BETRAYED-NEED ADVICE TO CANCEL AOS

[rlogan 2,036]

SO HERE I AM LIKE AN IDIOT FOR THE PAST MONTH, WHILE MY HUSBAND IS TAKING PICS W NO CLOTHES AND EMAILING THIS WOMAN WHILE I AM WORKING. I WILL NEVER TRUST HIM AGAIN, I CANNOT BE WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS BETRAYED ME. THANKFULLY WE HAVE NO KIDS TOGETHER. I JUST NEED TO TRY AND MOVE ON AND GET AN ANNULMENT OR DIVORCE AND STOP THIS AOS PROCESS. I AM A REGULAR VJ MEMBER, BUT I AM TOO EMBARRASSED TO POST THIS UNDER MY VJ NAME. THANK YOU ALL.

You have a very good attitude and clear thinking despite the devastation. Those who have said to write USCIS or call and cancel the AOS application are giving good advice.

I see absolutely no vindictiveness on your part, just the desire to move on with your life. It sounds stupid but making sure to eat right and get regular sleep, a little exercise to keep your health up because you have to be strong. Despite being shot in the gut with a cannon.

You really sound like someone who has their act together. Asking for help too is not a sign of weakness, but of wisdom. Good luck to you, and one day the sun will be shining on you and you will wonder hey, how can things be this good. The answer will be that you did the right things now.

[yulisa 9]

PLSE DEPORT HIS #### AS QUICKLY AS U CAN.AM SOOO SORRY U R HURT.SOME MEN CAN BE ANIMALS THEY AVE NO PITY.THEY WILL USE THE ###### OUT OF U IF U GIVE THEM THE CHANCE.I HOPE DIS GET RESOLVE AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE,THEY ARE THE PEOPLE THAT MAKE OTHER FORIGNERS LOOK BAD.NOT ONLY MEN BUT WOMEN TOO.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

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Moderator hat off: I agree with Darnell - make an infopass as well and hand-deliver your request to withdraw the Affidavit of Support along with your package of evidence for the fraud. Good luck to you.

Edited June 25, 2011 by Kathryn41

[betrayed woman 13]

You have a very good attitude and clear thinking despite the devastation. Those who have said to write USCIS or call and cancel the AOS application are giving good advice.

I see absolutely no vindictiveness on your part, just the desire to move on with your life. It sounds stupid but making sure to eat right and get regular sleep, a little exercise to keep your health up because you have to be strong. Despite being shot in the gut with a cannon.

You really sound like someone who has their act together. Asking for help too is not a sign of weakness, but of wisdom. Good luck to you, and one day the sun will be shining on you and you will wonder hey, how can things be this good. The answer will be that you did the right things now.

Thank you so much! It's impossible for me to wish hatred on someone who I love, but I know karma will do more than anything I could force to happen. This made me smile =) I haven't been eating or sleeping much, but I am trying to now and hopefully more each day.

[betrayed woman 13]

"When somebody shows you who they really are.... believe them the first time."

Sorry you are going through this. I think you are doing the right thing and commend you for being a strong woman.

Thank you, your quote is perfect.

[therese828 4]

MY HUSBAND GOT BIOMETRICS AND EAD IS PENDING. AOS IS BEING PROCESSED OUT OF CSC, SENT IN MAY. CAN I STOP THIS PROCESS? I NEED TO GET A DIVORCE OR ANNULMENT, POSSIBLY FOR FRAUD. PLEASE HELP

HERE ARE SOME DETAILS OF THE SITUATION. THANKS FOR ANY HELP YOU CAN PROVIDE.

I GOT MARRIED IN MAY, TO WHO I THOUGHT WAS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE. I FOUND EMAILS MY HUSBAND WAS SENDING ANOTHER WOMAN IN HIS COUNTRY TELLING HER HOW MUCH HE LOVED HER AND SENDING PHOTOS WITH NO CLOTHES. ACCORDING TO THE EMAILS, THIS WOMAN HAS A BABY FROM MY HUSBAND AND JUST TOLD HIM ONE MONTH AGO, THIS IS WHEN THE EMAILS STARTED. THE BABY WAS CONCEIVED AND BORN BEFORE I MET MY HUSBAND. HOWEVER, HE HAS BEEN EMAILING HER TELLING HER HOW MUCH HE LOVES HER AND HOW HE MISSES HER AND TO WAIT FOR HIM. HE EVEN WENT AS FAR AS TO TELL HER THAT HIS WIFE CAME HOME EARLY AT 2PM TODAY SO HE CANT CALL AND THAT I USUALLY COME HOME AT 5:30PM. THERE IS SOMETHING ABOUT WAITING OUT HIS RESIDENCY CARD. I AM COMPLETELY BETRAYED AND AFTER CONFRONTING HIM HE HAS LEFT, WITH HIS BELONGINGS, NO PHONE, NO MONEY. I DID NOT ASK HIM TO LEAVE, BUT I DID ASK TO TELL ME THE TRUTH. HE SAID THIS WOMAN FOUND OUT HE WAS IN USA AND GOT HIS PHONE NUMBER AND CALLED AND TOLD HIM SHE HAD HIS BABY, SHE IS FROM A PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP. HE DID NOT KNOW ABOUT THE BABY, ETC. THE EMAILS CONFIRM THIS PART, HOWEVER HE DID ALSO SAY HE IS SO SAD AND DEPRESSED HERE AND HE LOVES HER SO MUCH AND TO WAIT FOR HIM. HE TOLD ME HE SAID THESE THINGS BECAUSE THIS IS WHAT SHE WANTED TO HEAR AND SHE WAS THREATENING HIM WITH NEVER BEING ABLE TO SEE HIS DAUGHTER. HE ALSO SAID SHE KEPT DEMANDING VIDEOS AND PICS TO BE SENT BECAUSE HE IS NOT WORKING AND DOES NOT HAVE ANY MONEY TO SEND HER, HE DID THESE THINGS TO BE ABLE TO SEE HIS DAUGHTER ONE DAY. SO HERE I AM LIKE AN IDIOT FOR THE PAST MONTH, WHILE MY HUSBAND IS TAKING PICS W NO CLOTHES AND EMAILING THIS WOMAN WHILE I AM WORKING. I WILL NEVER TRUST HIM AGAIN, I CANNOT BE WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS BETRAYED ME. THANKFULLY WE HAVE NO KIDS TOGETHER. I JUST NEED TO TRY AND MOVE ON AND GET AN ANNULMENT OR DIVORCE AND STOP THIS AOS PROCESS. I AM A REGULAR VJ MEMBER, BUT I AM TOO EMBARRASSED TO POST THIS UNDER MY VJ NAME. THANK YOU ALL.

im sorry to hear that.i guess better to call the uscis.he is just using you..why sacrificing one thing when that person didnt deserved your sacrifices.

[reeses16 8]

I think this is the best advice you have been given. I would like to add a few things: (1) Withdraw the AOS, state why (cheating and your intention to have the marriage annuled/or get a divorce, plus copies of any evidence you have to the places that Darnell listed, (2) Make sure you send all of these letters with delivery notification and return receipt, (3) Schedule an InfoPass appointment IMMEDIATELY, bring the same letter and copies of evidences that you plan to mail to this appointment (4) Take your name off/close any joint financial accounts- if that is not possible, at a minimum close any credit cards and open a new account for yourself only in which to deposit your paychecks.

I echo this - write a letter withdrawing the I-864, Affadavit of Support.

Send it to:

1. USCIS, address on the I-797-C, receipt notice, for the I-485 packet.

2. Local USCIS Office

3. National ICE Office

4. Local ICE Office

I know it seems like it's a 'shotgun effect' but ya can't really know exactly where the casefile IS, today - and you need to get the withdrawal in front of the office that has the casefile, as well to the ICE offices.

now, if you want to build a case against him, of evidence to turn OVER to ICE, with the hope that ICE will take the evidence and build a case against HIM to DEPORT him for MARRIAGE FRAUD - that's possible also, but you have to supply evidence (repeat for emphasis EVIDENCE) to ICE and ask that a casefile for Immigration Visa Fraud be opened against him. It's not automatic, it takes time to do this, expect to go in for an Interview with local ICE officers.

But for now, these next 24 hours - get the letters written and out the door to withdraw the I-864, Affadavit of Support. This, in itself, will stop further I-485 processing, and without an I-864? He can't adjust status or be issued a green card.

You'll have something else to do, as well, for filing a divorce or annulment - dig into the county clerk's office nearby and learn what they want for filing a petition of divorce.

Good Luck !

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[Kim_G 4]

I can't express how sympathetic I am with your situation; it must be very difficult to deal with the betrayal by someone who you thought you could trust. I'm sure you could either write to your local USCIS office or schedule an InfoPass appoint with them in order to inform them of the situation.

[betrayed woman 13]

I think this is the best advice you have been given. I would like to add a few things: (1) Withdraw the AOS, state why (cheating and your intention to have the marriage annuled/or get a divorce, plus copies of any evidence you have to the places that Darnell listed, (2) Make sure you send all of these letters with delivery notification and return receipt, (3) Schedule an InfoPass appointment IMMEDIATELY, bring the same letter and copies of evidences that you plan to mail to this appointment (4) Take your name off/close any joint financial accounts- if that is not possible, at a minimum close any credit cards and open a new account for yourself only in which to deposit your paychecks.

Thank you, I got the infopass appt scheduled in a week. I sent the withdraw papers. His name wasn't added to anything, so no worries there.

[Darnell 8,478]

I strongly suggest to ask for the ICE Shift supervisor, once yer there, to do some intake of yer evidence pile and file a fraud report.

The Withdrawal of the I-864, affadavit of support, can be done by any clerk there, however.

[LoveNigarmostyle 164]

MY HUSBAND GOT BIOMETRICS AND EAD IS PENDING. AOS IS BEING PROCESSED OUT OF CSC, SENT IN MAY. CAN I STOP THIS PROCESS? I NEED TO GET A DIVORCE OR ANNULMENT, POSSIBLY FOR FRAUD. PLEASE HELP

HERE ARE SOME DETAILS OF THE SITUATION. THANKS FOR ANY HELP YOU CAN PROVIDE.

I GOT MARRIED IN MAY, TO WHO I THOUGHT WAS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE. I FOUND EMAILS MY HUSBAND WAS SENDING ANOTHER WOMAN IN HIS COUNTRY TELLING HER HOW MUCH HE LOVED HER AND SENDING PHOTOS WITH NO CLOTHES. ACCORDING TO THE EMAILS, THIS WOMAN HAS A BABY FROM MY HUSBAND AND JUST TOLD HIM ONE MONTH AGO, THIS IS WHEN THE EMAILS STARTED. THE BABY WAS CONCEIVED AND BORN BEFORE I MET MY HUSBAND. HOWEVER, HE HAS BEEN EMAILING HER TELLING HER HOW MUCH HE LOVES HER AND HOW HE MISSES HER AND TO WAIT FOR HIM. HE EVEN WENT AS FAR AS TO TELL HER THAT HIS WIFE CAME HOME EARLY AT 2PM TODAY SO HE CANT CALL AND THAT I USUALLY COME HOME AT 5:30PM. THERE IS SOMETHING ABOUT WAITING OUT HIS RESIDENCY CARD. I AM COMPLETELY BETRAYED AND AFTER CONFRONTING HIM HE HAS LEFT, WITH HIS BELONGINGS, NO PHONE, NO MONEY. I DID NOT ASK HIM TO LEAVE, BUT I DID ASK TO TELL ME THE TRUTH. HE SAID THIS WOMAN FOUND OUT HE WAS IN USA AND GOT HIS PHONE NUMBER AND CALLED AND TOLD HIM SHE HAD HIS BABY, SHE IS FROM A PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP. HE DID NOT KNOW ABOUT THE BABY, ETC. THE EMAILS CONFIRM THIS PART, HOWEVER HE DID ALSO SAY HE IS SO SAD AND DEPRESSED HERE AND HE LOVES HER SO MUCH AND TO WAIT FOR HIM. HE TOLD ME HE SAID THESE THINGS BECAUSE THIS IS WHAT SHE WANTED TO HEAR AND SHE WAS THREATENING HIM WITH NEVER BEING ABLE TO SEE HIS DAUGHTER. HE ALSO SAID SHE KEPT DEMANDING VIDEOS AND PICS TO BE SENT BECAUSE HE IS NOT WORKING AND DOES NOT HAVE ANY MONEY TO SEND HER, HE DID THESE THINGS TO BE ABLE TO SEE HIS DAUGHTER ONE DAY. SO HERE I AM LIKE AN IDIOT FOR THE PAST MONTH, WHILE MY HUSBAND IS TAKING PICS W NO CLOTHES AND EMAILING THIS WOMAN WHILE I AM WORKING. I WILL NEVER TRUST HIM AGAIN, I CANNOT BE WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS BETRAYED ME. THANKFULLY WE HAVE NO KIDS TOGETHER. I JUST NEED TO TRY AND MOVE ON AND GET AN ANNULMENT OR DIVORCE AND STOP THIS AOS PROCESS. I AM A REGULAR VJ MEMBER, BUT I AM TOO EMBARRASSED TO POST THIS UNDER MY VJ NAME. THANK YOU ALL.

Truly sorry for your pain. It is not your fault he did this, it is not your fault that he is a cheat and a lair. Therefore, you should not be embarrassed to post on your usual name. NO one is here to judge you or criticize you. With that said, you should notify the USCIS and provide the proof of his fraud. Protect yourself and do the right thing, as suggested turn a new page in your life and move on for life is too short to dwell on this loser. You deserve to be happy and be grateful that you found out now than few years down the road...Good luck and will keep you in my prayers.

[rlogan 2,036]

Thank you, I got the infopass appt scheduled in a week. I sent the withdraw papers. His name wasn't added to anything, so no worries there.

Way to go. This is the big fix.

[^KK^ 3]

so sorry this happened

[beachgod 0]

Thank you, I got the infopass appt scheduled in a week. I sent the withdraw papers. His name wasn't added to anything, so no worries there.

I applaud you for standing up for yourself, making a decision and act accordingly.