AOS cause arguments between couple

[Natashia 0]

hi!

I'd like to express how disappointing this whole AOS is. It's always the reason why my husband and I end up in arguments.

I just hope everything will be done after resubmitting our forms. I am so stressed, sicked and tired of all the waiting and the fight over this matter.

Does anybody feel me here? How did you manage this stressful thing? Any advice? Please let me know! God bless.

[cardigans5 43]

I'm only waiting a month so far since I sent in my K-1 petition so I'm new in the process but I think of it like this...I plan on being with my future wife for 20, 30, or 40 years so in the whole scheme of things waiting a year or maybe two years to spend my life with my soul mate is just a drop in the bucket of life. That's how I feel about it...the end will justify the means.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Honestly it was stressful because I was more interested in the little details, my husband not so much. As it was MY status and MY life on the line if I wanted it changed/fixed then I did it. Even if it turned out I was wrong, or it took a little longer I slept a little better knowing it was as "perfect" as I could get it.

It WILL be all okay. If it makes you feel better regarding the pics: they don't actually put that photo on the EAD or GC, the one done at biometrics will fix that. If the measurements are off a little it SHOULD be okay because apparently they scan them now. If they're bad you'll just get an RFE, no biggie.

With the check.. sometimes they can be REALLY picky about it but hopefully it'll be okay. Again worst case scenario they'll send you an RFE and you'll fix it and resend it.

Again, it WILL be okay!

[Natashia 0]

Honestly it was stressful because I was more interested in the little details, my husband not so much. As it was MY status and MY life on the line if I wanted it changed/fixed then I did it. Even if it turned out I was wrong, or it took a little longer I slept a little better knowing it was as "perfect" as I could get it.

It WILL be all okay. If it makes you feel better regarding the pics: they don't actually put that photo on the EAD or GC, the one done at biometrics will fix that. If the measurements are off a little it SHOULD be okay because apparently they scan them now. If they're bad you'll just get an RFE, no biggie.

With the check.. sometimes they can be REALLY picky about it but hopefully it'll be okay. Again worst case scenario they'll send you an RFE and you'll fix it and resend it.

Again, it WILL be okay!

Thanks for your response Vanessa&Tony! Well I guess women are really like that. I am very much into details just wanna be sure that we won't be waiting again for a month and then it will just turn out that they'll be sending an RFE just what happened to us last month. Just because we made just one check payment for me and my son applying for AOS. I really hope this time things will work out right in God's grace. I know if something will go wrong in our resubmitted forms yesterday, he'll blame me again for I was "rushing" things to be submitted. I just want this AOS to be done coz I don't have peace of mind while it's still hanging. I don't feel freedom that US is supposed to uphold while I don't have our AOS done.

Is there a limit to the number of RFEs you can get during AOS application? Well, hopefully we only get one - no more RFEs coming.

To God be the glory!

[Natashia 0]

I'm only waiting a month so far since I sent in my K-1 petition so I'm new in the process but I think of it like this...I plan on being with my future wife for 20, 30, or 40 years so in the whole scheme of things waiting a year or maybe two years to spend my life with my soul mate is just a drop in the bucket of life. That's how I feel about it...the end will justify the means.

Hi, cardigans5! Congratulations you'll soon get your I-129F petition approved. I hope this early, you already have visualized how things should go soon your fiance gets to US. Plan it ahead of time especially the fees and all documents needed when applying AOS. Oh yeah, it's so lovely to be living your lifetime with your soul mate, your husband/wife but sometimes circumstances just go in between to test your marriage, your commitment to each other and one of which is this AOS thing.

Good luck on your journey. God bless

[ateneaalexander 10]

i feel you :/ i been stress out about this but we gettin close to the end of this visa thing. So we been little more happy

[Natashia 0]

i feel you :/ i been stress out about this but we gettin close to the end of this visa thing. So we been little more happy

I've been that situation waiting patiently for K1 visa to be approved. It has been a long wait and by the time you receive your Visa, you like to just fly immediately all the way to your fiancee's place and be with him. I do hope that within 90 days you've got your plans for the next Visa journey ready so won't be as frustrated as I am today.

Good luck and God bless you! Congratulations in advance.

[manilaboy83 9]

I completely understand how stressful this is.and im on the exact situation.. When youre all stressed out worrying how to make the aos as smooth and problem-free as possible, but u dont see the same drive from your spouse.worse is, spouse doesnt wanna cooperate and doesnt understand that your future is at stake here..

Im listening.

[Natashia 0]

I completely understand how stressful this is.and im on the exact situation.. When youre all stressed out worrying how to make the aos as smooth and problem-free as possible, but u dont see the same drive from your spouse.worse is, spouse doesnt wanna cooperate and doesnt understand that your future is at stake here..

Im listening.

Oh yes I agree with you kapwa ko Pinoy! It's really crazy when you're the only one pushing to have all the requirements done, paying closely to every details hoping for a smooth shot, no RFEs yet just so frustrating that your other-half is not cooperating and just treating all these things just like a bug on the ear. They're not anxious about this because they're already legal residents in this place and it's not their status that is at stake, it's ours! I even looked for ways to help gather the funds to pay the application coz if I don't make a move, everything will just be forgotten. Lagi nasa huli ang pagsisisi my friend. But of course, if there's a will there's a way. kaya sariling sikap na lang tayo!

Where ka ba based ngayon kabayan?

[BlueBonnet 84]

I think the K1 was more stressful. Not so much because of the actual petition, its more everything rolled into one. The petition, the forms, the fees, the long distance between the two of you, the normal ups and downs in all relationships. I really think the LDR makes or hightens stress levels.

The OAS, not so stressful.

But sitting on my butt day after day is starting to get boring.

[slangofoil 50]

Yes it was stressful on us. But I'm the USC and the detail-oriented obsessive-compulsive one. My husband was all laid back about things, despite it being HIS status that was pending. Very annoying. And waiting 3 months after being transferred to CSC before we heard anything was really stressful. You will make it though, and this time will seem like nothing after it's over. It will all be ok!

Just FYI, please use English only in the main forums, so all can participate and understand. You can use your own language in the regional ones.

[jrmejia 31]

For some reason the process does not cause any problems between my fiancee and me.

[Casprd 167]

We had some of the stress/friction going up to the CR-1 interview for the same types of reasons. I'm a little more get it done and make sure it is right kind of person and my wife was more like "tell me what you need and don't bother me with the rest". There were times I thought she just wasn't that interested in whether she got a visa or not and even once worried that she might tank the interview so we would have to live in china then . As crunch time came she stepped up and everything worked out fine or us. It is definately a stressful situation and if one party seems disengaged it just makes it worse. Bright side is once you are through this, hopefully that gives you some conflict resolution skills for dealing with each other later

[Messybrownhair 251]

AOS was very stressful for me and hubby. I wanted to file right after marriage so wedding plans + Aos did put some strain. But once we sent it in and the ball started rolling then I finally relaxed and just enjoyed our new union now we are happy and just patiently waiting. He doesn't worry about it the way I do and I try not to think about it too much. This whole process can really drive you crazy!@

[karah0215 0]

Oh yes I agree with you kapwa ko Pinoy! It's really crazy when you're the only one pushing to have all the requirements done, paying closely to every details hoping for a smooth shot, no RFEs yet just so frustrating that your other-half is not cooperating and just treating all these things just like a bug on the ear. They're not anxious about this because they're already legal residents in this place and it's not their status that is at stake, it's ours! I even looked for ways to help gather the funds to pay the application coz if I don't make a move, everything will just be forgotten. Lagi nasa huli ang pagsisisi my friend. But of course, if there's a will there's a way. kaya sariling sikap na lang tayo!

Where ka ba based ngayon kabayan?

Maybe, I was lucky that my husband (US citizen) was the one who do all and most of the things even every little things.. I hope everything will go smoothly after your RFE. Ourr was. after we sent the RFE, everything went well smoothly. and today, i checked the USCIS website, EAD (I765) has been approved and we have our interview already for July. Thank God so much.