While waiting for your step/daughter/son

[jrmejia 31]

Hello guys,

Initially I applied for a K1-visa for my fiance and everything was going fine. She has a 6yrs old kid and we are planning to bring the kid to live with us when she comes.

I have a BIG problem. I cannot stop thinking about the kid. I am confused. Sometimes I do not know if I am waiting for M'e or her kid.

When I go to the malls, I do not think much about her. I think about the kid. If I see anything cute, I want to get it for him. I already started to buy him things for when he comes. I am attaching a pictures of some of the toys I already bought him. Everything in his upcoming bedroom is new. From Bed, WALL-LCD TV for his game box, desk, PC, TO spider man underwear. I mean everything!

I am also getting him a college fund and things like that. What is wrong or right with me. Why am I loving this kid this much. Is this dangerous?

I am so confused about all this Maybe it is because he will be my first kid?

What do you guys feel about your upcoming step/daughter/son?

I cannot wait to hear your comments.

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[Dine 1]

Hello guys,

Initially I applied for a K1-visa for my fiance and everything was going fine. She has a 6yrs old kid and we are planning to bring the kid to live with us when she comes.

I have a BIG problem. I cannot stop thinking about the kid. I am confused. Sometimes I do not know if I am waiting for M'e or her kid.

When I go to the malls, I do not think much about her. I think about the kid. If I see anything cute, I want to get it for him. I already started to buy him things for when he comes. I am attaching a pictures of some of the toys I already bought him. Everything in his upcoming bedroom is new. From Bed, WALL-LCD TV for his game box, desk, PC, TO spider man underwear. I mean everything!

I am also getting him a college fund and things like that. What is wrong or right with me. Why am I loving this kid this much. Is this dangerous?

I am so confused about all this Maybe it is because he will be my first kid?

What do you guys feel about your upcoming step/daughter/son?

I cannot wait to hear your comments.

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I don't have children of my own, and I don't know if it's dangerous, but this is very sweet of you. I hope you and the will come to have a good relationship.

All the best!

[jrmejia 31]

I don't have children of my own, and I don't know if it's dangerous, but this is very sweet of you. I hope you and the will come to have a good relationship.

All the best!

Thank you for your kind wishes. I know they are coming from a far country. I am trying to find a way to make their staying home comfortable. Trying to do my best to avoid them from getting homesick, depressed, or bored. I am giving them my two cents, it is up to them if they enjoy what I have to offer them? We will see. Of course my love is included as part of the package.

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[sjr09 155]

Buy a good rice cooker and a big bag of rice! Both of them love that.

[jrmejia 31]

Buy a good rice cooker and a big bag of rice! Both of them love that.

We talked about her jasmin rice. Also, she needs a deep fryer. I do not fry but I am sure it is part of her culture to fry.

[rlogan 2,036]

I have a BIG problem. I cannot stop thinking about the kid. I am confused. Sometimes I do not know if I am waiting for M'e or her kid.

Do they have names? It is a rhetorical question you have posted of course. Am I too good of a guy?

When I go to the malls, I do not think much about her. I think about the kid.

Mostly I thought about my wife's fanny, and after two kids I am still not confused

I did post in another thread that we would see profuse declarations of devotion for the kid. A long term theme developed. The problem is we have incomplete or unreliable information. But relationships are mostly about communication and trust. Do you deal with them squarely? Above-board and with clear, open communication? Honestly? Because you can take them to Disneyland after the point has been forced that one, the other, or both parents have been and continue to be deceptively manipulative with someone else. Disneyland will not change the position they are in, and it won't make them happy.

Kids can integrate fine into a healthy environment. It's a train wreck with an unhealthy environment.

[jrmejia 31]

Do they have names? It is a rhetorical question you have posted of course. Am I too good of a guy?

Mostly I thought about my wife's fanny, and after two kids I am still not confused

I did post in another thread that we would see profuse declarations of devotion for the kid. A long term theme developed. The problem is we have incomplete or unreliable information. But relationships are mostly about communication and trust. Do you deal with them squarely? Above-board and with clear, open communication? Honestly? Because you can take them to Disneyland after the point has been forced that one, the other, or both parents have been and continue to be deceptively manipulative with someone else. Disneyland will not change the position they are in, and it won't make them happy.

Kids can integrate fine into a healthy environment. It's a train wreck with an unhealthy environment.

Before I answer: A wine is not fine if it is not aged.

Now back to your follow-up:

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To the first question: it is up to the individual if he wants to give out the names of his love ones. The beauty of life is that people have choices. So do I? For now I like and enjoy using the name "her kid" to refer to my soon to be step son!

Anyway, yes Disneyland is a good idea but that is an after effect. I can not bring them to D.L yet. They are not physically here. I know some parents take their kids to D.L because they are not giving their kids enough love and that is a guilt payment. I am not unsure if that is the answer you are expecting from me.

-- Like always, I enjoy your posts ..sorry about your horrible past.

Not all the fish are cut with the same knife.

Happy posting.

Edited June 5, 2011 by jrmejia

[sjr09 155]

We talked about her jasmin rice. Also, she needs a deep fryer. I do not fry but I am sure it is part of her culture to fry.

Soon part of your culture, also think about buying some cheap pots and pans ( not the Teflon kind) if you have quality cook ware trust me, If you can make a dirty kitchen out doors for the frying/cooking it may be beneficial, I love fish but some of the dried fish will stink up the house for days and the splattering greases is a pain to clean up. FYI you cant stick a hole tilapia or much of anything, in most deep fryers sold in store. buy 18" or bigger wok.

[jrmejia 31]

Soon part of your culture, also think about buying some cheap pots and pans ( not the Teflon kind) if you have quality cook ware trust me, If you can make a dirty kitchen out doors for the frying/cooking it may be beneficial, I love fish but some of the dried fish will stink up the house for days and the splattering greases is a pain to clean up. FYI you cant stick a hole tilapia or much of anything, in most deep fryers sold in store. buy 18" or bigger wok.

My sister is into cooking. She already gave me a set of Emeril Hard Anodized Nonstick 10-Piece Cookware Set. They should be pretty good for non-stick cookware.

They are all happy waiting for them. As they say, part of the extended family. *warning*

Edited June 5, 2011 by jrmejia

[B_J 2,752]

I know some parents take their kids to D.L because they are not giving their kids enough love and that is a guilt payment. I am not unsure if that is the answer you are expecting from me.

That's classic. Anybody who takes their kids to disney land is doing it out of guilt. But you've already admitted to buying your new kid everything. In your own words, "From Bed, WALL-LCD TV for his game box, desk, PC, TO spider man underwear. I mean everything!"

Of course, when other people do something for their kids, you label it as guilt, but what you're doing is love, in your own words, "Why am I loving this kid this much"

By the way, I'm pretty sure that's the type of answer he expected from you. He seems to have you figured out.

[jrmejia 31]

That's classic. Anybody who takes their kids to disney land is doing it out of guilt. But you've already admitted to buying your new kid everything. In your own words, "From Bed, WALL-LCD TV for his game box, desk, PC, TO spider man underwear. I mean everything!"

Of course, when other people do something for their kids, you label it as guilt, but what you're doing is love, in your own words, "Why am I loving this kid this much"

By the way, I'm pretty sure that's the type of answer he expected from you. He seems to have you figured out.

You are twisting my post. ...some parents do things because they love their kids. If I said anything not supporting that, I apologize.

Yes, I am loving this kid too much. I do not know nor not sure if that is healthy or not. I wish I had the answer. In the mean time, I will just keep on loving him.

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Edited June 5, 2011 by jrmejia

[rlogan 2,036]

Before I answer: A wine is not fine if it is not aged.

Good to throw one of these great insights from left field in there. Deep. huh? The snake with one eye is his brother's viper.

it is up to the individual if he wants to give out the names of his love ones. The beauty of life is that people have choices. So do I? For now I like and enjoy using the name "her kid" to refer to my soon to be step son!

Fair enough. Ok how about their ss numbers? Kidding! I do not feel like I have any reliable information on them, that's all. Natural to want to know someone's name. Some people have pics too. Those are concrete things though - a name and a face.

Anyway, yes Disneyland is a good idea but that is an after effect. I can not bring them to D.L yet. They are not physically here. I know some parents take their kids to D.L because they are not giving their kids enough love and that is a guilt payment. I am not unsure if that is the answer you are expecting from me.

Or as a guilt-trip on them: I brought you to disneyland so kiss my butt now. Or to divert attention from molesting them, yeah. Obviously you are not doing that. We just get information that is incomplete so the toys and stuff - hard to evaluate. Lots of professions of love, OK I hear you repeating that. They aren't even here and I have no data on previous history with the kid. Previous fathers or not, whatever - it matters.

What is the date they are coming? I thought it was going to be in June, first week, which is now for at least one of the jr identities. Then there was a delay or something?

-- Like always, I enjoy your posts ..sorry about your horrible past.

Ha ha. This is why I find your posts entertaining. This really did crack me, up thanks. It's still horrible being a sex slave to this 23 year old. I am not so sure why it is relevant.

Not all the fish are cut with the same knife.

Happy posting.

And not all the cakes are baked by the same chef. Whatever. Great entertainment on a Sunday. Gonna Bar-B-Que some pork ribs and read some internet mystery-drama.

[jrmejia 31]

Good to throw one of these great insights from left field in there. Deep. huh? The snake with one eye is his brother's viper.

Fair enough. Ok how about their ss numbers? Kidding! I do not feel like I have any reliable information on them, that's all. Natural to want to know someone's name. Some people have pics too. Those are concrete things though - a name and a face.

Or as a guilt-trip on them: I brought you to disneyland so kiss my butt now. Or to divert attention from molesting them, yeah. Obviously you are not doing that. We just get information that is incomplete so the toys and stuff - hard to evaluate. Lots of professions of love, OK I hear you repeating that. They aren't even here and I have no data on previous history with the kid. Previous fathers or not, whatever - it matters.

What is the date they are coming? I thought it was going to be in June, first week, which is now for at least one of the jr identities. Then there was a delay or something?

Ha ha. This is why I find your posts entertaining. This really did crack me, up thanks. It's still horrible being a sex slave to this 23 year old. I am not so sure why it is relevant.

And not all the cakes are baked by the same chef. Whatever. Great entertainment on a Sunday. Gonna Bar-B-Que some pork ribs and read some internet mystery-drama.

1. I never said she was coming in June. I think all my most indicate we are working on the kid's k2.

2. Why do I need to show pictures of my family? Oh yes, I see pictures of your family on your avatar.

3. So you want to know about her kid and her past? Is that information relevant?

I am sorry you had such a bad experience in your past. Got it love it why some people think that whatever happened to them *NEED* to happen to others.

Some coconuts are banged on the floor to crack them open whilst others are cut with a knife.

I enjoy reading your posts. They are so 'unserious' funny!

*warning* HAPPY BACK TO SCHOOL DAY

[rlogan 2,036]

1. I never said she was coming in June.

It was suggested you had a sockpuppet saying so, and that's why I am asking. No big deal, just trying to see the timeframe and establish some kind of foundation for your interactions to date with him.

I think all my most indicate we are working on the kid's k2.

Again, not a big deal but the time frame expected would help alongside information like if you have met at all yet and what kind of time exposure, what things you did, what the issues were if any - there's no information here. If you were more devoted to him than the coming wife and have never met him, then is that "dangerous" like you ask - well it is a bit delusional. If you have spent a lot of time with him already and are best buddies then that is not bizarre, no.

2. Why do I need to show pictures of my family? Oh yes, I see pictures of your family on your avatar.

Some have said you are not for real. I haven't. But that would certainly be decisive. Pictures. I'm proud of my wife, you know so yeah I show pictures.

3. So you want to know about her kid and her past? Is that information relevant?

Let's say the kid burned his school down and robbed a bank by kindergarten as example #1. Example #2 is the kid tested 163 IQ and is already a concert violinist. Going to med school for sure, etc. You are pretending information doesn't matter. Being coy about what kind of interaction you have had if any.

Ribs are doing good though so I'll be back after I turn them over.

I am sorry you had such a bad experience in your past. Got it love it why some people think that whatever happened to them *NEED* to happen to others.

Some coconuts are banged on the floor to crack them open whilst others are cut with a knife.

I enjoy reading your posts. They are so 'unserious' funny!

*warning* HAPPY BACK TO SCHOOL DAY

Wise man sayeth do not go where every other man die.

[B_J 2,752]

The snake with one eye is his brother's viper.