expedite info (help)

[DeeDee&Sam 68]

DeeDee I am sooo sorry and shocked to learn this about your situation especially after seeing you posts in the March filers group! You and Sam are both 21, is he being

Co-Sponsored at all by his father? I think the first thing you need to do is find someone you can stay with and see if Sam can help you make some sort of deal with them to let you stay there for the time you will have to wait for your NOA2 and then interview and visa. I am not sure if an expedite will just help get your NOA2 faster or if it will be an expedite at the embassy also.

Sam could try contacting the congressman living in his district and explain the situation to see if he can help. But even if he could, for sure you will need a place to live and food to eat. So worry about that and your health before anything cause you need that to get thru the rest of this.

Good luck and we're praying for you in the March thread!

i didnt want to say it in there. is good to keep the other people in there happy and make them forget about noa2 for a while we dont have a co-sponsor, he makes enough money at work to support 2 people but 2 people living togheter. but still now im not so sure i want him to do this, i dont wanna get our petition denied. i dunno

sam said: my father is a low life bum who hasnt even tried to talk to me since i was 8 years old

Edited May 29, 2011 by DeeDee&Sam

[Que Saudade 284]

he's helping me, i would be dead by now if he wouldnt have helped me. he sent me money for food and everytime i get some energy i go and buy but i cant go out very often. and im still living at my grandma waiting to get kicked out whenever she's in the mood to do it, she doesnt even let me to use the kitchen. he is saving to get here in july if he rents me an apartment no chance he'll be able to get the plane ticket. we're both on this account, it was me who posted it because i know better what happened and when is about talking to people im more open. he's a very good guy.

I am sure he is an excellent guy. But think about your current situation versus him coming in July. It is quite reasonable to say that even if he does come, you may be homeless by then or worse (heaven forbid). Since your current situation is so volatile, where will he stay when he gets there? Doesn't sound like he will be welcomed there at your grandmothers. Maybe it is better for you guys to think long term survival versus short term. Give up the trip in July to save your physical well being. Get yourself stabilized and safe. Then work towards him coming when it is time for your interview. Unfortunately, sometimes life demands that we make very difficult choices. But, your safety and well being is absolutely the most important thing. If you don't survive, then there is no relationship down the road. Just think about it.....

The expedition process is going to be extremely difficult with a very low chance of success and as I already mentioned, expedition does not mean right away. Your application is only the first step towards your ability to apply for the K1.

I am very sorry about your situation and I wish you and your fiance nothing but the best. You guys need to talk and make some tough decisions. Good Luck

[LookyWhatIFound 38]

i didnt want to say it in there. is good to keep the other people in there happy and make them forget about noa2 for a while we dont have a co-sponsor, he makes enough money at work to support 2 people but 2 people living togheter. but still now im not so sure i want him to do this, i dont wanna get our petition denied. i dunno

sam said: my father is a low life bum who hasnt even tried to talk to me since i was 8 years old

Yes that was good idea not mentioning it there in the thread. Especially cause nobody can really do anything to help. Well I'm also sorry to hear about Sams father. Ooh this sucks , keep up the faith and try to keep your grandmother happy so she doesn't try to do that to you again. My fiance is a Russian from Latvia so I have seen how some can get over there in eastern europe, especially with the job situation and all in those countries. Best of luck to you!

[W&M 12]

I would have to agree with most of the reply's. Taking care of another human being is a very big responsibility. It is not test driving someting with the option of putting it back should things not work out. The K1 journey presents many challanges, these issues include the financial ability to care for your fiance in any situation. If I had to make the choice between a plane ticket or a place for my fiance to eat and sleep, I would definitely choose the latter. You said your fiance is saving money to fly there. If you do not mind me asking, where will you both stay when he arrives? I definitely wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out.

[Andie 147]

I agree with others who suggest you need to be out of your present situation and find a safe place to stay. Your safety and health are the priority so this is most urgent. If Sam's father can help with funds to help pay for your support at a friend's house you may be able to sustain this for long enough until the visa is either expedited or processed in the normal timeframe. At least you would be safe.

[Andie 147]

Yes that was good idea not mentioning it there in the thread. Especially cause nobody can really do anything to help. Well I'm also sorry to hear about Sams father. Ooh this sucks , keep up the faith and try to keep your grandmother happy so she doesn't try to do that to you again. My fiance is a Russian from Latvia so I have seen how some can get over there in eastern europe, especially with the job situation and all in those countries. Best of luck to you!

ooh .. ok, just saw this... so still think the safety is the priority and if you can find a safe house and Sam's airfare money goes towards paying for this, it is a better approach than trying for an expedite which doesn't sound likely. At least you will be ok and will be in a better position to wait out the K1 processing time. Even VSC is a little quicker than it has been so you may be one of the lucky ones... all the best.

[DeeDee&Sam 68]

i agree with everything you guys say. when he came here we didnt even bother to stay at my grandma, we took a rent. she likes him, when he was here we ate here a few times, and she never complained about him not even after he left. my dad doesnt like him, but he hates eveyone. sam always has put me in first place. today he said he could work overtime so he can afford both and i feel so bad for him cause he works so much and he's always tired. if he misses july he wont be able to leave until christmas because of work... still i kinda changed my mind about expedite. id rather stay like this for months and be approved than get rejected because USCIS is so paranoid about everything that moves.

Edited May 29, 2011 by DeeDee&Sam

[thelastpetitioner 218]

i agree with everything you guys say. when he came here we didnt even bother to stay at my grandma, we took a rent. she likes him, when he was here we ate here a few times, and she never complained about him not even after he left. my dad doesnt like him, but he hates eveyone. sam always has put me in first place. today he said he could work overtime so he can afford both and i feel so bad for him cause he works so much and he's always tired. if he misses july he wont be able to leave until christmas because of work... still i kinda changed my mind about expedite. id rather stay like this for months and be approved than get rejected because USCIS is so paranoid about everything that moves.

sweetie,you wont get rejected if they dont accept your expedite.even if they deny your expedite your case will still go on.from what i gathered,people just dont want you to choose between bad and worse,thats all.

expedite is everyone's right,however some people choose to abuse it,your case is different. im a ###### about expedites and i think you deserve one,so that must mean something.

have more confidence about yourself and your situation.do you guys have homeless shelters in romania?im sure you do but americans have some specifically for women.you think you could try going there?catholic churches and organizations usually help people specially women with situations like these

[Gosia & Tito 199]

i agree with everything you guys say. when he came here we didnt even bother to stay at my grandma, we took a rent. she likes him, when he was here we ate here a few times, and she never complained about him not even after he left. my dad doesnt like him, but he hates eveyone. sam always has put me in first place. today he said he could work overtime so he can afford both and i feel so bad for him cause he works so much and he's always tired. if he misses july he wont be able to leave until christmas because of work... still i kinda changed my mind about expedite. id rather stay like this for months and be approved than get rejected because USCIS is so paranoid about everything that moves.

I am so sorry to read what's going on. I am well aware of how things are sometimes in Eastern/Central Europe, as my fiancee is Polish.

My advice would be also to skip the July trip, as difficult as this decision would be. Your safety and life is priority number 1, July is the high season and the most expensive fares, then add a rental of a place for the time your fiance will be there. Your well being is the most important thing as others have pointed out. With that money, you could instead take care of your health and well being for the months until the interview.

Is there a way you can roommate with some of your friends? Remember that there is a medical exam coming up and you need to be in good shape. And there is the expense of your traveling here. December fares might be less expensive, but maybe by then you are already here.

Perhaps one thing that would help in the decision is to line up all the expenses coming up, with the scenario of the money for the July trip to be used for your safety and care instead. Sometimes it is easier to decide if you see the pros/cons in front of you. I'm sure that the best possible thing to happen is for your fiance to be there with you, but if that is not possible or difficult money-wise, then What is the 2nd best thing?

However, the final decision is yours to make. We can only make suggestions here. I wish you the best.

[Stuart and Thea 95]

Hon, I'm so sorry to hear about the crazy stuff you're having to put up with right now. I think it's great that Sam is going to work overtime to try to help you, but I don't believe that if he can't help financially that your visa shouldn't still go through. What does the government expect us to do if someone gets laid off and we fall below the poverty line anyway, say, I'm sorry, but I never would have been allowed over here with your finances so low, so I'm going home now? I also think that at your age, it's obvious that you're at the bottom of your earning potential, and things won't always be so dire. Best to let you be together so that you can make a proper go of it. As to the expedite, I'm not sure that you'll have proper evidence for them to grant it, for the reasons stated above.

I'm mostly concerned with your health and well-being though, you said that you're tired all the time and not eating, that your having to rest etc... Have you been to a clinic to be tested? Better to know ahead of time if you have some kind of communicable disease like Tuberculosis and start treatment before your medical exam, you wouldn't want to be denied for something like that, not that they would necessarily deny you either... I'm wondering as well about shelters, soup kitchens, even youth hostels, there must be somewhere more affordable for you. Do they have charity groups or welfare available to you?

Also, you said that your mom and grandmother stole your money from you, and are asking for more? Is this extortion? Or do they feel that you owe them for food and shelter and took by force your money? I'd be worried about them continuing to take from you as it gets closer to interview time, as you will need that money for your medical, police check and the interview itself. Can Sam cover all those things online? I'd look into it, as well as having him pay for any rent or bills he's said he's gonna pay for online. If you don't have any cash in person, no one can steal it, right?

Hugs to you both, and keep well hon, but please go to a doctor to see why you're so tired and weak, I'm worried about you.

[Ready to do it 101]

I agree with most of the posts, but I do not really agree with this post. WE do not know if the petition would be denied at the CO if the expedite is not accepted. Afterall, a CO can and will deny a petition if they aren't 100% certain that the petitioner is able to support his fiance. I read a lot online about the history of affadvits of support last night. A CO CAN deny a visa even if petitioner meets the 125% poverty level. If it were me, I would never ever do anything to raise any red flags with your petition. Simply requesting an expedite and offering all the information you have provided us COULD raise flags with a CO. Afterall, general thinking is it is much less costly to support a person in her homeland than it will be for a petitioner to support his fiance in the US. I realize it's 2 separate rents etc., however you yourself have stated that your fiance has sent you $200/month to survive etc. If you offer that information to the CO that it only takes $200/month to support you, and your fiance cannot provide this... guess what. I'm simply stating that given the odds of you being expedited, you can do much more harm than good by requesting it IMO.

sweetie,you wont get rejected if they dont accept your expedite.even if they deny your expedite your case will still go on.from what i gathered,people just dont want you to choose between bad and worse,thats all.

expedite is everyone's right,however some people choose to abuse it,your case is different. im a ###### about expedites and i think you deserve one,so that must mean something.

have more confidence about yourself and your situation.do you guys have homeless shelters in romania?im sure you do but americans have some specifically for women.you think you could try going there?catholic churches and organizations usually help people specially women with situations like these

[DeeDee&Sam 68]

I agree with most of the posts, but I do not really agree with this post. WE do not know if the petition would be denied at the CO if the expedite is not accepted. Afterall, a CO can and will deny a petition if they aren't 100% certain that the petitioner is able to support his fiance. I read a lot online about the history of affadvits of support last night. A CO CAN deny a visa even if petitioner meets the 125% poverty level. If it were me, I would never ever do anything to raise any red flags with your petition. Simply requesting an expedite and offering all the information you have provided us COULD raise flags with a CO. Afterall, general thinking is it is much less costly to support a person in her homeland than it will be for a petitioner to support his fiance in the US. I realize it's 2 separate rents etc., however you yourself have stated that your fiance has sent you $200/month to survive etc. If you offer that information to the CO that it only takes $200/month to support you, and your fiance cannot provide this... guess what. I'm simply stating that given the odds of you being expedited, you can do much more harm than good by requesting it IMO.

thats exactly why we quit the idea of an expedite now. plus we have to wait around 3 more months or maybe less, the proofs and everything else and the decision of uscis wouldnt change the date much since i dont think it would be a nvc and embassy expedite as well. for a small difference is not worth to risk our whole petition.

@Thea: there's no way we will cancel our petition. once im there im sure it will be way better than here. he meets more than 125% poverty level but as i said 2 rents, 2 rows of taxes, everything divided to 2 makes a big difference compared to 1. giving up would kill us. we know eachother for more than 6 years if we dont do it now we'll never do it. we couldnt take the process all over again from the beggining

i needed some medical assistance yesterday. seems i got an iron deficency anemia thats why i dont have any energy. so now sam's trying to stuff me with fruits and vegetables. i scared grandma saying sam's coming here so she backed off instantly. she knows how mad he gets

[Stuart and Thea 95]

@Thea: there's no way we will cancel our petition. once im there im sure it will be way better than here. he meets more than 125% poverty level but as i said 2 rents, 2 rows of taxes, everything divided to 2 makes a big difference compared to 1. giving up would kill us. we know eachother for more than 6 years if we dont do it now we'll never do it. we couldnt take the process all over again from the beggining

i needed some medical assistance yesterday. seems i got an iron deficency anemia thats why i dont have any energy. so now sam's trying to stuff me with fruits and vegetables. i scared grandma saying sam's coming here so she backed off instantly. she knows how mad he gets

I know you won't cancel hon, I'm just saying that no way should the government, or people on here for that matter, say that because he can't pay two rents etc that he shouldn't be able to still support you once you get there, and in your case, love aside, it will be much much better for you once you get there.

I'm really glad you went to see the doctor. Given your nutritional deficiencies, it's likely that the anemia is from poor diet, and you should start feeling better. I hope they suggested you take a supplement. I also hope that they looked at other causes for anemia and ruled them out, that will look good when you get your physical for the visa.

as to grandma... I'm glad she's backed off, but try to still keep her and Sam away from each other as much as you can so there won't be any fights. One day in the future, you might resent him if he gets into it with family, even on your behalf, it's a weird thing that we humans do given enough time. We start to lessen the faults of others, especially family, and one day when you're in the US, you'll get a call saying grandma is gone, and you might feel warm to her and get mad at Sam for stepping in. Better you only have your own regrets, and not have him share in them. When you do get to the US, try your best to mend things with grandma as best you can for this same reason, regrets are never a nice thing, especially when you're so far from home.

As to the expedite, and putting it on hold, I think I'd feel the same as you do, and be worried it would mess things up. Better to wait the few months we have left and not risk it, especially as it seems you're in a better place now than you were when you sent the first post.

[LookyWhatIFound 38]

as i said 2 rents, 2 rows of taxes, everything divided to 2 makes a big difference compared to 1. giving up would kill us. we know eachother for more than 6 years if we dont do it now we'll never do it.

Its not only the the rents and all that, the dollar is quite low. For each dollar sent from the US its worth only about 0.70 euros. Just think how much those dollars would buy in the US compared to Romania.

I am one who believes you two can pull it out because you are both fighters and you will not quit. Like you said it would kill both of your spirits if you two were to give up on each other.

Just hold on, take care of yourself and try to keep grandma in check, or if it becomes impossible find a friend you can share a flat with or something.

Edited June 1, 2011 by LookyWhatIFound

[Andie 147]

Its not only the the rents and all that, the dollar is quite low. For each dollar sent from the US its worth only about 0.70 euros. Just think how much those dollars would buy in the US compared to Romania.

I am one who believes you two can pull it out because you are both fighters and you will not quit. Like you said it would kill both of your spirits if you two were to give up on each other.

Just hold on, take care of yourself and try to keep grandma in check, or if it becomes impossible find a friend you can share a flat with or something.

Good advice... yes, just focus on your health, your future (get anything ready you need to support your K1, to save time later), and keeping the peace at home as much as possible... and keep in touch on VJ... there are a lot of good people here that will support you as much as possible.