Anyone else get nervous at the last minute?

[evergreen 0]

I love my husband and have anxiously awaited his getting his visa so that we could be together again. We lived together for six months and it was wonderful. But now, after being apart for so long, and with our expecting him to have his visa this month, I am scared to death! The emotional, illogical side of me worries about whether this will work out. If I calm down and think rationally, there is no reason to think that it won't - but I still worry! Did anyone else get nervous when it came close to having your fiance/spouse with you again? I feel like such a heel for feeling this way. I know I love him and that we've always been very happy together. I don't understand why I feel this way.

[Octa 0]

I think its normal...or at least I was the same

[hockeygal 0]

I get scared. We've never lived together or spent more than 10 days together. And lately we've been fighting about stupid things, and it occurred to me that I don't like the way he fights!

So yeah. nervous. I have no idea how the 24/7 thing will pan out.. especially with me being unemployed, which is a stressor at the best of times.

It doesn't mean I don't believe it will turn out well and I am also excited and can't wait to finally be with him all the time. But I am not quitting my job in Canada... just in case. I don't have to, so why not keep it for the 3 months.

[Sister Fracas 5]

I think nervousness is natural... it's a huge, life changing step. Living together for a period of time and making that final step to be with each other for the rest of your lives are two different things.

Cut yourself a break and maybe even bring up these feelings with your husband. He may even have some of the same feelings.

To me, it doesn't mean there isn't confidence in the relationship.

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

I was excited.

To sum it up: Women get scared, guys get excited.

[*Robert* 2]

Nerves and stress are common. Its how you deal with them that determine the outcome. You just have to remember why you're going throug this whole torture, I mean process!

[Marilyn. 340]

I wasn't nervous .... just impatient.... I only had a 3 hour plane ride to get to my hubby but it seemed like it was taking forever

Edited September 7, 2006 by MarilynP

[Fischkoepfin 1]

Getting nervous is normal. Both my husband and I were extremely nervous during our wedding even though we'd lived together for 2 years at that point. And last year, when I finally got my visa, I was nervous as hell about moving together again. But it's all fine.

So, don't worry too much about being nervous. I would be more concerned if you weren't.

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

Nerves and stress are common. Its how you deal with them that determine the outcome. You just have to remember why you're going throug this whole torture, I mean process!

I wasn't nervous .... just impatient.... I only had a 3 hour plane ride to get to my hubby but it seemed like it was taking forever

Damn, there goes my theory.

[Marilyn. 340]

Nerves and stress are common. Its how you deal with them that determine the outcome. You just have to remember why you're going throug this whole torture, I mean process!

I wasn't nervous .... just impatient.... I only had a 3 hour plane ride to get to my hubby but it seemed like it was taking forever

Damn, there goes my theory.

I was going to mention something about that but changed my mind We had spent a lot of time together so i knew what I was getting into and felt no need to be scared or nervous

I was nervous when I was going to first meet him though.... I starting getting nervous as the plane was landing up until I saw him.....

[Sheriff Uling 3]

I think nervousness is natural... it's a huge, life changing step. Living together for a period of time and making that final step to be with each other for the rest of your lives are two different things.

Cut yourself a break and maybe even bring up these feelings with your husband. He may even have some of the same feelings.

To me, it doesn't mean there isn't confidence in the relationship.

I second that... This entire process takes a lot of you. I'm sure if psychologist conducted a study, they would find some traumatic results. Good luck and keep the faith.

Cheers!

Sheriff Uling

[CarolineM 0]

I have to say no. I had spent heaps of time with him and knew he was the one...

i was not nervous at all.

[sharky 2]

I have to say no. I had spent heaps of time with him and knew he was the one...

i was not nervous at all.

nerves are normal

[CarolineM 0]

Did I say they weren't?

[Cristy 4]

Yep I was really nervous and filled with what if's.