While waiting for your step/daughter/son

[jrmejia 31]

That's a double negative.

Who said your question was "improper"?

Depends on the circumstances but, if you are "afraid", then I suggest you get some expert guidance. Just an .

You don't know me. Why do you assume I am incapable of understanding "the situation"?

Was that a sneaky way of calling me stupid?

That's a rhetorical question right?

I gave up on you, no matter how politely I answer your question you always have something negative to dig. So I have no idea how to reply to your questions now?

[Eric-Pris 1,607]

I have a BIG problem. I cannot stop thinking about the kid. I am confused. Sometimes I do not know if I am waiting for M'e or her kid.

When I go to the malls, I do not think much about her. I think about the kid. If I see anything cute, I want to get it for him. I already started to buy him things for when he comes. I am attaching a pictures of some of the toys I already bought him. Everything in his upcoming bedroom is new. From Bed, WALL-LCD TV for his game box, desk, PC, TO spider man underwear. I mean everything!

My reaction to this post is similar to what Vi-jay wrote. Honestly, the wording you used seems kind of creepy. The statement about thinking only about the kid and not the woman is scary. While you probably (sorry, I don't know you) made the statements out of love, making statements like this is pretty dangerous. In these times, people love to take a statement like this and run with it. Before you know it, child protective service is taking your kid away to "protect" him.

You do not realize how those words (made by an adult man about a little boy), if taken out of context, can be construed as pedophilia.

[Vi-Jay 218]

I gave up on you, no matter how politely I answer your question you always have something negative to dig. So I have no idea how to reply to your questions now?

If my memory is correct, This is the first time you and I have interacted.

"Always have something negative to dig"? That's an embellishment.

I was trying to be helpful You characterize me as a chronic negative digger?

I have feelers just like anyone else. Lot's and lot's of feelers. and I think you are trying to hurt some of my feelers.

[jrmejia 31]

My reaction to this post is similar to what Vi-jay wrote. Honestly, the wording you used seems kind of creepy. The statement about thinking only about the kid and not the woman is scary. While you probably (sorry, I don't know you) made the statements out of love, making statements like this is pretty dangerous. In these times, people love to take a statement like this and run with it. Before you know it, child protective service is taking your kid away to "protect" him.

You do not realize how those words (made by an adult man about a little boy), if taken out of context, can be construed as pedophilia.

only someone with a very dirty mind, like in this case you, would disrespect some one so much. Please be careful what you write. You can easily get in trouble with your post. I should I could send your accusation to higher authority.

[Ban Hammer 13,620]

only someone with a very dirty mind, like in this case you, would disrespect some one so much. Please be careful what you write. You can easily get in trouble with your post. I should I could send your accusation to higher authority.

i tend to agree with that poster and i don't find his post to be malicious, just cautionary.

these days it pays to be a bit prudent, reconsider how that sentence appears to the average reader.

Edited June 6, 2011 by charles!

[jrmejia 31]

i tend to agree with that poster and i don't find his post to be malicious, just cautionary.

these days it pays to be a bit prudent, reconsider how that sentence appears to the average reader.

Well, the are two way to interpret my post:

Those who are respectful and decent mind

We see it in a much different way (in this case my group) I appreciate those who think my actions are out of love, compassion, and respect for the kid who does not have a father and need a father in his life.

For those with dirty mind...up to them what they believe and go about in life. Some people are what they believe and write. So if you guys believe such? then, it is up to you and your mind. IF YOU JOIN THEM not my problem.

Edited June 6, 2011 by jrmejia

[sunandmoon 450]

it's the wording of your post. not, as you put it, having a "decent" or "dirty" mind. you just don't get it...

Edited June 6, 2011 by sunandmoon

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

it's the wording of your post. not, as you put it, having a "decent" or "dirty" mind. you just don't get it...

A question..why doesn't he "get it"?

[Eric-Pris 1,607]

Well, the are two way to interpret my post:

Those who are respectful and decent mind

We see it in a much different way (in this case my group) I appreciate those who think my actions are out of love, compassion, and respect for the kid who does not have a father and need a father in his life.

For those with dirty mind...up to them what they believe and go about in life. Some people are what they believe and write. So if you guys believe such? then, it is up to you and your mind. IF YOU JOIN THEM not my problem.

Why are you so defensive? If you post a question, you have to be ready for honest replies. It's great that others have focused on discussing cooking rice or fighting with each other rather than answer your question, but I simply stated my reaction to what you posted. Take or leave it, as you please.

Nobody is accusing you of anything or saying that your intentions are less than honorable. What I said was that the wording you used can be misinterpreted as something other than what you meant. You don't have to have a dirty mind to know that saying "I cannot stop thinking about the kid. I am confused. Sometimes I do not know if I am waiting for M'e or her kid." can be dangerous in these times.

If you don't see how this statement can be misintepreted by law enforcement or a social worker, than you need to get out of that bubble you live in.

Edited June 6, 2011 by Eric-Pris

[jrmejia 31]

Why are you so defensive? If you post a question, you have to be ready for honest replies. It's great that others have focused on discussing cooking rice or fighting with each other rather than answer your question, but I simply stated my reaction to what you posted. Take or leave it, as you please.

Nobody is accusing you of anything or saying that your intentions are less than honorable. What I said was that the wording you used can be misinterpreted as something other than what you meant. You don't have to have a dirty mind to know that saying "I cannot stop thinking about the kid. I am confused. Sometimes I do not know if I am waiting for M'e or her kid." can be dangerous in these times.

If you don't see how this statement can be misintepreted by law enforcement or a social worker, than you need to open your eyes a little.

Yes but some of you are getting out of hands with your gross, dirty, pervert, and low life way of thinking. Why cannot a step father love his step son with all his love?

Let keep this with professionalism or respect. If not, please do not waste your time.

I do not go down to your level either you change this topic or some yourself some typing. But do not include me in your lowlife thinking

Just too gross and low life for my taste..sorry to repeat it.

Edited June 6, 2011 by jrmejia

[sunandmoon 450]

Why cannot a step father love his step son with all his love?

who said you couldn't...?

[jrmejia 31]

who said you couldn't...?

Just read the above messages. Some of the guys are writing very ugly, dis-respectful, grows posts.

But them I repeat the same "If that is what they think? it has to be because inside their mind process they think about very gross things and they are what they think"

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

Yes but some of you are getting out of hands with your gross, dirty, pervert, and low life way of thinking. Why cannot a step father love his step son with all his love?

Let keep this with professionalism or respect. If not, please do not waste your time.

I do not go down to your level either you change this topic or some yourself some typing. But do not include me in your lowlife thinking

Just too gross and low life for my taste..sorry to repeat it.

Personal attacks?

[Ban Hammer 13,620]

I do not go down to your level either you change this topic or some yourself some typing. But do not include me in your lowlife thinking

make it personal one more time and this thread will wind up just like some of your other ones - last warning.

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

make it personal one more time and this thread will wind up just like some of your other ones - last warning.