what to do when the distance drives you apart?

[KarenCee 3]

What do you do when you both have lives that are too busy to spend hours in front of a webcam anymore, and you go days without any contact but a few texts here an there, and you talk and feel like strangers on the phone?

How do you re-connect?

What will you do once you are together? Will you still be this busy? I'm not trying to sound critical, but is there some way you can put aside some of those things that make you both too busy to be with each other? If you can't now, you might not be able to when you're finally together.

it's hard to put aside work....especially when you need it in order to live.

I can sympathize. Work can get crazy sometimes.

But I have to ask, is that the only thing that's keeping you so busy?

If it really is just work, maybe you oughta consider changing how you two communicate. Switch from cam2cam to text msging perhaps?

I agree with that....I work two jobs. I worked the same two jobs while my husband and I were apart. We found the time. We HAD to, to keep the relationship alive. To us, it was a matter of what was more important.

I know one has to work to live. Believe me, I know that, I was a single mom. Now, until Joel is able to get his EAD and look for work, I am still working both jobs. We still find time to be together when we're home.

Changing the way you communicate might be the answer. Might be worth looking into, eh?

[Welshcookie 17]

Ditto. You can make the same mistake when together, too. You'll just have to make time for each other. Re-examine those priorities.

much wiseness my friend.......not even sure if wiseness is a word but you have have it anyway.....*runs away quickly from the appointed VJ spelling and grammer 'police'*

[JenT 0]

Ditto. You can make the same mistake when together, too. You'll just have to make time for each other. Re-examine those priorities.

much wiseness my friend.......not even sure if wiseness is a word but you have have it anyway.....*runs away quickly from the appointed VJ spelling and grammer 'police'*

how about 'wisdom'?

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Ditto. You can make the same mistake when together, too. You'll just have to make time for each other. Re-examine those priorities.

much wiseness my friend.......not even sure if wiseness is a word but you have have it anyway.....*runs away quickly from the appointed VJ spelling and grammer 'police'*

how about 'wisdom'?

The grammar police are on the scene!

[Welshcookie 17]

Ditto. You can make the same mistake when together, too. You'll just have to make time for each other. Re-examine those priorities.

much wiseness my friend.......not even sure if wiseness is a word but you have have it anyway.....*runs away quickly from the appointed VJ spelling and grammer 'police'*

how about 'wisdom'?

oh #######......... ........

[KarenCee 3]

OOOOO! I want one of those badges!

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Ditto. You can make the same mistake when together, too. You'll just have to make time for each other. Re-examine those priorities.

much wiseness my friend.......not even sure if wiseness is a word but you have have it anyway.....*runs away quickly from the appointed VJ spelling and grammer 'police'*

how about 'wisdom'?

oh #######......... ........

I bet you thought you were gonna get away....

You can run, but you can't hide. The grammar police will git ya.

[Welshcookie 17]

I was testing and seeing if you (or y'all) were still awake loike......

[JenT 0]

Must be an example for the next posting generation, you see. Big responsibility.

[Ta Ta 1]

Sometimes it is not about the " feeling " but all about the tenacious committment to be together,

to build a life, a future on the foundation of love. Feelings are just feelings. On a bad day they can be all over the place from discouragement about this stupid slow process to new found hope and excitement.

Keep an even keel , put a priority on your relationship and keep the fire burning with as much communication as you can. Send a sultry e-card, email, whatever it takes......just don't take any love for granted ......appreciate and nourish it to make it grow .....sustain it with creative ideas.

Balance your work time and ask yourself if this process has discouraged you and made you "feel" emotionally distant from your SO.

[luvaLimey 0]

There's some good advice here. Thanks.

XD and thanks for making me laugh, too! We haven't given up. I'm still here, he's still there and we still love each other, we just have some work to do to keep that up, I think.

[JenT 0]

There's some good advice here. Thanks.

XD and thanks for making me laugh, too! We haven't given up. I'm still here, he's still there and we still love each other, we just have some work to do to keep that up, I think.

Figuring out how to get past these little bumps will go a long way toward strengthening what you are building together. Good that you are recognizing the challenge you're facing and not dismissing it!

Jen

[iceyspots 0]

yes if your schedules are hectic I'd recommend setting aside a period of time each day to talk to eachother. or make one for every other day or what not. Text if there is a change in schedule. lol.. you can do it like the one cell phone commercial where the father and the daughter are bidding over the time she is going to come home... do your best to comprimise and I think it is great that you have acknowledged the issue instead of ignoring it and let it go until it becomes a big problem. Wishing the best for you

me and yacine have been trying our best to hold onto our communication because of the crazy schedules we are starting to have as well. he is working 12 hour days and my classes and sleep time have changed so no more late nite chats for us...

I've also been sooo busy packing up boxes and moving and helping remodel our house... it gets insane but we've set aside our reserved talk time.

[incanada1234 0]

We don't let ourselves get so busy that we are not a priority for each other.

Jen

Ditto. You can make the same mistake when together, too. You'll just have to make time for each other. Re-examine those priorities.

AJ...i just love that little soul you let us see once in a while....*grins*

It's a rare gem indeed.

Rebecca and Steven, you guys have something brown on your noses...

[rebeccajo 14]

We don't let ourselves get so busy that we are not a priority for each other.

Jen

Ditto. You can make the same mistake when together, too. You'll just have to make time for each other. Re-examine those priorities.

AJ...i just love that little soul you let us see once in a while....*grins*

It's a rare gem indeed.

Rebecca and Steven, you guys have something brown on your noses...

Not me. AJ knows I'm ribbin' him...