court-less relationship

[jrmejia 31]

Every normal person will feel that when you're in a strange place.

mmmm.....please I hope you did not say that

I hope she does not feel like a stranger in her own house (my house will be her house)

Having worked/ lived outside the Philippines won't make living in the US without getting homesick or bored, atleast for the first few months.

mmmm.....please i hope you did not say that

I thought the reason for "THEM" to come here is to experience another level of happiness to be with the one they "LOVE".

2cents

Edited May 23, 2011 by jrmejia

[sunandmoon 450]

This is a blatant hijack attempt:

another one...

[jrmejia 31]

I give you mine boys and girls: I stayed in that environment because I was thinking I could build a "NETWORK". I disobeyed the uncomfortable feeling I was feeling in that environment because I knew or thought that in the long wrong I could benefit out of "something".

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

I STAND by my *OPINION + REASONING* when love is very strong..the thing people call bored home-sick is non-existence. Yes love can be giving but when some one is in love? all those excuses disappear.

Boys & Girls I am giving you free lecture about the whole situation. Learn and analyze as much as you can while I supplies last.

Seriously JR, how old are you? You claim to have been in the US for a few decades (or am I confusing you with one of your sock-puppet accounts) but you write like a first grader...

Being bored has nothing to do with how happy you are, who you're with, if you feel loved or even how intelligent you are.

Being bored simply means that you don't have anything stimulating you intelectually at the moment. Sometimes boredom is the perfect state to be in. I love lazy boring afternoons laying on the couch cuddling my wife as the kids play in the yard.

Additonally, Love for a spouse can't replace the feeling of loss when a person moves around the world away from all of their family. Only a mentally ill person would think that they can replace a whole extended family in someone else's heart.

I find it ironic how you are attempting to project your ouw self doubts onto the rest of us, it's actually rather childish and you're not good at it either.

I watched my wife go through the difficulties of adjusting to life here with me, not once was I so insecure as to think it meant that I wasn't enough or she didn't love me. Nope, instead I understood that it meant she loves her family very much as was used to seeing them all several times a week. I would have worried more if she had no problems adjusting.

Stand by your OPINION all you want but stop trying to force us to accept it as fact and live by it. At the end of the day OPINIONS ARE LIKE BUNGHOLES, EVERYONE HAS THEIR ONE AND VERY FEW WANT TO LOOK AT YOURS!

I would also suggest that you stop trying to lecture those who have walked ahead of you on this path and maybe start listening to us regarding what to expect when your "girl" and her "kid" arrive in the US because you're in for a rude awakening young man...

[jrmejia 31]

Being bored simply means that you don't have anything stimulating you intelectually at the moment.

"intelectually" it is btw intellectually

I hope you did not say that. Read carefully what you sad. So you mean all those people has nothing to stimulate, no happiness to offer to each other, no interesting to do?

Boys and girls it is much worse.

[jrmejia 31]

For the last time guys, I did not throw a stone at any one. Why are you overreacting. Is something waking or bothering you?

Read carefully all my comments. I am not throwing stones. I stated it is my opinion. I did not know my opinions are this powerful.

my 2 cents boys and girls.

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

Every normal person will feel that when you're in a strange place.

mmmm.....please I hope you did not say that

I hope she does not feel like a stranger in her own house (my house will be her house)

Having worked/ lived outside the Philippines won't make living in the US without getting homesick or bored, atleast for the first few months.

mmmm.....please i hope you did not say that

I thought the reason for "THEM" to come here is to experience another level of happiness to be with the one they "LOVE".

2cents

I really find it amusing that you are telling a filipina who has experienced the adjustment that they are wrong and you are right...

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

I hope you did not say that. Read carefully what you sad. So you mean all those people has nothing to stimulate, no happiness to offer to each other, no interesting to do?

Boys and girls it is much worse.

JR learn to read...

Boredom has nothing to do with love or happiness, as I said and you have failed to understand:

You can be perfectly happy and completely bored at the same time, they are not mutually exclusive states of existance except for the most simple of minds....

I also think you should put a more realistic value on your posts (like maybe 2 mexican pesos).

Edited May 23, 2011 by Bob 4 Anna

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

[jrmejia 31]

Guys,

You are throwing stones at me and not reading correctly. Again, I said my opinion. We all have opinions...is that true or false?

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

I would like to ask my fellow readers a question that is very on topic as JR is offering his limited supply worldly experience here for our consumption and has even placed a value on it...

He says it's worth 2 cents (US pennies), I countered with 2 Mexican Pesos.

What would you place the value of his advice at?

[B_J 2,752]

I would like to ask my fellow readers a question that is very on topic as JR is offering his limited supply worldly experience here for our consumption and has even placed a value on it...

He says it's worth 2 cents (US pennies), I countered with 2 Mexican Pesos.

What would you place the value of his advice at?

I've got some lint in my pocket.

By the way, I would also like to know how old JR is.

Edited May 23, 2011 by B_J

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

Guys,

You are throwing stones at me and not reading correctly. Again, I said my opinion. We all have opinions...is that true or false?

You seriously need to learn both how to read and write because you are trying to IMPOSE your opinions on us and replying that OUR opinions are wrong simply because your's are right.

If you want to share your opinion feel free to do that but understand that for every one person who agrees with you there are one thousand who have differing opinions.

BTW, the definition of words is not a matter of opinion. Perfect example is the word BOREDOM, here is a definition that I like:

Boredom is a condition characterized by perception of one's environment as dull, tedious, and lacking in stimulation. This can result from leisure and a lack of aesthetic interests. Labor, however, and even art may be alienated and passive, or immersed in tedium. There is an inherent anxiety in boredom; people will expend considerable effort to prevent or remedy it, yet in many circumstances, it is accepted as suffering to be endured. Common passive ways to escape boredom are to sleep or to think creative thoughts (daydream). Typical active solutions consist in an intentional activity of some sort, often something new, as familiarity and repetition lead to the tedious.

Nowhere does it say as a result of not being in love with their partner. In fact until you came along I'd never heard of anyone saying that boredom is caused by being married to someone you don't truely, deeply love. I'e know peopl ein loveless marriages who would never be considered bored as they constantly occupied themselves with some rather intersting activities (just never included their emotioanlly absent spouse).

The universe and life in it may simply be to complex for your JR, but that it your problem not ours...

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

By the way, I would also like to know how old JR is.

I am very confident that he listed an accurate/ nearly accurate age in his profile.

[jrmejia 31]

But I wonder, more than you, why it is that this topic is bring up controversial?

It is one guy opinion but maybe a valid theory?