Married on K1 visa for 3 months and now separated?

[meauxna 15]

DM: I did, I just didn't have time to write out my reply.

Hard to argue w/someone who sees that behavior as a reason for the foreigner to 'go home'.

[peacekeeper810 0]

Please help me.

I came into the US on a K1 visa from the Philippines and married my petitioner within the 90 days. He mailed in the I 485 but he may have stopped payment on his checks. He tried to force me to sign a no fault divorce and changed the lock on our apartment. I hope that I can file for my adjustment of status another way because I have done all that I was suppose to do but now my husband does not want me anymore. I am still married to my husband. Please help me by giving me any advice that you can. Thanks

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Youre i-94 is only good for 90 days,after that lapses,you need to apply for aos to be able to stay permanently and legally here in the US...Sa interview mo sa AOS kailangan kasama yung asawa mo,saka prrof na nakatira kayo together in the same house...If wala kang evidence or hindi mo kasama ang asawa mo int he interview,youll be denied and will be deported...

my thoughts to you is asked your husband to file for a divorce and go back to our country philippines...It will be easier for you go back to the US,if you have plans in the future...it will be much harder to come back to the US if you get deported...

and another thing is...i dont know if its true its only a heresay...but if you got married to a US citizen and your husband hit you or something,or he committed domestic despute or violence,it may be something you can use to get you permanent residency.....im not sure about that...but its very important right now that you call philippine immigration here in the US,they might help you stay here longer,or if not youll still be lucky cause they give you a free ticket HOME...

im sorry

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Who frauded who in this case?

I'm not saying anyone defrauded anyone in this case, I don't know the details. However I do know that if you start passing laws protecting the immigrant in these cases, aiding them in getting a green card despite the rapid collapse of the marriage under somewhat suspicious circumstances, you're going to encourage more people who are just getting married to get their green card.

I'd encourage a law that allows for quick annulment and a cheap plane ticket home, which I think would be in the best interest of the OP.

I don't see any suspicious circumstances in the post as it is written. I'm not suggesting that there isn't more to the situation, but it's not been articulated in the initial post. I do see that a US citizen didn't think through the ramifications of petitioning a fiancée, marriage and all that encompasses.

[russ 1]

russ,

Said with tongue planted firmly in cheek? Filing for divorce a week before the AOS interview - what a way to help.

Anyway, such a situation does call for a very experienced immigration attorney and very deep pockets.

The divorce was filed yesterday, about 45 days after the interview. The affair started the week before the interview (obviously, without my knowledge).

Of course, your tounge-in-cheek response is appropriate. The best thing for her to do would be to leave the country, but she will not do that. I understand that I am trying to do something that most people wouldn't.

For medical reasons, it is in her best interest to stay here. While there is no hope of the marriage continuing, I still need to look at myself in the mirror every day. I took wedding my vows seriously, and intend to help her as much as I can for as long as possible. Unfortnately, filing for a divorce was necessary. We are still married for now.

Everything I can do to ensure that she still sees her doctors is important. Given the circumstanes, I know this will not happen without me. In my mind, this is far more important than marriage ever was. Mostly, marriage was a promise to be responsible and help her. There were no caveats attached to that promise.

[Dr_LHA 3]

DM: I did, I just didn't have time to write out my reply.

Hard to argue w/someone who sees that behavior as a reason for the foreigner to 'go home'.

Given that her marriage has fallen apart shortly after she just moved here from a foriegn land, it would seem to make more sense for her to go back to her family, rather than trying to stay here. I know this is what I would do in her situation, after all what is there here for her now?

Unless of course her reasoning for the marriage in the first place was to get a green card.

Of course its only idle speculation, we've only heard one side of the story - hers. If we heard her husband's story it might sound very much like russ's though.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

DM: I did, I just didn't have time to write out my reply.

Hard to argue w/someone who sees that behavior as a reason for the foreigner to 'go home'.

Given that her marriage has fallen apart shortly after she just moved here from a foriegn land, it would seem to make more sense for her to go back to her family, rather than trying to stay here. I know this is what I would do in her situation, after all what is there here for her now?

Unless of course her reasoning for the marriage in the first place was to get a green card.

Of course its only idle speculation, we've only heard one side of the story - hers. If we heard her husband's story it might sound very much like russ's though.

What is there here for her now? We can't know, but we do know that she severed ties with her home land to come here and follow through on the requirements of the K1, and without further information, the husband's actions appear to be, at the very least, irrational and immature and quite possibly unlawful. I realise that some aliens might have a support structure back in their home land, and to return *may* provide more comfort and stability, but that's not always a given.

[meauxna 15]

DM: I did, I just didn't have time to write out my reply.

Hard to argue w/someone who sees that behavior as a reason for the foreigner to 'go home'.

Given that her marriage has fallen apart shortly after she just moved here from a foriegn land, it would seem to make more sense for her to go back to her family, rather than trying to stay here. I know this is what I would do in her situation, after all what is there here for her now?

Unless of course her reasoning for the marriage in the first place was to get a green card.

Of course its only idle speculation, we've only heard one side of the story - hers. If we heard her husband's story it might sound very much like russ's though.

What is there here for her now? We can't know, but we do know that she severed ties with her home land to come here and follow through on the requirements of the K1, and without further information, the husband's actions appear to be, at the very least, irrational and immature and quite possibly unlawful. I realise that some aliens might have a support structure back in their home land, and to return *may* provide more comfort and stability, but that's not always a given.

In fact, just the opposite could be true. I know in some cultures, a 'used' woman would lose status and face difficulties in returning to a 'traditional' home. Didn't we have a poster who faced those circumstances here not long ago? I think when these opinions come out, people tend to forget that not everywhere is like the US, Canada, the UK etc.

Edited September 15, 2006 by meauxna

[Yodrak 7]

russ,

OK, I understand now. I got the impression from your previous post that you had filed for the divorce a week before the interview.

Best wishes to you.

Yodrak

russ,

Said with tongue planted firmly in cheek? Filing for divorce a week before the AOS interview - what a way to help.

Anyway, such a situation does call for a very experienced immigration attorney and very deep pockets.

The divorce was filed yesterday, about 45 days after the interview. The affair started the week before the interview (obviously, without my knowledge).

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[iceyspots 0]

DM: I did, I just didn't have time to write out my reply.

Hard to argue w/someone who sees that behavior as a reason for the foreigner to 'go home'.

Given that her marriage has fallen apart shortly after she just moved here from a foriegn land, it would seem to make more sense for her to go back to her family, rather than trying to stay here. I know this is what I would do in her situation, after all what is there here for her now?

Unless of course her reasoning for the marriage in the first place was to get a green card.

Of course its only idle speculation, we've only heard one side of the story - hers. If we heard her husband's story it might sound very much like russ's though.

What is there here for her now? We can't know, but we do know that she severed ties with her home land to come here and follow through on the requirements of the K1, and without further information, the husband's actions appear to be, at the very least, irrational and immature and quite possibly unlawful. I realise that some aliens might have a support structure back in their home land, and to return *may* provide more comfort and stability, but that's not always a given.

In fact, just the opposite could be true. I know in some cultures, a 'used' woman would lose status and face difficulties in returning to a 'traditional' home. Didn't we have a poster who faced those circumstances here not long ago? I think when these opinions come out, people tend to forget that not everywhere is like the US, Canada, the UK etc.

yes there was.. I believe there was a Pakistani woman who returned to Pakistan after a divorce was filed in the states. she came on here to try to find out how to get back to the states because of the way she was treated in her home country when people found out she was divorced.