While waiting for your step/daughter/son

[sjr09 155]

"not to get him so many toys because he will not know which one to enjoy most"

The parent is the child's first and most important toy! Your on the path of teaching the child that material things is what will make him happy in life.

Attempting to fill the gap with a piece of plastic usually backfires. When children have no limits and have always had whatever they want with no sense of worth, then everything becomes worthless and meaningless to them. And unfortunately, in your desire to give this child 'everything', in your own words you can create a situation where they appreciate and value nothing. You had stated you have no children, look into a parenting skills class.

I think that is what she wants to prevent. She wants to teach him how to appreciate things. So little by little I am learning my lesson. I just feel bad for them. They are coming from such a far country and leaving behind their love ones. I want their staying as pleasantly as possible. I would not like them to be bored, homesick, nor depressed.

FYI they will feel homesick you can't do much about it, buy thing will only be a quick but short term fix. In time the "bored, homesick, nor depressed" should pass.

[sjr09 155]

The best thing for homesickness and depression is a lot of hugs and understanding.

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

I just feel bad for them. They are coming from such a far country and leaving behind their love ones. I want their staying as pleasantly as possible. I would not like them to be bored, homesick, nor depressed.

They don't need you to feel bad for them, they need you to help them with the adjustment as it will be difficult.

Honestly, until you accept the fact that despite your best efforts they will feel scared, lonely & homesick all you're going to do is make the situation worse. It is nothing that you can fix and your efforts to fix will cause problems. All you can do is be supportive & understanding, don't take it personally when they are expressing sadness or being homesick.

[jrmejia 31]

We will see. I just can't wait to see them here. I have few things on my agenda.

I hope it works out for the best.

[Otto 83]

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[jamster 31]

Yes, my fiancee keeps on telling me that and I don't listen to her. But I am getting better at it.

a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step