VAWA Part 2

[verysadguy 170]

Here is the current update for processing time/time frame for I-360 Applications for VSC (as of October 2012:

I-360 Petition for Amerasian, Widow(er), or Special Immigrant

All other special immigrants

June 5, 2011

The website has been showing June 5, 2011 for a few weeks now. When will it update?

[Sandra G. 5,057]

I decided to explain here a little bit about mental abuse, because i receive so many messages every week asking me how to prove mental abuse. Many people think they just need to tell immigration their spouses are mean, unkindness, call names etc...well you need much more than that to have a Vawa approved based in mental abuse.First of all the law is clear you must prove" extreme cruelty" it means you have to prove mental anguish, but keep in mind that infidelity,abandonment or separation is not considered mental abuse by Vawa Unit.Some people are mean,some of them have some tensions and/or incompatibilities but these things do not constitute extreme cruelty either.

Signals of mental abuse are humiliation,degradation,isolation,coercion, possessiveness, control over you,threats,not allowing to get a job,controlling all the money etc...but a isolated act do not constitute mental abuse, it must constitute part of an overall pattern. You have not just describe the acts(mental abuse), but the feelings in response to the abuse, describe what were you before the abuse and tell the quality of life and ability to function you have now after the abuse. You need to prove that the mental abuse suffered was so cruel that your ability was or is compromised momentary or long-term. If you are stating that your partner isolated you then describe manner an duration of the isolation, describe your feelings during the isolation(anger,fear,helpless etc..),how are you feeling now that you left the abuser?.

Get a psychological evaluation, and the psychologist should state if you are suffering depression and/or anxiety,pos traumatic disorder etc...if you need medication, if what you suffered is considered mental abuse or not.

Edited October 10, 2012 by sandranj

[verysadguy 170]

I decided to explain here a little bit about mental abuse, because i receive so many messages every week asking me how to prove mental abuse. Many people think they just need to tell immigration their spouses are mean, unkindness, call names etc...well you need much more than that to have a Vawa approved based in mental abuse.First of all the law is clear you must prove" extreme cruelty" it means you have to prove mental anguish, but keep in mind that infidelity,abandonment or separation is not considered mental abuse by Vawa Unit.Some people are mean,some of them have some tensions and/or incompatibilities but these things do not constitute extreme cruelty either.

Signals of mental abuse are humiliation,degradation,isolation,coercion, possessiveness, control over you,threats,not allowing to get a job,controlling all the money etc...but a isolated act do not constitute mental abuse, it must constitute part of an overall pattern. You have not just describe the acts(mental abuse), but the feelings in response to the abuse, describe what were you before the abuse and tell the quality of life and ability to function you have now after the abuse. You need to prove that the mental abuse suffered was so cruel that your ability was or is compromised momentary or long-term. If you are stating that your partner isolated you then describe manner an duration of the isolation, describe your feelings during the isolation(anger,fear,helpless etc..),how are you feeling now that you left the abuser?.

Get a psychological evaluation, and the psychologist should state if you are suffering depression and/or anxiety,pos traumatic disorder etc...if you need medication, if what you suffered is considered mental abuse or not.

A very good primer. Exactly what my wife claimed but none of it happened. Very easy to fake that stuff. Proof would be better than claims no?

[young Seattle 9]

hi love me brother, thanks for the message, last sunday I went to my church to pray God to let me go back home next month, I donated $20 for that. this sunday I will pray for you to go back home before this Xmas. Be honestly everytime when I think about my vawa, i just feel I am a loser, waiting 21 months for nothing.the only way i can forget it is by working hard, although I donot care about money if I donot have a happy family. I have two international textile exhibitions going on soon, one is on Oct 23th in China Shanghai, another is on Nov7th in China Guangzhou,after that I hope I can go back Seattle, I have three LA buyers waiting to meet in LA. I told my wife she does not need worry about clothes anymore, our company made 3 million clothes every year. God bless those vawa prayers!

[loveme 4]

hi love me brother, thanks for the message, last sunday I went to my church to pray God to let me go back home next month, I donated $20 for that. this sunday I will pray for you to go back home before this Xmas. Be honestly everytime when I think about my vawa, i just feel I am a loser, waiting 21 months for nothing.the only way i can forget it is by working hard, although I donot care about money if I donot have a happy family. I have two international textile exhibitions going on soon, one is on Oct 23th in China Shanghai, another is on Nov7th in China Guangzhou,after that I hope I can go back Seattle, I have three LA buyers waiting to meet in LA. I told my wife she does not need worry about clothes anymore, our company made 3 million clothes every year. God bless those vawa prayers!

Maybe you can hire a lawyer to help you find out what's going on with your case.

[lorphelpme 9]

I am about to mail letter for renewal of prima facie which wll make it my 4th. Hopefully I dont get a 4th one and just get approval. God help me. I know the wait is killing all of us. It's gonna be 14 months this month waiting

Edited October 10, 2012 by lorphelpme

[Sandra G. 5,057]

verysaid guy in psychological abuse cases the psychologist can state if the individual suffered mental abuse or not. keep in mind the Vawa unit officers are well trained and they can smell lies, and theY will adjudicate the case based not just in the individual affidavit, but they will consider the psychological evaluation as well. The psychologists when perform a psychological evaluation they include several basic components in their evaluation such as interview, collateral contacts, testing, diagnosis, recommendation, personality-emotional-behavioral tests, assessment tools and psychometric tests etc..

Can someone fake? absolutely, but we are talking about psychological evaluations performed by experts in psychological evaluation. We can't discard their evaluations at all otherwise we will compromise all cases, they are extremely important for providing assessment in adult criminal court or juvenile hearings as well.It's clear the psychologists can provide valuable informations to USCIS or to the court.The role of a psychologist is fundamental in cases of mental abuse.

Edited October 10, 2012 by sandranj

[verysadguy 170]

verysaid guy in psychological abuse cases the psychologist can state if the individual suffered mental abuse or not. keep in mind the Vawa unit officers are well trained and they can smell lies, and theY will adjudicate the case based not just in the individual affidavit, but they will consider the psychological evaluation as well. The psychologists when perform a psychological evaluation they include several basic components in their evaluation such as interview, collateral contacts, testing, diagnosis, recommendation, personality-emotional-behavioral tests, assessment tools and psychometric tests etc..

Can someone fake? absolutely, but we are talking about psychological evaluations performed by experts in psychological evaluation. We can't discard their evaluations at all otherwise we will compromise all cases, they are extremely important for providing assessment in adult criminal court or juvenile hearings as well.It's clear the psychologists can provide valuable informations to USCIS or to the court.The role of a psychologist is fundamental in cases of mental abuse.

thank you that is a very good explanation!!!

I think my judge is going to order an independent evaluation of her beyond what she sends as affidavit to USCIS. Unfortunately for me I will have to pay and it's something like $10,000 dollars.

I hope the adjudicators can sniff out the lies like you say. I do not feel good because I heard in NY State yelling at your wife is enough of a case to call it abuse!!! No extreme cruelty there at all...ridiculous.

[loveme 4]

Optimisticchic .. how are are things going

[lorphelpme 9]

Things have gotten pretty slow with approvals here.i guess that's just reassuring us how slow things are at vsc.

[VAWA 1]

I hope you get an approval soon.

As for me, my journey just begin.

Just waiting for Prima Facie.

@lordhelpme: was your abuse is physical?

[lorphelpme 9]

I hope you get an approval soon.

As for me, my journey just begin.

Just waiting for Prima Facie.

@lordhelpme: was your abuse is physical?

Verbal/mental

[VAWA 1]

Do u apply vawa currently with I-485 and work permit ?

If not, how do u survive?

[lorphelpme 9]

Do u apply vawa currently with I-485 and work permit ?

If not, how do u survive?

No I didn't did u. I try as best as I can

[VAWA 1]

I applied I-360 alone...m doing neighbors yards for money.

Cold seasons coming, there will be no grass to cut.

That's why I really need to get PF