not. If you read my prior post i was told specifically by the IO that its not a good thing OR a bad thing. People will fake relationships for a GC, personal gain/profit. People have one night stands and express themselves in such a manner. It means nothing in terms of proving a substantial relationship.. and in my personal opinion knowingly leaving it in there is very crass behaviour... akin to having sex in public (it's kinda creepy to know THAT much personal info about someone). The poor OP At least it was sent to people she doesn't know and will never really "know".