Filipina temper ! How you control it .

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

The wife says it's bad sport to throw things, especially dishes.

1) It's expensive.

2) Breaking most things brings back luck. If you break something, you have to break a like item right away to make the bad luck go away.

3) See number 1.

[gretchen_darren 67]

that is why they have paper and plastic dishes plus cast iron pans.... does not break.....at least not easily..... and pillows work quite well.....

it is also why men clean the villages and burn the trash, less items to be found to throw at you.....

my fiance and I agreed if she ever gets really mad, we will have a pillow fight until the stuffing comes out of both pillows... then we will go buy new pillows to sleep on....

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I'm wondering if these tantrums that some of the Fil/Am couples experience have to do with the larger age gaps, especially when the Filipina is still fairly young? And perhaps some of the men are actually attracted to young Filipinas with "Daddy's Little Princess" syndrome - not for their tempers, but to continue on with the role playing and unfortunately, the tantrums are part of the package?

Edited June 12, 2011 by 8TBVBN

[B_J 2,752]

I'm wondering if these tantrums that some of the Fil/Am couples experience have to do with the larger age gaps, especially when the Filipina is still fairly young? And perhaps some of the men are actually attracted to young Filipinas with "Daddy's Little Princess" syndrome - not for their tempers, but to continue on with the role playing and unfortunately, the tantrums are part of the package?

I can't speak for everybody, but I think it's really a cultural issue. We have had "fights" but there's never been any throwing of objects or anything that would be viewed as a tantrum. She's never even yelled at me; but she has complained about me yelling, even when I didn't think I was yelling. Rather than do any of that, she just gets quiet. I think the silent treatment is cultural. I really can't say anything about the tantrums, since I haven't experienced anything like that. /crosses fingers

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

I'm wondering if these tantrums that some of the Fil/Am couples experience have to do with the larger age gaps, especially when the Filipina is still fairly young? And perhaps some of the men are actually attracted to young Filipinas with "Daddy's Little Princess" syndrome - not for their tempers, but to continue on with the role playing and unfortunately, the tantrums are part of the package?

She really gets mad when I introduce her as my daughter.

[JoBri 548]

I can't speak for everybody, but I think it's really a cultural issue. We have had "fights" but there's never been any throwing of objects or anything that would be viewed as a tantrum. She's never even yelled at me; but she has complained about me yelling, even when I didn't think I was yelling. Rather than do any of that, she just gets quiet. I think the silent treatment is cultural. I really can't say anything about the tantrums, since I haven't experienced anything like that. /crosses fingers

Yeh, my wife doesnt "yell". She doesnt throw a tantrum either. She doesnt throw things. She can get mad though. But when she gets mad she gets mad without yelling. And when she doesnt talk, it is just her way... cultural maybe? It is an expression of her feelings, her anger, sadness, hurt, frustration. And when that happens, it usually is really my fault...... Well, always my fault. I mean, weeks later she might get real quiet, and it is because she is going back through things in her thinking, I have learned, from weeks before. But if I can sort of guess what is bothering her, I might as well not ask, because she wont say. She keeps it all inside. But the frustrating thing is when she gets quiet and I dont know what it is. She will say there isnt anything wrong...that she is just tired. But I know there is something, usually, and it is frustrating to not talk about it. I will ask "What's wrong?" and she will say "Nothing is wrong! ....I'm just really tired." That may be the case, but I always know there is more to it than just that.

She has a part time job across the street. She is working a double shift today. I walked the baby in the stroller over to her because she wanted me to bring her the toothbrush. I left a note in the bag saying "Mahal Kita Jopay! XOXO" and brought her some ice water too in a water bottle. She was happy to see Shen, our son, and picked him up to hug him a lot. We are going through a hard time right now financially because I lost my job, but she is still there for me, and our love is strong, and secure. We have been through some struggles, but our marriage has stood the stress of some upheavals. We have both grown since she came here. And I thank God for my wife and son.

Brian in Tennessee

[Ban Hammer 13,726]

She really gets mad when I introduce her as my daughter.

[sweetpink 1]

Yeh, my wife doesnt "yell". She doesnt throw a tantrum either. She doesnt throw things. She can get mad though. But when she gets mad she gets mad without yelling. And when she doesnt talk, it is just her way... cultural maybe? It is an expression of her feelings, her anger, sadness, hurt, frustration. And when that happens, it usually is really my fault...... Well, always my fault. I mean, weeks later she might get real quiet, and it is because she is going back through things in her thinking, I have learned, from weeks before. But if I can sort of guess what is bothering her, I might as well not ask, because she wont say. She keeps it all inside. But the frustrating thing is when she gets quiet and I dont know what it is. She will say there isnt anything wrong...that she is just tired. But I know there is something, usually, and it is frustrating to not talk about it. I will ask "What's wrong?" and she will say "Nothing is wrong! ....I'm just really tired." That may be the case, but I always know there is more to it than just that.

She has a part time job across the street. She is working a double shift today. I walked the baby in the stroller over to her because she wanted me to bring her the toothbrush. I left a note in the bag saying "Mahal Kita Jopay! XOXO" and brought her some ice water too in a water bottle. She was happy to see Shen, our son, and picked him up to hug him a lot. We are going through a hard time right now financially because I lost my job, but she is still there for me, and our love is strong, and secure. We have been through some struggles, but our marriage has stood the stress of some upheavals. We have both grown since she came here. And I thank God for my wife and son.

Brian in Tennessee

your son is so cute take care and have fun with him..

[RVIANE♛ 5]

I dont yell or throw things at all when im mad i apply the "silent treatment" LOL

[Mariye & Ky 172]

She really gets mad when I introduce her as my daughter.

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!! LOL....... Classic!!!!! :rofl:

I dont yell or throw things at all when im mad i apply the "silent treatment" LOL

LOL just remember the Silent Treatment has a "Hot Minute" to it to get it started! lol

[Thunderstruck 1]

Tampo is something very different than what most American men are accustomed to dealing with. With my first wife (a kana) if I got the silent treatment, it was only the calm before the storm... or more like the receding of the water before the tsunami!

My wife is *very* sensitive and never shouts or says angry words to me. I don't to her either and hope that will always be the case. Besides if she begins to cry (and it takes very little to make that happen), then there goes any anger, frustration or irritation that I may have been holding on to. Our marriage is still young so we will see how things progress in the future. I already see improvement from both of us in dealing with issues though.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Tampo is something very different than what most American men are accustomed to dealing with. With my first wife (a kana) if I got the silent treatment, it was only the calm before the storm... or more like the receding of the water before the tsunami!

My wife is *very* sensitive and never shouts or says angry words to me. I don't to her either and hope that will always be the case. Besides if she begins to cry (and it takes very little to make that happen), then there goes any anger, frustration or irritation that I may have been holding on to. Our marriage is still young so we will see how things progress in the future. I already see improvement from both of us in dealing with issues though.

She will gain confidence over time. Some of the things we Kano's take for granted as normal banter hit the Filipina right in the heart. Sometimes the insecure submissive thing gets old, but it is a cultural defense mechanism that is learned about the same time as pointing at everything by pursing their lips. I just fear that still waters run deep, and my sweet little wife may turn into a she-devil one night flashing a bolo knife.

[Mariye & Ky 172]

She will gain confidence over time. Some of the things we Kano's take for granted as normal banter hit the Filipina right in the heart. Sometimes the insecure submissive thing gets old, but it is a cultural defense mechanism that is learned about the same time as pointing at everything by pursing their lips. I just fear that still waters run deep, and my sweet little wife may turn into a she-devil one night flashing a bolo knife.

LOL...... with love,

Tita Mari

[Mariye & Ky 172]

Part Two: Translation when the Kano or Haoli boy doesn't understand what exactly we mean when we point our lips!

Love From Us,

The Am/Flip Girls! lol

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Part Two: Translation when the Kano or Haoli boy doesn't understand what exactly we mean when we point our lips!

Love From Us,

The Am/Flip Girls! lol

Is "Auntie" born a boy, or girl? She looks a little bakla to me.